Well,I feel like he doesnt,anyway. I am 32 we have been married 13 yrs. (yes, we married when we were 19 & 20) He doesnt talk to me much. I try to talk to him about stuff we used to talk about but he doesnt seem interested in me. He works 12 hour swing shifts, has high blood pressure, a Brand-new truck we built a house on 6 acres, our kids are 9 and 11, we are not sunk in dept and everything seems like we have the perfect life. I am 5'7 146 pounds , am an attractive lady, (that loves sex I might add) but he just acts like I am not around!! He comes in from work....eats a home-cooked supper,in a clean home,I do his laundry ,fix his drinks, wash my own car,and he always has the remote. I dont spend all of our money,he just comes home eats dinner, tucks the kids in and watches t.v. then goes to bed!!! What is wrong with this picture? What does your women do that makes ya'll not want to talk to her?? I need some attention from my husband! How can I get some appreciation? Help me please!
2007-03-16 13:24:44 · 24 answers · asked by HappyGirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hey, think about it.... i've done the 70+ hours a week thing..... after a while it's like i'm a "zombie" and my (ex) wife couldn't understand why i didn't have an intrest in her ... although she never did the things for me as you say you do for your hubby... it can get to the point where you feel more like a "machine" then a person..... for me now all those things have passed, kids are grown, ex is long gone and i'm taking a new approach to where i can take my life!..... when i was in that situation my garage was my "haven" i was always trying to keep my "toys" in good condition.... looking back i can see my shortcomings and my ex's as well .....remember.... it takes two to tango..... give and take can run ramptant especially after the years of marrage have gone by.... communication is the key! no secrets, no remorse.... ..... kissing his a** is not the answer here i believe..... so sit his butt down and ask him what's up!.... if you get a negative response it may be a "something on the side" type thing.... been there done that... so when i read your question i could actually say that i know where you're coming from....not sure if this answer will help you with your situation but, i don't think it will make it any worse..... good luck......... rocky
2007-03-16 13:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by rockythecoolcat 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you guys go through the same "routine" everyday and your relationship ad marriage needs alittle freshening up. After the kids are in bed, hi watching tv, you slip into something very revealing and very sexy, and role play with him, be aggressive, make him see you, and if he doesn't give you attention with the sexy lingere on, than he needs viagra, or he does have someone else, or he is just plain tired.
OR
one weekend, get a hotel room, getaway, even if you guys are still in the city, just get out of the house, live the kids with the grandparents fo the nite. Cancel all plans, and take a bottle of your favorite champaign, chocolates...anything you guys would do when you were dating---oh don't forget the sexy, barely covering anything lingere.
Trust me--your marriage probably just needs a change in routine, spice it up a little, make it see you, be alittle aggressive....Show him that you still have it in you. Spicen up your sex life as well, get some karma sutra dvds, (not porn) try somethings.....theres alotta things you can do.
In the morning, give him some "breakfast in bed" start his day off, with you on his mind, and he'll be looking forward for "dinner" after work......catch my drift....
2007-03-16 13:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by Nulz 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Working 12 hour shifts and having high blood pressure can have effects on a person to the point where all they want to do is sit and sleep. Take him to the doctor for a check up and make changes in life.
2007-03-16 13:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking about the things you use to talk about it gets old. Fined something new you and him will enjoy together probably some kind of guy stuff like build a hot rod from some old used car if he gets into that guys like woman that do things like that and let him take charge of the project be one of his guys his best friend
2007-03-16 13:43:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to your husband it seems like you've got it made to me you said he works 12 hour shifts he is pro bally tired to pay much attention you have everything you should be happy hes with you and y'all got a house you and he built children some dads don't tuck their kids in i was raised with out my dad you are one lucky women and don't know it stop complaining and thank god for your family do you love your husband?you didn't say .he has high blood pressure i do too it makes you feel bad at times
2007-03-16 13:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look for the book "The Challenge of Being a Wife" by Ruth E. Hazelwood. My marrage was very much like this after just 3 years. I read this book and after 2 months my husband looks at me the way he used to.
Good luck!!!!
2007-03-16 13:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by princess_bluerose 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop revolving your whole life around him. Get a life outside the home. Volunteer or get a job you enjoy. Go to the gym, get a hobby, live for yourself instead of your husband. Don't give him so much attention.
2007-03-16 14:14:12 · answer #7 · answered by Lana 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know I'm not a man, but I might have an idea as to why your husband doesn't like to spend time with you...Do you appreciate him? Do you show him any kind of respect or affection that you used to show him when you first got together? My husband separated from me because I wasn't very respectful to him, showed him zero affection or appreciation, and didn't show interest in anything he did. You might want to change your attitude and start doing these things. I dare you to try it and see what happens...He'll return the favor and you two can make it a lifelong "habit." You are noticing the problem, so make an effort to do something about it now before you two end up in divorce court. Email me if you'd like, but good luck! :)
2007-03-16 13:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Like many relationships, yours seems to be pettering out (from my point of view). Have you ever seen a couple who don't really seem to love each other? Like they just live together, as though its a law, something they're forced to do, like children go to school? My parents are a little like that.
Anyway, you really need to show that you love him, and always act like it. I suggest you be really sincere, and try to talk with him.
2007-03-16 13:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by Kass 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let him know that you feel this way. Maybe he's just tired from work or stressed because you are so far in debt. You won't find out what your husband is thinking on Yahoo.
2007-03-16 13:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋