I have a bridesmaid who has been upset ever since day one that I did not ask her to be the maid of honor and now she is making my life and the rest of my bridal parties lives so difficult. Her and the rest of my bridal party are constantly at each others throats and I know that if she wasn't involved things would be so much simpler. She is also the only one out of town and she said that she is acting this way because she feels excluded, but I know that I and the rest of my bridal party have gong out of their way to make sure that she is included in all of the planning stages. Please help!! What should I do.
2007-03-16 11:11:37 · 16 answers · asked by ventity325 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yep, you can fire her. Tell her that her envy is upsetting you, and it would be best if she was not in your wedding after all. It is all about YOU, not her. She might not want to be your friend (or relative) after this, but good riddance, she sounds like a real pain in the butt.
2007-03-16 11:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to hit the road and don't come back.She is acting like a spoiled brat,very immature so why bother with her?Tell her since she obviously doesn't want to be a brides maid she can just leave and be nothing at all.Why let her make your life and you wedding difficult?How selfish!!Kick her out and replace her with somebody who likes you and wants your wedding to be the best.That's what I would do,you have a problem so the simple solution would be to eliminate it.Congratulations and I hope you have a wonderful wedding!Being married is the best!
2007-03-16 11:27:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her an email explaing that at this time you have so much on your mind, you feel your friends should just be supportive and not a hindrance.
this is only one day for her, but it's your wedding,
tell her you don't want the drama, and you have found someone else who is more than happy to be a bridesmaid,
and it cannot be changed again.[as far as her actually coming to the wedding, not sure-she might ruin it] you know her, we don't.
2007-03-16 11:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You certainly can eliminate your chosen bridesmaid from the gala affair. It is YOUR wedding! When she has a wedding of her own, then she can dictate how things are to be handled and who she will have in her procession. But, since it is YOURS, I would suggest that you politely suggest to her to stay at home. Usually, when people get married, their list of friends have a way of shrinking. So, you might as well start with her!
2007-03-16 11:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by DARMADAKO 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't fire her but you can replace her with someone else. And put her as an usher that will shut her up. Or the one handing bulletins at the door. Or just sit her down nd explain to her that if you didn't want her there she wouldn't be there. ALso tell her to make peace for your sake or you will replace her with someone else and she won't be in the wedding.
2007-03-16 11:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't HIRE her to begin with unless you are paying those who participate in your wedding...Since I don't know how far along you are with the planning and how soon you'll be getting married all I can say is if she was a problem from the very beginning you should have asked her to step down at that time. Now it's only going to be harder for everyone concerned.
2007-03-16 11:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I have no idea what u should do, but my best advice is to just talk to her. From the sounds of it, that will probably just make her mad and make it worse, so if the talking doesn't work then I would nicely tell her that she is no longer a bridesmaid.
2007-03-16 11:18:06 · answer #7 · answered by 2008Racer20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your day yo can practically do anything and it be okay.
besides planning all these things the last thing you need is a grumpy, grouchy bridesmaid..They should be helping you in everything they can after all they are the bride's maid.
(get it?!)
2007-03-16 11:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by Naomi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be upfront with her and confront her on the way you are feeling.
This is supposed be your Special Day and you can't let anyone ruin it!
She may have deeper emotional problems than she leads on, maybe finding out what else she is struggling with could help you put her at ease...
Hope this Helps
Miss X-----------------XoXo
2007-03-16 11:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by Miss X 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah... but it's difficult to stuff them in the kiln; and it's tricky to pick the correct colour of glaze to compliment their dress.
2007-03-16 11:18:38 · answer #10 · answered by Rocket Squirrel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋