When I first met George, I was dating his friend Alex, but me & George hit it off and became good friends. About a year later, Alex and I broke up and I decided to give George a chance. I was George's first girlfriend, and he lost his virginity to me. It didn't work out between us tho & we decided we were better off as friends. Then, me & Alex got back together, but me & George stayed best friends. Alex and I are now engaged, but George is still single & it's obvious that he's still in love with me. It's getting more and more awkward for the 3 of us to hang out, and I know George is still holding out hope of me & him getting back together. I've told him a million times that I only see him as a friend, but he doesn't seem to get it. I really value his friendship, and I don't want to lose him as a friend. People have said that I should not hang out with George anymore, but he's really depressed and says that his friends are the only thing keeping him from giving up on life. Plz help me!
2007-03-16 13:49:28 · 9 answers · asked by Happy go Lucky 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't want to leave Alex or anything like that, I'm very much in love with him. It's just that George won't let go of his feelings for me, and I'm worried that if I back off the friendship, George will do something stupid.
2007-03-16 13:57:05 · update #1
Yes Alex knows that me & George once had sex. George told him... Alex wasn't thrilled at the time, but he's gotten past it.
2007-03-16 13:59:29 · update #2
George is about to start counseling in a few weeks. I'm not worried about what he "might" do, cuz every time he gets drunk he cries over the fact that he can't be with me. He's talked about suicide before, and says his friends are the only thing keeping him from doing it. Then he said the other night that I'm the only real friend he has left.
2007-03-16 14:07:05 · update #3
Talk to him honestly and seriously, if he's your best friend he should listen. Tell him how you feel in your position, and try to hook him up with a nice girl.
2007-03-16 13:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is the very reason that I always advise my daughter to not date people that are friends...............this is a very sticky topic and to be honest no real solution IMO but for at least you to back out of he group thingy where George is involved........I have to ask does Alex know about you and he having a sexual relationship? as if Alex does not then trust me George WILL tell Alex and it will not sound good coming from him.
So really there can be no "3" of you just Alex and him can hang out a bit and encourage George to spread out with other friends otherwise this WILL start to infringe on your up coming marriage...............
Regards and good luck, really dont see any nice way out of this even tho I know you are trying to find that solution for all concerned
2007-03-16 20:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by candy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell Alex and don't talk to much to george because if you do you will keep making him think you like him and that won't make anything better.
2007-03-16 20:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jibjab 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're a s*l*u*t. If I were Alex I wouldn't take you back after my friend gave you the bone. You should tell Alex you boned his friend, he might break off the wedding. It's better than telling him 5 or 10 yrs. from now, then again his buddy might eventually tell him. If he already knows, it still won't work. Sorry but you're in for some problems. This marriage won't last. Honesty hurts sometimes. You shoulda kept them panties on
2007-03-16 21:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
id say you need to take a break from hanging out. Dont throw away the friendshhip. just take a break from hanging out. He cant and wont move on when you still hang out together.
2007-03-16 20:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by vindezeal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well sounds really complicated idk i stay stick w/alex, because u dont want to lose him and since u guys r engaged obviously u like him betta and mayb u and alex can try to hook George up w/someone
2007-03-16 20:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by Crazygrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats what happens when you date your boyfriends friends. Try to keep the dating outside your friend circle.
2007-03-16 20:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by Jersey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just hope that when you get married, george will realize that he has to find someone else
2007-03-16 20:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by the common cold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok..he is probably still in love with you because he lost his virginity to you, he'll get over it!
2007-03-16 21:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋