Myself and my partner are 38. He is kind, gentle, caring, and good looking. He has the 3 qualities I wanted: eg does not drink, smoke or swears; he is a nice boy. We hug lots.
We've been together 2 years and lived together for 8 months. When we moved in together I expected our sex life TO BEGIN BUT IT DIED. WE HAVE NEVER HAD 'FULL SEX' but had great touching before we lived together. At bedtime my partner just nods off within seconds of hitting the bed. I give many hits of my sex desire but get no response or am told 'I'm just so tired.' I find it hard to talk about this with him. I do love him so much though.
2007-03-16 13:35:15 · 8 answers · asked by pinky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Are we married to the same guy? Only joking. I am in a similar situation only we did have sex first 3 years we were together, then it vanished gradually. It sounds like your husband has a problem (it could be physical or psychological, could be he overdoes with pornography?)and does not want to open up to talk about it or sort it out. Been there. You need to talk to him and find the right kind words to encourage him to discuss this issue with you. If you fail to get him to talk, then you need to go (the two of you) to the counsellor. The sooner the better if you don't want to end up like me - 3 years in a sexless marriage now. Sometimes I wake up in the morning and feel so lonely because all the effort to make this relationship work, I ended up in the situation where my own husband rejects me on such a deep level. No one should have to go through this. Be selfish and look after yourself, hon, life is short.
2007-03-16 13:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by Alyssa Macey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There could be a lot of reasons... maybe he is secretly gay ( no offense, just checking) or maybe he feels like the relationship is just a routine (aka boredom) so spice things up a bit, do something he wouldn't expect you to do, start "playing" w/ him in the morning when he is still sleeping, if you get no response be aggressive and take control, sometimes that's all a guy needs is a little kick in the butt! ....Or tell the man to take a nap b/c you have plans for later...And If you try some things and nothing works then you need to talk to him, tell him you have needs and he is being selfish! Then Leave this loser and find a man who can get the job done, it's not hard!
2007-03-16 20:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by chellstar7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep aasking. No affence, but it's rather strange for a guy not to want sex. Usually that's all men want! Good luck, X.
2007-03-16 20:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by anything2getin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he has a "problem" that he's embarrassed about. Maybe he's affraid he'll lose you if you know. Do you know if he masturbates? I've known men with addictions to porn that can not have "normal" sexualy relations with the women they love becuase "normal" doesn't do the trick anymore.
2007-03-16 20:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by bams29again 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it when he's awake, outside of the bedroom. If he's a "nice boy", it may just be that he's saving himself for marriage, at least I hope so for your sake. Good luck!
2007-03-16 20:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by Happy go Lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of three things is happening here, either he is getting it elsewhere or he is not into sex or not into you. You decide.
2007-03-16 20:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by DEE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that.s why thy say try before you buy.see if you can get him help.rent a movie that may wake him up.
2007-03-16 20:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GAY in denial
2007-03-16 20:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by Maka 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋