i'm so lonely?

Question

ok, i am sitting here in my university dorm room alone-like i usually do, and i am feeling really lonely-especially since it is a friday night and it seems like everyone has somewhere to go or something to do but me-i don't have many friends and i am just wondering how you make friends-i've never been able to understand it. i am feeling so low and alone right now. can someone help me?

Answer 1

Jesus is with you. Try reading the Bible. It will help

Answer 2

aww.. I KNOW how you feel!!! I went to college last year as a freshman and lived in the dorms... I was all excited that I would meet new people and get better friends. I didn't. The whole year was a disaster socially. I did not meet ONE friend outside of class time. Luckily I had a boyfriend to spend my time with but still, it was depressing and I was REALLY lonely. I felt just like you do... I felt like nobody liked me and I would never meet people... it was sooo depressing. I wasn't even talking to my highschool friends because we had been in a major fight. Eventually I called my highschool friends and started hanging out with them again. I felt much better.. I would suggest calling some highschool friends up and schedule something if possible- even if you don't want to just do it you WONT regret it I promise. I'll tell you also just be super nice in class and smile a lot.... people will be friendly back...if you can try to join a study group- this the THE BEST way to hang out with people outside of class and make friends in college. If anyone ever offers for you to hang out..DO NOT turn them down!! You probably won't feel like going but you must if you want to feel better. Good luck!! and you can e-mail me if you want :)

Answer 3

Hey there!!
I dont have many friends either. And I believe that what matters is not how many friends you have, but whether they are good ones. So dont worry abt not having lots of friends. Its just not practical. :)

There are plenty of people who stay at home during the weekend or on Fridays. That doesnt mean they dont have a life. I love to go out with friends, at the same time, I absolutely love my lone time too.

Make a list of things you want to do. When you have a chance to go out with your friends, make good memories out of it. When you are by yourself, like now, you can always look at your "things to do" list and catch up on pending reading, watching some movies that you have wanted to, our just taking a walk in your neighborhood (if it is safe) Who knows, you may run into an old friend or someone you know, and a new friendship can start! Friends happen naturally.
:)

So cheer up and don't feel bad.
"If winter comes, can spring be far behind?"

Answer 4

You are not a lone at least you can find away out I have no time so am alone and really cant find time do to not be alone what i would do is just go any where were there is a lot of people you will find a way try to not be shy put a smile you will find some thing..Good Luck

Answer 5

Like, you, I simply never got the "knack" of making friendships. I find many/most people to be tedious (at best) and often seek out solitary environments.

You can either own up to the possibility that you are creating a solitary environment for yourself, or you can force yourself to enter public environments where people gather. You can join a campus club, volunteer at a charity organization or hospital, or do any number of things that will help you meet people.

Sitting alone (like I am doing) will only result in more sitting alone. If you're okay with that, then keep going...

Answer 6

College can be Scary! Trust me I graduated not too long ago and remember having nights where you feel so alone-- even though there are tons of people on your campus. My recommendation is to go the school website and check out their community board or listing for campus activities. Many universitys have clubs and events going on every night of the week. The key is to find what you are intrested in and check those things out. You will be amazed at how many clubs your school has to offer and it is a great way to meet people who share common interests with you.

Answer 7

I had the same problem in University myself. My first year away from home I got really depressed, but not so much that I did anything foolish, although I did fail half my courses. I did have a few friends - people I had gone to school with in my home town - and that helped, but they were often busy when I needed someone to hang out with. To get friends, you have to put yourself out there a little bit - join a club, volunteer to help someone in need, break the ice at a library study table when the person next to you seems to be off in space, be the first one to say something to the person next to you in line at the cafeteria, things like that. Don't expect instant success; keep trying. Good luck.

Answer 8

the best way i know how is to get out and socialize and find a couple of decent people to be friendly with. it is ok to be shy but guess what ! you're not going to make any friends by sitting in front of the computer right now. there are plenty of opportuniites to make friends at school. you just have to put a little bit of effort into it. just like anything in life.

shut the stupid machine off and go out and join a club or something and have some fun.

Answer 9

go down to your local coffee shop, order a coffee and read a book while drinking it. On the table you are sitting at, have a note propped up "Looking For Friends" It will get someones attention and you will hopefully make new friends. A little bizarre perhaps, but you won't find ANYbody if you are just sitting around alone in your dorm room.

Answer 10

"to have friends you must be a friend." yeah, well, it ain't so easy, is it? well, think about your interests. lacrosse, tennis, sports. meet people with similar interests. you'll make friends in no time. if it doesnt work, get a boyfriend. i'm sure that at your university there must be some guy with hots for you or some guy you have hots for. go for it! and if you don't, do the same thing: find people with similar interests. and you do have a life off-campus...u could go shopping and meet some peeps there. ur not helpless. get off your butt and meet some people! or, the alernative:
finish college and then go live in the Himalayas as a hermit.

Answer 11

many people in the same situation. I am an immigrant my self and found it hard to connect and make Friends as well. here is my experience, I go to the neighborhood public library in Saturdays morning about two blocks from home. they always post events, book signing, and have small reading clubs. I joined ESL class on Saturday morning till afternoon. At least- I have got to know and be acquainted with two students, and get to know the teachers (the moderators) of the ESL class.
best of luck
cheers,
K