i have been with my husband for 4 years and now we have to seperate. it is so hard we have a 1 yr old and a 2 year old and i am 3 months pregnant. all he did was want to stay on the comp. and stay out abuse me and i never did anyting but want to be happy with him. I don't know what to do
2007-03-16 13:16:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sweetie go out pregnant and all get you a new personality and new lease on life this is time to survive for you and your kids. dont take that man back think about your kids they may not see you get beat up but they know kids can feel when mommy is not happy you want them to see you weak and beat up the rest of your life ? for all you know one day he might kill you or all ya'll . get out while the gettin is good get far from him get on with your life and never turn back if you do your putting them and you in danger! dont be no fool you'll get over it ! know one ever said it would be easy!
2007-03-16 13:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by mcutiegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that your focus determines your reality.
And also be honest enough to admit that it is also your fault as well that the relationship didn t work out.
It takes two to seperate . I know, ive been there.
You both were working on your relationship when you first dated, wether you know it or not.
And wether you know it or not, you both are not working on it anymore . Interest is gone.
So either decide now that you too were at fault, and its time to move on and stay honest in life this time. For doing so you will be aware of the warnings of danger in the future of what you dont want.
make a full decision on what you want with people. don t change your mind after you r decision is made.
This is why you must take your time with all decisions.
2007-03-16 13:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by Aaron M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need some "self love". It really sounds like you don't think very highly of yourself. Why would you subject yourself to a life of abuse?
Keep in mind that it is very rare that this man will change for the better.
Be thankful that you are separating and you have the opportunity to make yourself complete. You deserve more than what this man is capable of giving you. Be positive and all will work itself out in due time.
Take Care...
2007-03-16 13:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all he did was want to stay on the computer, stay out and abuse you. You have to leave him. You will be better off without him. Find a guy that cares for you and not one that ignores you. Good Luck!
2007-03-16 13:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by mary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its best for u to seperate. you have three kids to think about and your husband doesnt sound like much of a role model, you will be just fine with time you will see things are better without him, sure there will be a gap in your life so fill it i no its difficult to get about with kids so invite freinds to your home for tes or coffe or to play with your kids, dont go back to this pig until he tells u he is sorry for disrespecting you and the family you are trying to raise. good on you for getting out. u will never be happy in a relationship like this.
2007-03-16 13:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by alroka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you say this man abuses you..ok...thats not good...would you want you children in the same position???having a man abuse them use them and walk all over them...maybe you feel like you need him because your pregnant and are afraid to be alone....If he treats you like that you deserve better for you and your children ...think about it your better off without him and all the hassle...
Remember to think about your children before him, they need you more~
Keep your head up~
2007-03-16 13:23:40 · answer #6 · answered by **Mishelly** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go he obviously isn't happy or making you happy if he just wants to sit at the computer or you could smash the computer then he won't be able to get on it anymore and it will save your marriage.
2007-03-16 13:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom divorced my dad which gave her the opp to meet her new husband she had three kids too don't be afraid pray and be strong whatever you decide
2007-03-16 13:25:53 · answer #8 · answered by Diva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if hes that bad to you .may be your better off with out him. start out with a new life. its going to kill him when he finds out what he is going to pay you support. and for the kids to.if he wants out then let him go.you can try to talk to him and try to make it work
2007-03-16 14:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear, man it will be tough , but if you have family members and friends these will be your support system to go ahead. Love yourself dearly , it will be tough, but you will survive and a right guy for you will be discovered
2007-03-16 13:26:09 · answer #10 · answered by Confused 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋