I have a friend that has kids and is married. Her and her husband constantly fight and in the last year or so she has found an old friend and she has really fallen for him. She has been a stay at home mom for some time now and has been looking for a job so she has a way of supporting her and her kids. She really does want to get divorced but all at the same time scared she has never been alone really. What advice would you have for her? How would be the best way for her to bring up divorce without hurting everyone. she just isn't happy anymore.
2007-03-16 12:24:47 · 11 answers · asked by sabrina_you_shy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your friend should try to stick to her marriage vows. Every one has ruts in their marriage. It takes time to get over it. You can't always have good times. And there is no way to bring up divorce without hurting everyone. It sounds to me like she is being selfish.
2007-03-16 12:30:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If shes not happy then she needs to get a divorce its not as bad as you think about being alone she will need to get a job and she will not be alone because she will have her kids and maybe she can work out an arrangement with her husband about keeping the kids while she works to support them, if he can't keep them maybe you can have family members keep them. She just needs to tell her husband that she is not happy and that she wants to separate and see what happens and if things are still the same way all she will have to do is tell him that she wants a divorce.
2007-03-16 19:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings and don't want anyone taking it the wrong way or you don't want anyone to get mad. Well tell her to stay there. But if she really wants a divorce the first thing to do is sit down with the husband and tell him if things don't change she will get a divorce. But first instead of just jumping into a divorce just separate and see how things go then if need be get one. But you ahve to tell the husband no matter what because maybe talkignw ith him he might change and if he's get all worked up divorce him and leave his *** on the street.
2007-03-16 19:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she isnt happy go ahead an leave, you cant live your life afraid, even if you have children... They will be better off if you are happy. Dont rely on this guy that she has fallen for, thats only for the attention or lack of other things that she isnt getting from her hubby. Tell her to step back and re-evaluate the situation with her husband and work it out if possible before starting to think about some other guy. Trying isnt a waste of time... In the end she will know what's right for herself and what will make her happy. Good luck .
2007-03-16 19:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by Leslie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she opts for divorce she needs to think about the kids first. How will it impact them? Who will get custody? Where will she live and will the kids be with her or her ex? There's many more things she needs to consider too. It's scary at first being alone, but in my opinion it's great in the long run especially if she's miserable now. There is no way of avoiding hurting someone.
2007-03-16 19:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by Patience 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope she and her husband have tried counseling and talking about her need for some excitement and/or different challenges in her life. Her 'falling hard' for her old friend could easily be the fresh 'air' he is bringing just by being something different than her static and boring life. Without at least giving marriage counseling a fair shot she is being unfair to the kids (who always suffer in a divorce) and potentially to her husband who may have a few surprises in him at this late stage of the game.
2007-03-17 03:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by ptery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just going to have to let the person know that you're not have the same feeling as before. He must know the truth about how she feels in other for them to move on. I've been through a divorce before and no matter how you try to make it calm and pleasent, it's going to be ugly. Going through a divorce is awful but thats what its going to take in order to get your happiness back into your life. Time after will heal the pain...
2007-03-16 19:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by B. Gregory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to find a job ASAP! She should've filed for a divorce as soon as she felt she needed to go outside the marriage. That's unfair to him, and disrespectful also. I don't know their situation but she's wrong for seeing someone else, because she would've been heartbroken if he did that to her.
2007-03-16 19:32:35 · answer #8 · answered by ladyrapture1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i.min the same boat but here,s some rules for fighting #1 no name calling,#2 don,t yell and screem #3 don,t hold a gruge #4don,t end the fight angery.
2007-03-16 19:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it probably cant be done with out some hurt, but it sounds like everyone involved will be relieved to get it over with, so she might as well do it now.
2007-03-16 19:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋