He has a child. The child is 2 years old. This does not bother me, what does is that he, the child and the childs mother all live in the same house. He was completely up front with his living situation, and that he is simply there for the child. They agreed to live together for the childs sake. Eventually he says they will live seperately. He can not and will not tell her about me? She has some jealousy issues, although she has been seeing someone else herself for over a year. Is he just looking for some "action" or am i being paranoid.
2007-03-16 14:01:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh and they were never married...
2007-03-16 14:10:35 · update #1
No, you are being taking for a fool. If he is ready to be with you and only you, then he will get on with the proper procedures. What I mean by proper procedures is, get custody rights from the court to see his child and he would either get his own place and start a relationship with you or just be by himself with out her being there. I've been in this certain situation. He had four kids and he traveled back and fourth out of town to be with his kids (or as he says). Now, ask your self what do you think they are doing at night (do they sleep together) if you know what I mean. (We all get tempted) and he's actually been there before so it's not like he's staying or being with someone new. And I'm sure she cooks for him as well. Don't be fool sweetie like I did.
2007-03-16 14:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by Sammy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you accept less than the "whole" guy now, figure on getting less than the whole guy in the future. It is not doing the child a favor for the parents to live together "for the sake of the child". His actions are being controlled by his ex with whom he lives? That's not an ex he's living with, it's his "present".
That's my advice unless you really like having only part of a guy available to you.
2007-03-16 14:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is divorced he shouldn't be keeping you from her and be up front telling her I think he has issues and not her. She shouldn't be jealous but happy for him finding someone in his life and move on. I am not sure your in a good situation hes putting you in the middle. He might be rushing this and needs to move out on his own the child is young later might be even more difficult to do. Do what you feel is right inside you and don't settle for nothing less.
2007-03-16 14:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by wildrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will NEVER leave her.....PLEASE do NOT fall for that old, "living together for the kids sake" line. They are living together as husband and wife. He sleeps with her at night, makes love to her at night....they are married. He is USING you! Get out now!
2007-03-16 14:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a really suspicious story to me. If they are not together he should not have a problem with his ex knowing he is currently involved. Sounds like he may be playing you both. Keep your eyes and ears open.
2007-03-16 14:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would be one of those scenarios where the other woman doesn't know he's married.
You can find someone who would be happy to be with you in public during daylight hours!
2007-03-16 14:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called an affair sweety. Get out of there! he is married and has you for a little something on the side!
2007-03-16 14:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds unusual, he's probably still married. If it was true what he was saying, she would know about you and the "wife" would be fine with it. He's not being truthful to you and unfaithful to his wife...
2007-03-16 14:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by Lana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him and want to be with him, pray about it.
2007-03-16 14:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋