My friend and this guy have been dating on and off lately, until she just swore to us that she didn't like him anymore.
He asked out another girl the other day and my friend dissolved in tears - apparently she's not through with him.
My question is what should i do - lately i've stopped talking to her because i was angry she was leading the poor guy on. Now shes been crawling back for my advice on this whole thing and i really want to say 'F**k off', as horrible as thats sounds.
So i was wondering if anyone has some helpful advice or if i should just keep ignoring her?
2007-03-16 12:04:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
as of 3/20 they are going back out - as in my friend and this guy ... after all the complaining shes done and after she basically SWORE on her life she hated him ... they're back together ...
2007-03-23 09:25:40 · update #1
I would keep ignoring her. The sex must be good, and that would be her reason for hanging around. Once she has had her fill, then another fight, same routine over and over. Eventually she will learn the truth..
2007-03-24 10:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately there is no good way to handle this. You have two options.
One be a good friend, listen to her (as much as you are tired of doing that.), be a shoulder for her to cry on and just be there for her when you can.
Two ignore her.
Relationships are a tricky thing. They can be difficult to give advice on and they can be complicated to be in.
I remember I have this friend who was involved with a less than savory guy. I was very patient with her and finally I told her that I did not approve of this guy and she would be better off with out him. She dropped me cold turkey and I didnt hear from her for about 3 years. I ran into her about 2 years ago and she told me that she was sorry for not talking to me while she was with him. She had gone through a lot and really needed a friend to just talk to, get a hug from etc.
Lesson(s) I have learned is that you can tell you friends what your opinion is but you cannot always expect them follow your advice. You also must choose if you want to be there as a friend no matter what bad, indecisive, crazy choices they make. Everyone needs a safe place to go when they fall.
2007-03-24 15:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by iceycalm101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience I have found that I needed to be aware that my friend could just be hurt and angry at that time, but still want to be with him. Though it seems like the right thing to do to support your friend by agreeing with her about how bad he is, sometimes just supporting her feelings about the situation is best, because they very often get back together and may even do the break up make up thing several times leaving you on the out.
2007-03-24 17:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by Cwolf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a real friend you will stay there an support her. When she is down give her a shoulder to lean on. Don't ignore her she needs your advice just say what you have to say to her be friend if you are really a good friend. friend's come and go but true friends stay with you forever which one are you.
2007-03-23 10:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by missnewshawty_08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. I'm sorry! If you feel like she truly needs your advice you should help her out.. but let her know what you think! Not in a rude way.. just kindly ask her why she swears she doesn't like him but still is going out with him! I think some people get emotional easily.. is she one of them? Maybe you should talk to the guy too.
Oh well, good luck...
2007-03-24 16:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don`t ignore her, that won`t solve the problem, my advice would be to tell her that you won`t make any more suggestions to her on this subject, as apperantly she does not know weather she cares for this person or not, so how can she expect you to advise her with any success. If she doesn't like him anymore, then forget about him, if she does care for him, start acting like it.
2007-03-24 12:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationships are tricky things.when giving advice to Friends it is best to try and be impartinal and not take side. as with your friend if you had run the bloke down it would have been all your fault.wish them well and try to get new friends.it sounds like you are still sore at her but in time you will get over it and be friends again.
2007-03-24 13:23:01 · answer #7 · answered by fushia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be blunt and honest. if she can t handle the truth then so be it.
this will reveal if she is a true friend or not .
keep being blunt and honest even if you have to yell it out.
some times, people need a n eye opener
2007-03-16 19:13:21 · answer #8 · answered by Aaron M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how you feel. If she's your firend she'd listen to you na dtry to understand from your point of view. And if she doesn't forget her, I'm sure you have other friends who would and do want to hear what you have to say.
2007-03-24 15:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by meximari420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wsell if you told her before that this was going to happen the best you could do is say i told you so i no that sounds mean but maybe next time shes realise that what you say is true and will listen to you more next time.
2007-03-23 08:04:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋