I have a friend who whrere pretty good friends I guees but repeatidly does stuff that makes me mad, upset, or even just plain out hurt. I dont know how to talk to them about it with them getting mad at me and saying I'm overreacting and then I have to apoligise to them but I also dont want this to ruin our friendship. I am realy shy when It comes ot confronting people and cuasing problums.
2007-03-16 12:50:58 · 7 answers · asked by Micro spice 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Maybe she isnt a true frined if she repaetidly does things to make you mad.If she gets mad at you for telling her whats shes doing wrong it is either by the way your saying it or she doesnt like to be told what shes doing wrong.If she says your overreacting then shes probably trying to blame the whole thing on you, when she knows its really her fought.Just dont let her get to you.Dont apolojice when you know its her that should be the one apolojicing.Dont be shy, you need to tell her what you bothered you immediatley.If you wait to long her excuse will be "I dont know what youre talking about, i cant remember"!Just be confident and dont let her get to you. i hope this helps...good luck.
2007-03-16 13:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who is the exact same way, and who did that sort of stuff for YEARS, we're talking from 2nd grade all the way untill 8th grade! So, she now is my best friend, here's how WE worked it out... I planned a sleepover (its amazing how such a simple thing means so much!) we had a ton, of fun, then as we were talking, I said, very kindly, something along the lines of "You know, sometimes you say things that seem a little rude or even hurt my feelings, and maybe I'm just sensitive, but I love you as a friend, and I want us to stay Great friends, because you are an awesome person, but I don't want to hang out with someone who is going to hurt my feelings." If she doesn't take it to heart, then she's probobly not a very good friend, but if she tries to change (key word TRIES because sometimes she might say something not thinking, or she doesn't realize it hurts you.) then she's a good friend worth keeping :) Hope this helps :)
2007-03-16 13:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by CrAzY4ChRiSt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with them and flat out tell them that they are hurting you. It will be tough to do, but you have to do it. A friend of mine had the same problem, and she found me and I helped her overcome it. Maybe you could find someone that has similar ideas and interests that would help you get through this.
2007-03-16 13:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by TragicLoveEnding 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends who are true friends don't do things to hurt their friends deliberately, so maybe a mistake occasionally here or there, but to do things to hurt you repeatedly is definitely not on. Do yourself a favour and find some real friends.
2007-03-16 13:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say that they better act differently because it is bothering you!
2007-03-16 12:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them don't get scared
2007-03-16 13:05:26 · answer #6 · answered by maysa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spell check?
2007-03-17 14:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by jazzychica007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋