Hi, I am 14 and am a freshmen in high school. I have a boyfriend of 2 years and we are together all the time. We have hugged and kissed and madeout so one day we were just fooling around. Then one thing led to another and here I sm 2 days after and my life has changed. He didn't wear a condom so I had to take the test. I haven't told my mom yet. I have only told my best friend for life. I think it would be easier to talk to my school counsler before I talk to my mom but i am so confused. I am going to do adoption or abortion but I am leaning towards adoption. Anything advice would help!!
2007-03-16 13:06:49 · 25 answers · asked by syddbabe<3 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell your mom thats the best thing you can do to save your skin. Let her guide you or else she will feel guilty for whatever happened to you. I know its easier said than done but mark my words the further you delay. The more its a problem for you. Make the courage and please ask forgiveness. Don't resort to anything foolish
2007-03-16 13:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by Bacti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm kinda confused. Are you pregnant or is there a possibility that you could be?
Anyway, You made a mistake ( I know how easy things can happen). You need to learn from your mistakes and think before you have sex again. Wait and don't let yourself be put into the situation that can lead to possible sex.
Consider adoption. Your are only 14 and if you have an abortion it is a decision that you will have to live with for the rest of your life. Give your baby a chance at life.
You will need to tell your mom sometime. This is not something that can be hidden for long. You will need prenatal care for you and your baby.
2007-03-16 20:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by SAMMY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take this the wrong way, but pregnancy is the least of your worries at the moment. I'd be more concerned about contracting a disease. Don't get too far ahead of yourself. Go see a doctor as soon as you can - your life and your health are the most important things right now. I don't need to tell you how foolish you were - you already know that, but asking this kind of question in a place like this, you're opening yourself up to some harsh realities. I think alot of people are getting pissed off with irresponsible teenagers. Don't they teach you sex ed. in school? Don't you know the dangers of unprotected sex?
2007-03-16 20:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by Nickie C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hope you can talk to your mother. And know that abortion is the best option for you at this time in your life. Because you have discovered the pregnancy early, there is time to go through with a safe abortion. I don't believe in abortion other than in the first few weeks.
Adoption seems cruel...to the child who will always wonder who his/her mother is. Early abortion is the best for everyone concerned.
Let's pray that this experience has been a great teacher for you and that it will not happen again.
2007-03-16 21:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by slsunfrog 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it seems like the nd of the world i know but its not.i had my daughter when i was 14 and although you do have to make a lot of sacrifices its been worth it i have no regrets.when i found i was pregnant i was devestated and hid my preg until the 8th month. i brought my daughter up alone and have no one to thank but myself and reckon i have done a good enough job. my mom was okay about it she dissapproved but i refused to go through adoption and the other doesnt bare thinking about. you could be okay raising a child can be rewarding i no u are young but youy have this little person growin inside u who deserves to have her mom. i would advise against adoption because you will feel guilty every day of your life and dont even consider abortion, have your baby abd bring her up and you will see everything happens for a reason. let your boyfriend do as he wants if hes good enough he ll stick by you if he doesnt well then he doesnt deserve you. maybe your parents wont be as freaked out as you think they will be
2007-03-16 20:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by alroka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
adoption and abortion are very difficult to deal with
have you told your boyfriend? the father should know especially if he loves you
adoption is complicated and i think it requires that your parents sign papers and all of that stuff
abortion can make you regret it. in some states, it only requires that your parents KNOW but not permission, others ask for different things. in texas, only one parent needs to KNOW but permission isn't required as i said earlier.
this site will help you about abortion
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Special:Search?search=abortion
i suggest that you tell your mom first, she will try to console you and will probably understand. she will try to calm your dad before he knows or it could be the other way around, depending on whose more understanding
either way your parents will try to help you find the right way
btw adoption agencies are good, but the child will go through a lot of bad experiences and might go through things that you wouldn't be able to handle, but that doesn't always happen, i just thought you might wanna know
2007-03-16 20:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother.
If you have and keep a baby now, your life is over. Your opportunities and choices about the future will be severely limited. You will miss out on many experiences. You will be old before you've had a chance to live. Forget about college, forget about an unemcumbered marriage, forget about travel, forget about a career, forget about having being financially stable, forget about being independent, forget about just about everything except being a parent. Babies are cute, but they sure don't stay that way.
Adoption is a good alternative. It's your body, your life, and your future. Get some advice from adults, but you get to decide this for yourself. Good luck.
2007-03-16 20:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by tofu eater 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all are you pregnant? have you tested yet cause i really didn't understand if you have or not... but if you are i know it will be tough. when i was 20 i got pregnant and i was terryfied to tell my mom! i can imagine how you feel. but you need to make sure you are infact pregnant. if not don't worry about and don't ever do what you did again!! (not using protection) but if you are the first thing you need to do is talk to your mom because she is the only one who can actually help you. remember, you are still a kid! and if you are i wouldn't advice you to have an abortion.... that;s murder.. and honestly i wont lie i did think about doing it too but i didn't because i didn't want to kill my own kid (even though it wasn't formed yet) later on i lost it so it was no big deal after all but really think about it and like i said talk to your mom!!! she has to be there for you! she's your mom!
2007-03-16 20:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by gaby5 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I always say that abortion isn't birth control. First get it confirmed that you are indeed pregnant. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your mom yet, GO TO PLANNED PARENTHOOD. They will offer you medical advice and care no matter what. You pay what you can based on your income. You need support no matter what your decision is.
2007-03-16 20:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by erin c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I'm seriously questioning your story as you stated that it was only 2 days ago that y'all had sex and you've already gotten a +hpt. It takes longer than that for the HCG to build up enough to get a +.
Get another HPT. I think you got a false positive. It happens.
2007-03-16 20:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by thisbattymom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋