help how can she breakup with him?

Question

my girl friend of 3.5 years broke up with me 3 months ago.she started to see someone else right away.now we are talking and would like to get back together.but she don't know how to end the relationship she in now..she said she doesn't want to hurt his feelings.and waiting for the right time...(when he screws up again).....how can she get out of that relationship before more time passes and his feelings will be hurt.i feel like the fall back to guy.she say im in her heart for marriage.
we do talk ,i do see her once a week.everything looks promising then when the weekend rolls around she disappears...she treats me like,if the relationship shes in now doesn't work i will take you back
i have told her to end it as soon as possible,before to much time goes by and he wont be so hurt...she says its too late for that?/??

i asked her to breakup with him if she realy loves me.heres her reply:You know David, it seems the more I let u in on thingsthe more crazy u act sometimes. That Email was the
old, bossy, know how everyone feels as predicted by
David. U were freaking out AGAIN. U knew my plans &
were afraid that we were going 2 do something (which I
will no longer tell u so I don't have to get those
kind of letters.) Don't blame it on the meds, u chose
2 act & say those mean things 2 me. Atleast I can take
the consequences of my actions & what comes out of my
mouth as taking responsibility. Ur always looking 2
blame ur behavior on something, like CODEPEDENCY. Why
do u think Khol is steering u away from that? At some
time u have 2 start taking respons. 4 what comes out
of ur mouth. I have 2 say when u act like this I want
& need 2 distance myself away from u because u scare
me sometimes. U act like u could crack anytime &
that's not appealing 2 me. That letter was a master of
manipulation & if that's th

U act like u could crack anytime &
that's not appealing 2 me. That letter was a master of
manipulation & if that's the way u felt so be it, but
u have 2 remember something...if u wouldn't have
screwed things up so much we wouldn't b passing words
like this. I need 2 distance myself from alot of
things & after that letter I c that I have 2 do the
same w/ u because u will continue 2 go & act crazy. I
will no longer write or tell u things until I can get
my head screwed on right w/ counseling. Take care.

Answer 1

David,David, David. Another question on the posting asks "am I a stupid monkey". Did you ask that question as well? Here's the way it is. If she wanted to be back with you she would drop him like a hot potato. Ask her to break up now, or you're moving on. You'll find out pretty quickly whether she' serious about getting back with you. By the way, if I were you I'd put on my walking shoes before I even asked the question.

Answer 2

David, please stop being a donkey! And I mean this in the nicest way, this person is using you. if she wanted to end it with the other man she would have. Think about it, after 3 and a half years she had no problem with kicking you to the curb and hooking up with someone else on a dime, so what makes it so difficult for her all of a sudden. Wasn't she concerned about how you felt when she dumped you? But she did anyway!
You know you are being played and I don't think you should allow her to toy with your emotions anymore, tell her you'd rather be a recovering donkey than to stay a donkey in the relationship. Get to stepping with your pride in tacked, you are a man after all, and shouldn't allow anyone to treat you this way. Good luck

Answer 3

I Think you need to wake up this girl is playing you if she intended to be with you and marry possibly she would have no problem doing the right thing she I feel is playing you both to find out which one will do what she wants to do. You need to say if you love me tell him the truth and quit putting if off if she still keeps you going end it and find someone that does really love you and care about you do deserve someone better then this. good luck!

Answer 4

Shes just a player she wants u maybe becuz theirs something u have that he doesnt (she could juz tell her bf that things arent working out) if she doesnt want to that means she just want both of u to seccure her relationship like if he breaks up with her she could go back to u,next thing u know she sees someone else and wont care about ur feelings.

Answer 5

She found it easy enough to break up with you. She hasn't done it because she doesn't want to. She is stringing you along. Let her know you will not be her back up plan. Either she wants you or she doesn't. No offence, but it sounds like you'd be better off without her. Maybe you should start dating again. Whatever you decide, good luck. Don't let her use you.

Answer 6

She has to break up with this guy right away and she has to tell him the truth! Or you'll be going to the movies with your girl and that guy will be in the back row watching your every move. Don't worry about his feelings! Make your girl do it now!!!

Answer 7

David. MOVE ON. She's keeping you on a string. You are the fall back guy. Walk away now so you can move on with your life.