HELP Me!!!!!!!?

Question

im pregnate and im only 13 the dads 15
how do i tell my parents that ive been sneaking out to have sex?? and i dont belive in abortions at all
im really really scared

Answer 1

You need to talk to your parents and let them help you. Even though you feel grown up, you're still very much a child, and having your own child is not something you can do on your own. Trust me, it'll be easier to tell your parents now, rather than a month or two down the road. Just be honest with them. They might get mad, but I think they'll be more grateful that you confided in them.

Answer 2

Oh Cheergal,you are just a baby yourself. I wish I had a magic answer for you. But when you play at being grown-up then sometimes you have to pay a price for that. Are you certain that you are pregnant? Have you taken a test? All you are worried about is telling your parents you have been sneaking out to have sex?! Don't even bother to tell them that part. Just tell them that you are certain you are pregnant and let them figure out for themselves that you have been having sex. If you don't believe in abortions then you must decide to either keep the baby or put it up for adoption. This is a big decision and one that your parents can help you to make. I wish you the best of luck sweetie. Your Mom and Dad will probably be upset but they will help you through this- good luck -k-

Answer 3

1. Stay calm
2. Write a letter if you need to
3. Make a plan beforehand
4. If you plan to continue the pregnancy, be specific about the future. Explain how you’ll finish school, provide for the baby, etc.
5. Bring a supportive friend or relative along
6. Tell them first--don’t let them hear it somewhere else
7. If they freak out, leave for a bit and come back later. Hopefully they will have calmed down a little

Telling your parents you are pregnant is one of the hardest things you will do. You may feel scared, ashamed, embarrassed, nervous, anxious, or depressed. You may feel like you have let them down or that they will never forgive you. Please remember that no matter what their initial reaction is, this reaction will most likely change over time, if you maintain a level of maturity and stay calm. Just make sure that you make a choice about the pregnancy BEFORE you tell them and don’t let their pressure of that of other family members change what YOU want to do, (which it sounds like what you've already done) even if they lay some heavy guilt or shame onto you. This is your body and your choice and ultimately, YOU will be the one to deal with it, not them. Just stay calm, stay focused, and prepare yourself for whatever lies ahead.
Good luck

Answer 4

Hello, I have never experienced this but im 13 and i no how I would feel if I had to tell my parents if I was pregnant. I no it's not easy but there are many ways you can tell them. Either face to face or you could ring them from your friends house or even write them a letter. The worst ever thing you can do is panic. Explain to your parents you don't belive in abortions. I don't either, my mum nearly had an obortion but she ran out the hospital crying. I understand the worry and fear in you right now but calm down and think about it.
Hope my advise helps you and hope your parents understand and have a happy pregnacy. tell me the news by emailing me on [e-mail]
Stacey pearson xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Answer 5

Yes, 13 is too young to be having sex, but the deed is done and now you must face up to the consequences. You now have a child that you are responsible for and you and the baby need prenatal care. You should sit your parents down and explain to them the situation. There is really no easy way to tell them what has happened.
Good luck!!

Answer 6

You need to tell your parents right away. Being so young you could be high risk for a miscarraige. If you try to hide it for a long time it could be fatal. You need to go to Dr. appointments and make sure it is not a tubal pregnancy because if it is, it could make you never have children in the future. You DONT have to abort it. If your parents tell you that you have to...DONT listen to them. They CANT make you...even as a minor. Adoption is another option you have. Maybe forever or maybe you can find someone close by who is willing to adopt it until you are able to care for it. My cousin had a baby at 14 and she was able to keep it. Yes, your parents will be angry at first, but they should get over it. You never know, sometimes after they cool down they get excited. if you need someone to talk to further you can email me. [e-mail] GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

You need to sit down and have a descussion with your mom and say " mom I did something really bad and I can't belive I did it but I snuck out to have sex and I am now pregnant" the best thing to do is to tell your parents. I am 15 and I'm pregnant for the second time and my parents have really helped me through all of this.

If you want someone to talk to just email me at [e-mail] I am always here to listen and help.

Answer 8

i'm srry but.....R U KRAZY!!!??? doing that! well the good thing is that u no who the fater is. i'm only 14 and i would never do that! don't do abortion it's murdering life! sit them down and calmly tell them the truth. if u weren't sneaking out doing that this woulden't of happened. y did u do this? having sex this early? look tell ur parents them give birth to ur baby when it's time and give it up 4 adoption. that all u need to do. u have ur future to think about. u just made the biggest mistake of ur life. so anyway take my advice. and good luck with ur parents and the baby (if ur parents let u keep it til it's born)

Answer 9

Do you know how your parents feel about young kids getting pregnant? Obviously, I'd assume they're against it, they may want you to abort the child. I'm against abortion myself. Have you thought about adoption? My brother who's 17 got his 15 year old girlfriend pregnant and they decided to keep it. She's due in a week. My brother's girlfriend found out she was pregnant but didnt tell anyone until it was too late to abort it. She was afraid. She didnt even tell my brother. She finally said something when she was 5 months pregnant and began to show. Everyone was angry, but what was done is done. When my brother had to tell our parents he was so scared and couldnt face them. He wrote a letter that said his girlfriend was pregnant and that he didnt know what to do and that he needed their guidance and support. My mother was heartbroken, she wanted my brothers girlfriend to get an abortion but she soon realized that my brother would be heartbroken if his own child would be aborted. My brother understands his responsibilities, he works two jobs now to help support the baby, he saved up enough money to buy a car and he's actually looking foward to being a father. And he's only 17!

Your parents will force their opinions and judgements on you. Remember, it's your decision. But you also have to keep in mind that being a parent is a lifetime commitment.

My 15 year old cousin had her son a year ago. The father isnt helping to support the child and she's not working. She lives with her mother and three siblings, they're struggling and she dropped out of school. It's pretty tough for her.

My friend when we were in the tenth grade had an abortion. She made the decision on her own to have it done because she knew she wasnt ready to be a mother, nor could she afford it and she wanted to graduate. Her mother and grandparents all turned on her, calling her names and disowning her. I was against the abortion but then she said something to me that made me shut up, "You don't know what I'm going through and have no right to judge me." I felt horrible. My best friend was pregnant and needed my support because her entire family was against the pregnancy and was angry at her. She asked me to go with her to the abortion appointment, but I couldn't, another friend of ours went with her. She cried most of the time and this experience changed her emotionally.

I've never been pregnant so I don't understand the emotional side of it. I've just observed others around me.

Answer 10

Depends on the kind of parents you have. I think that you should tell them and tell them what you are open to. Sometimes parents can have the best advice and really be your friend when your in a situation like this. Baby's are a big responsibility and you are still a child yourself. Just confess and get it off your chest. i am sure they will know what to do.