Anyone have a secret love? Someone who you truly love and respect and love to spend time with, but you can never tell that person how you really feel because you are married and he is married with children and you would not do that to your spouse or his family?
2007-03-16 13:27:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. I love my husband and it's not a secret. You should not be spending time with this person. It will wreck two homes, two families, two marriages... Your responsibilities are to your husband. His are to is wife and children.
2007-03-16 13:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage must be going down hill for you to look at another person. The only way a person would have a secret love is if there is something missing in the relationship at home. If you two really love each other and both in a relationship than you both need to talk about what's going to happen. It's not a good idea to stay in a marriage and your unhappy with your spouse.
2007-03-16 20:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by Theresa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I married my husband, it automatically put up a boundary around my heart and mind. I dont allow myself to look at a man that way. Sure, I can notice if he is attractive or nice, but I do not dwell on it. My husband is everything that I want and need. I could never betray him like that, even in my mind. Wouldnt you be hurt if you were in your husbands shoes? Why is your heart open to even having these feelings? Perhaps you were not ready for marriage. We all experience difficulties, but its sad to think that you are capable of feeling that deeply about someone. Personally, I would rather have my husband have meaningless sex with another woman than have him be in LOVE with another woman! physical betrayal is one thing, emotional betrayal is a whole different kind of horrible. I hope you can work through this.
2007-03-16 20:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by Bomb_chele 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh sadly yes. Only I don't think he loves me back, in fact I never even have the pleasure of his company. In truth it is sad to me... because the only thing that I want is for him to be happy (my husband actually knows, it happened years and years ago.) I love my husband too but he is more like a really close friend. The other person is just there, and I just love him and that is that. There is nothing to be done, and nothing to be said. When one can not have what one wants, you have just got to settle for what you have... YOU have your husband, as do I, as do us all. It is my belief that we all settle, there is nothing perfect in this world.
Also I have read the other comments, and I would have to say I agree with them about not speaking to this person again. I haven't. And I will not. Be grateful for what god gave you. Know that you love both and let the one who is not your husband go.
I have just gone and read your previous questions... You and your husband aren't on the same level hun. I would say to accept the enevitable - you don't love him and he treats you like ****. My husband is very kind, he plays with our kids and really tries to make us all happy, occasionally he notices that I am not always happy, but the blame is my own, and I know he knows this.
2007-03-16 20:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by MARE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have been in that situation. The only way for your to live your life is to stop talking to this person. I sympathize with you, this is a difficult situation, but if you really don't want to break up your family then you need to stay away.
Best of luck to you.
2007-03-16 22:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I don't have a secret love, because I went before God and my family and friends and proclaimed my love to my husband, forsaking all others ring a bell?
2007-03-16 20:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by Vegas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are involved in this - STOP NOW!
Remember the tried and true saying, "What you think about; you will do. What you do; you will become."
To trespass into adultery is the path of hurt and frustration and fear for you, him, and your families.
Do not elevate your sinful thoughts into secret special love.
It is silly, childish, selfish, and stupid. Find something useful to do.
2007-03-16 21:04:49 · answer #7 · answered by kitchenheatindex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I'm married with kids and I know alot of women feel that way about me because I am so sexy and charming. So, yes believe me he knows.. Just respect the boundaries.
2007-03-16 20:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh please another home wrecker well guess what sweetie it better not be my husband! u are triffling and if you had any morals you would stop what ur doing although the marriage was already torn before you, it jus makes it worse that instead of you telling this man you cant see him or he shouldnt see you , you jus gon make matteres worse. please i hope and pray this is my husband ur sleeping with cuz if i found out some crap like that all the killing going on in iraq wont have nothing on me!!!! no that you dirty lil tramp and tell him i hope his wife finds out an cut off his d**k
2007-03-16 20:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by mcutiegirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Am I that secret love?
2007-03-16 20:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by Pink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋