im 22, graduated and just secured with a job, still my parents don't let me move out. They just want me to stay at home with them till forever.
But I feel i am already grown-up and can make my own decisions. I always respect them, but this time I just want to learn to be independent, why cant they respect me also and let me decide wot i want in my life.
I have been with my boyfriend, who has bought a flat 2 years ago, for 4, 1/2 years, still they never allow me to move in with him.
I respect them, so instead I want to share a flat with some friends. but again, they just dont let me and get very angry with me.
I really am feeling very sad now. Since young, i always have to listen to them, but now i feel i am grown-up and want to have my own life, wot can i do.
2007-03-16 12:24:19 · 4 answers · asked by Taxi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Girl, you are better than me. am 27 now and I can remember when I was only 16 I had graduated from school. I wanted to do me but my mother was like No you cant and you aren't going to go live w/ anyone else.
So I said ok. the next day I was on the bus going to N.Y. believe me when I tell tou it it nothing like being on your own, I HARD but it feels good.
You are 22, and doing everything right. You dont have to listen to that ( NO you cant move out) It is time for you to say it and mean it. I am done parents, I am not disrespecting you and I'm not doing against your will, but It is time for me to learn and live for me. I gave what you wanted that was my degree. Now it is time for me to be the adult that you taught me to be.
2007-03-16 12:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by Tel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you an only child or the last child out of the nest?If so then this would be hard for them to deal with. Not to sound cruel , but they are controlling you with guilt.They are terrified to "lose you". You seem stronger with this particular issue than they are,so it seems like you need to move out and not worry too much about their problem with it.They will be fine!! Maybe your parents will focus on each other when you go and discover fun things to do as a couple.
2007-03-16 12:49:50 · answer #2 · answered by good girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they love you so much but their love makes you feel you are now an alien because of so much security they put upon you. talk to them and when they're in good mood and ready to take your questions and tell them what you really want, if they would not allow you why don't you make a deal to them that if they allow you to be independent and you succeed they will let go of you but if you did not succeed in being an independent then follow them because tragic is your next destination of not following parents. follow you heart and choose wisely
2007-03-16 12:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by honey_106 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. right this is it in a "nutshell". Do despite you like. you're a grown grownup. particular, they are going to be livid once you first circulate out...yet they gets over it if the rather love you. it might desire to take them a while; as all persons are distinctive; yet they ultimately gets over it! stay your existence. existence is only too short to bypass around proper your mum and dad each and every of the time. I actual have a chum who did precisely what her mom needed all of her existence. nicely, now shes 32 years previous, single and lower back living along with her mum and dad. the only authentic courting she HAD has ended using fact her mom stored interfering. provide up on retaining them chuffed. Make your self chuffed. you are the only person interior the international which you will possibly be able to desire to make chuffed. delight in existence...it rather is too short! have relaxing!
2016-10-18 21:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by ramayo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋