My best friend, Casey, just got a new boyfriend. She's always been a little insecure about her body, so I think that she feels like no one else besides this guy will like her, which I know is not true. But she doesn't want to lose him. They've been going out for three days and he already felt her up. She didn't say anything about it or try to stop him because she doesn't want him to leave. I'm afraid that she'll do something she'll regret or let him go too far because she doesn't want him to break up with her. She's only in eighth grade. How do I help her to say no? How can I tell her that she doesn't have to put up with that? I'm so worried. Please help if you can.
2007-03-16 13:52:00 · 5 answers · asked by Ashley G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If she really has self esteem issues then you are right, she'll let this guy do anything so he won't break up with her. But at her age he'll most likely get what he wants from her & then dump her anyway.
You need to try to make her understand that he is just using her, that he's taking advantage of her low self esteem.
2007-03-16 13:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a girl is never easy. Being an adolescent girl is even harder. In past experiences with this type of situation I have found it best to be up front with your friend. Let her know that you love her and do not want anything bad to happen to her. Remind her that she is only in 8th grade and has her whole life ahead of her to meet guys. Also it is more effective to lead by example, invite her to places with other couples- let her see that not everyone is just about the physical. Also, to work on her self esteem-- compliment her when she looks nice. Make sure she knows when a certain color brings out her eyes, or if she wears a nice perfume, etc. If she starts to feel more comfortable with herself then she will start to realize that she is way too important to let a new guy have his way with her.
2007-03-16 21:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Don't tell her that he is only using her for certain reasons, that could seriously harm her self-esteem. Instead talk to her about abstinence and waiting till your in love. Ask her if she loves him. She will most likely say yes but ask her why, make her think about the situation. Talk to her about the consequences that comes with sex show her victims of std's. Tell her that she is to young, and you just want to protect her.
P.S. as a friend give her a compliment at least once a day. in the end the choice is hers.
2007-03-16 21:11:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to dump him, and not worry about boys! 8th grade is to young for a girl to think she has to have boyfriend. Try and convince her that she doesn't need one, and that she'll be happier single.
2007-03-16 21:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by blueruble 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i no it's hard. i was always the meddler in my friends' affairs. well, she's an independent, and she'll make her own choices. just let it go by. if you poke your nose in you'll make it worse. i'm pretty sure they'll break up sooner or later, so just be there for her when she's sad. but let her make her own choices about this guy.
2007-03-16 21:02:45 · answer #5 · answered by vanessahudgensfan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋