I like my girlfriend but don't love her yet. I think my girl friend is smart, pretty, and a little bit controlling me...Last week, I and my girlfriend met my classmate (Ana) at the shopping mall. I used to like Ana for four years now, and I really love her personality. She is not as pretty as my girl friend but she has a very honest, straightforward personality, and I like that. I used to take the same classes with her in college. However, I didn't dare to ask her out because there's the guy who always followed her at college (they are neighbor, not bf and gf). Right now, I learned from my friend that Ana is still single and she is not having a bf right now. I really want to ask Ana out and spend time with her. However, Ana arealdy saw I was with with my girlfriend. What should I do right now?
2007-03-16 11:52:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
stay in tuch with her i mean ignore her and dont tell her that you are breaking up, just ignore her she will break up with u, thats what i think
2007-03-16 11:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by babe 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You need to be honest.
You are all adults; no games are needed.
First, you take care of what's on your plate right now - before you go and get another one.
Talk to your current girlfriend and tell her that in the four months you have been dating, you and she have become great friends and that you care about her feelings. You are both still single, and too young still to be in a committed relationship yet. Don't tell her you are about to ask another girl on a date - but tell her you are just making sure that you are both on the same page. You would feel very bad if anyone thought things were moving faster than they are.
When you have been honest with the first girl - honest conversations are hard, but fair - she can decide whether she wants to stay in a dating relationship with you or bail. It's the right thing to do - give her the chance to know the truth and decide for herself. If you secretly dated the second girl and she found out - everyone would feel bad and you would be guilty of cheating.
Call the second girl, Ana, after you and your current gf are done talking.
Be honest with her too - if she asks - you are too young yet to be in a committed relationship, and that your first gf is one of your friends.
2007-03-16 12:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by Stan W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said Ana is straightforward and honest, maybe that is a quality Ana may appreciate in you. Just tell her how you feel and maybe things will fall in line. Who knows Ana may feel something for you also. Good Luck, as for all that bad advice to dump your girlfriend, you don't have to do that. Be honest with Ana. And let her know you like the other young lady but not as much and it is not your intention to have two girlfriends, However, you would like to see if there is something there between the two of you. I.f there is you would like the opportunity to explore it without any other distraction.You are just laying it on the table. Now if Ana says she would like to give it a try, you will have to end the relationship with the other young lady.
2007-03-16 12:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by BLUE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty tough being around someone you've liked for so many years and with currently with someone whom you're having second thoughts about. It doens't seem like you and gf are really serious so here's a suggestion. Set up a dinner date with Ana. Go to a resonably nice cafe or restaurant. Find out if you truly like her the way you say you do. A person can act much different in a relationship than they would in friendship. Some may think this is the wrong thing to do but I call it being honest. This dinner date would be a nice way to find out how she's really feeling about you and for you to tell her how you feel about her. If you two are comfortable with each other and believe they two of you are right for each then you'll just have to do the honest thing.....and break up with your gf. Tell me how things go. Good luck.
2007-03-16 12:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by Just get it over with already!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by hildy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her tell your other Gf that you should just be friends. wait a little bit and then ask Ana out. don't do any thing to make your Gf angry though! good luck.
P.S. Ana sounds really nice so you probably would have more fun w/ her.
have fun!
2007-03-16 11:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by elle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not you decide to go after Ana, if you've been with your girlfriend for four months and there's no love there, it's time to break it off before it starts getting miserable for both of you.
2007-03-16 11:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by moridin187 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want Ana then dump your girlfriend then leave them both for say, a month, then ask Ana out. You can't have your cake and eat it!! So decide what you want!
2007-03-16 11:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It appears to me that you need to get your priorities fixed
if you like this other girl then the only thing you can do that would be proper is to let the other girl go so you can pursue this other one. Never go behind a GF's back just to test the waters with someone else let them go. If you don't your just going to hurt her and will show the one you are interested in how much of a jerk you are. Then you will be without any girl because you will have labelled yourself as a player and a jerk.
2007-03-16 11:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should decide who you really want to be with. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Don't be with one wishing you could have the other, or comparing her to the other.
If you want Ana, then break up with your gf and ask her out (don't be a coward by trying to find out her answer *before* you break up with your gf).
2007-03-16 11:58:42 · answer #10 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask Ana out. If she questions you, be honest with her and tell her what you just said in you question.
2007-03-16 11:56:12 · answer #11 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋