How can I explain to her?

Question

One of my bestfriends keeps calling herself fat. I get so annoyed because she's not fat. She keeps saying " Oh, your're so skinny, I'm so fat" How can I explain to her that she's not fat?

Answer 1

It's just a girl thing. You're supposed to say just what you said: that she's not fat. It relieves her anxiety.

Answer 2

Hmm, that is tough. It seems that she either truly believes she is fat because of some insecurity she has (and possibly has an eating disorder that no matter how skinny she is, she will always see fat), OR, she is the type who likes the attention from you or anybody else saying "you are not fat, you are perfect"! Next time she says that ask her exactly what part of her body she thinks is fat! What does she consider "fat"?? You might want to watch how she eats. Does she eat the smallest portions and/or push her food away after only a few bites, or does she just totally binge and then excuse herself to use the bathroom??? Does she carry a toothbrush around with her? Hope that helps. JC

Answer 3

Yep my best mate is like that, shes a rake and think she has an eating problem.

She says she's fat, and sometimes sh goes a whole day on and off without any food.

It gets so frustrating!

Just be there for her, tell her calmly 'your not fat, if you were, I would tell you'.
Give her compliments, sit down with her and have a good chat, tell her that by her saying that shes fat is getting you worried. Be truthful.

Good luck

Answer 4

She might just have low self esteem. Ask her why she thinks she's fat. I used to think I was fat and it was because My mom called herself fat.

Answer 5

You will never convince her she isn't fat because in her mind she see a fat person when she looks at her self in a mirror.It bothers you more then it does her when she says that about herself.She likes when you say she isn't fat so you keep doing that because that makes her feel better about herself.

Answer 6

Tell her to shut it, tell her that she is fat b/c she keeps saying it, tell her she's an ugly whore and that the only reason she is is b/c she believes it's true. Then walk away, and don't talk to her.

Answer 7

Just keep telling her she isn't. It's possible she just has a different body type - see if there are any well-known actresses or swimmers or singers that look like her, and point it out. Might help.

Answer 8

show her a picture of an obese person and then a picture of herself. then tell her how she'd feel if she was the obese person in the picture. Tell her that she should be happy that she's not the obese person! Otherwise, you two can exercise for fun together.

Answer 9

Unfortunately, way too many girls have self-image problems. Growing up, I wore a D-cup in eighth grade and I hated it!

You just have to let her know that she is beautiful, and thin, and healthy, and that's all that matters.

Answer 10

You really can't.... it is a self- conscience thing......

She could be showing signs of anorexia and/or bulimia;

get her some help!!!!

Good luck!!

Signs of Bulimia and Anorexia:

Dramatic weight loss in a relatively short period of time.
Wearing big or baggy clothes or dressing in layers to hide body shape and/or weight loss.
Obsession with weight and complaining of weight problems (even if "average" weight or thin).
Obsession with calories and fat content of foods.
Obsession with continuous exercise.
Frequent trips to the bathroom immediately following meals (sometimes accompanied with water running in the bathroom for a long period of time to hide the sound of vomiting).
Visible food restriction and self-starvation.
Visible bingeing and/or purging.
Use or hiding use of diet pills, laxatives, ipecac syrup (can cause immediate death!) or enemas.
Isolation. Fear of eating around and with others.
Unusual Food rituals such as shifting the food around on the plate to look eaten; cutting food into tiny pieces; making sure the fork avoids contact with the lips (using teeth to scrap food off the fork or spoon); chewing food and spitting it out, but not swallowing; dropping food into napkin on lap to later throw away.
Hiding food in strange places (closets, cabinets, suitcases, under the bed) to avoid eating (Anorexia) or to eat at a later time (Bulimia).
Flushing uneaten food down the toilet (can cause sewage problems).
Vague or secretive eating patterns.
Keeping a "food diary" or lists that consists of food and/or behaviors (ie., purging, restricting, calories consumed, exercise, etc.)
Pre-occupied thoughts of food, weight and cooking.
Visiting websites that promote unhealthy ways to lose weight.
Reading books about weight loss and eating disorders.
Self-defeating statements after food consumption.
Hair loss. Pale or "grey" appearance to the skin.
Dizziness and headaches.
Frequent soar throats and/or swollen glands.
Low self-esteem. Feeling worthless. Often putting themself down and complaining of being "too stupid" or "too fat" and saying they don't matter. Need for acceptance and approval from others.
Complaints of often feeling cold.
Low blood pressure.
Loss of menstrual cycle.
Constipation or incontinence.
Bruised or calluses knuckles; bloodshot or bleeding in the eyes; light bruising under the eyes and on the cheeks.
Perfectionistic personality.
Loss of sexual desire or promiscuous relations.
Mood swings. Depression. Fatigue.
Insomnia. Poor sleeping habits