2007-03-16 11:59:39 · 23 answers · asked by CAT EYEZ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What "should" be and what is are two different things. Check you state laws on that.
2007-03-16 12:03:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they should.....but the parents should not play games with them either. Children, no matter what their age want to feel safe and loved. That is until teh parents put the brakes on them as teens, because they (the parents) let teh kids do just as they wished when they were younger....so they would stay happy and continue to live with them. Now all of a sudden when the child is now a teen....the parents see their child behaving in ways in which they do not like, and now they say NO.....Why did you wait so long?.....now you have a p.o.ed teen who wants to move out. Had you stopped treating the kids like a victim, and showering them with pity...which they learn how to use to thier fullest advantage at very early ages. If you just say NO...and set FIRM Boundaries from teh beginning and both the husband ans the wife agree that it is going ot be this way even while visiting at the others home, If the children know that dicipline is going to remain the same no matter what.....then you kids will turn out to be pretty good citizens......so if you child is all of a sudden deciding to live with the other parent....you may want to review, what you have and have not done, you will also want to check withthe x, to see what if any kind of dicipline is happening....and boht of you need to come to an agreement that being consistant is best for the kids.....it is all about the kids now...making them responsible and productive citizens.
2007-03-16 19:35:35 · answer #2 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the age in most states is between 12 and 14 when a child can choose which parent to live with, or when the courts give the child more leverage in the final decision. Ten years old probably isn't old enough, but the courts at least listen to what EVERY child wants and take that into consideration. At any age the child's needs, safety and welfare will probably take precedence though.
2007-03-16 19:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The number of birthdays a child has does not rove they are ready to make major decisions. How they learn about life and display maturity has more to do than birthdays. There are 15 year olds that do not have the reasoning ability of some 10 year olds. Look at the individual not the birth certificate.
2007-03-16 19:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard. It is difficult to assess the nature of the individual relationship a son or a daughter has to their father and their mother. Aside from the ability to provide issue, the emotional presence of the father and the mother comes into play. Some young people are so articulate about their feelings, that a decision made my any one other than that person would be ludicrous.
2007-03-16 19:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When l was young, my parent divorced, and yes, i think they should be able to choose. My parents didnt give me a choice and l was pissed. They are old enough to understand things like that an know the benefits with which parent will bring you.
I got stuck with my dad, who was the one who caused the divorce and he was a jerk! I wanted my MOMMY!
2007-03-16 19:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely positively. I was in 3rd grade when my parents divorced and I talked to the lawyers and the judge and was able to choose. It's a tough spot o be in, but I was afraid to be sent with my father who was an alcoholic. He still fought for me. My Mother got full custody. Thank God.
2007-03-16 19:18:39 · answer #7 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't thik a child of ten is mature enough to choose between parents, that is putting a heavy burden on the child and they have so many other life issues to deal with it is just not fair to ask them to make that choice.
2007-03-16 19:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't now about legally, but unless the parents were amicable about it it might put the child in an awkward position on who to pick. Worried about offending the other parent. I would guess each case is different with many variables.
2007-03-16 19:28:59 · answer #9 · answered by dms56blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should be a little older than 10 to decide who you live with.at 10 you are still a kid and might not make the best decision.
2007-03-16 19:03:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they can in some places. I don't know if its 10 years but they can choose
2007-03-16 19:02:59 · answer #11 · answered by melfred_20 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋