I haven't seen him in a while, and I really don't mind going to lunch since we were good friends (just not a good couple). My husband isn't insanely jealous, but I just don't want him to think it's a big deal. Really. Should I tell him?
2007-03-16 11:32:39 · 26 answers · asked by Noonie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have no feelings for you ex, then why bother. You must have an idea that it could be a problem, so discuss it with your husband first.
2007-03-16 11:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Simon M 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do, is to tell your husband about your plans to have dinner with your ex.. and invite him along! If you and your ex are such good friends, as you say.. then I would imagine that not only would you want him to meet your husband (if he hasn't already) but he should want to meet him as well. It's just common courtesy to introduce your spouse to your friends that you're out with.. especially if it's an ex-boyfriend/husband.
I don't think it's a good idea to go alone though.. While I definately believe that two people can be good friends after the relationship ends, it's just not a very good idea to spend "alone time" with that person. Sure, it would be nice to catch up and everything, but I think that your husband should be there as well.. simply out of respect for your marriage. That way, nobody gets the wrong idea about the situation.
So yes, tell your husaband all about your plans to get together for lunch with your ex.. and ask him to join you!
2007-03-16 14:48:50 · answer #2 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should not go by ur self u should invite ur husband to go with the both of u. OK he is not the jealous type. Put ur self in his shoes: Would u let him go if it was his ex? U mayb good friend with our ex put u can cross that line specially if ur husband is a nice guy.
2007-03-16 11:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Natural 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him and get his reaction .
I would make it clear that you have no intentions of getting back with your ex but sometimes an ex will ask you out with intentions of trying to get you to leave your present husband and go back to him.
If you accept, make it clear that it is just for lunch and it probably would be nice to ask if your husband could join you. If your ex isn't up to that, then he may be up to trying to cause problems in your marriage.
If you were in the same situation as your husband, how would you react?? Put yourself in his shoes and do what you would want your husband to do in the situation.
Best of luck,,,,,,,,,,,,,
2007-03-16 11:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by Linda L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once food involves an EX tell your husband or bf. even if he won't get jealous it's more a matter of respect for him, the relationship and his feelings on the issue. He may trust you but not your ex-beau.
2007-03-16 11:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by Brown'n 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, how would YOU feel if your husband went to lunch with his ex-wife and kept the friendship going?
2007-03-16 12:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please tell your husband. If you don't tell him it seems as though you have something to hide and the he may think it is a big deal. You are much better off not hiding anything from him.
2007-03-18 11:02:00 · answer #7 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont go and tell your ex that its not right to go on a date with you and say plus i am married and i am not going to go on a date with you and if that dont work then tell your husband that your ex wont leave you alone and that you want him to do something and if that dont work then i dont know what else to say.
2007-03-16 11:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your husband, he should know. You will be making it a big deal by keeping it from him.
2007-03-16 11:43:37 · answer #9 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband because if you go without telling him he's going to be upset if he finds out. because your sneaking to go see your ex and he's going to wonder why you had to sneak to see him. your husband might think y'all have something going on or you guys might be seeing each other again.
So just to keep from a long time drama going on just tell him.
2007-03-16 11:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by Mia b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋