i want to have a good time with my freinds
it seems like they are always going to movies or going bowling together
and i first am not invited(i am good freinds with them)
and second
it seems like i never get out of the house with my freinds
how can i change that?
2007-03-16 11:09:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Maybe they've just gotten used to you not going with them and have gotten out of the habit of including you. Why not say to them 'next time you are planning an evening out I'd be up for it' or words to that effect.
2007-03-16 11:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They probably don't invite you because they know your not going to come.You need change that and you should . It's not all that good to be alone it's OK to be a lone at times everyone needs to spent time a lone but not all the time. You call your friends and you say hey like to go to the movies or bowling this weekend, you have to make that move. Like the Nike chemicals JUST DO IT.And if a friend tells you where all ready going this week tell him good when and where I'll meet you there or something. You have to make that first step or your always going to be a loner. I seen my son be a loner for a long time and as his mother I would feel sorry for him. But after I seen him bloom like a flower he has lots of friends now and they go out in do things. For a while I was worry about him but he made that first step. He was all-ways so bored. And you need to get out of that. It's not healthy.
2007-03-16 18:21:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go up to them and start off a conversation by saying - Hi, I heard you went out last night bowling/whatever. Wait until they something and reply with something like this - I was just wondering why you didnt invite me, because I thought we were good friends. Correct me if im wrong, but I thought that was what friends do, go out and have a good time with them, rather that leave them on their own while everyone else goes out and has a good time. Dont try to pretend that nothing like that has happened, because I know it has, and I dont like it. I want to be friends with you, but if your gonna leave me out all the time, Im afraid we're gonna have some problems. So have a good long hard think about it eh?
Just say all that and walk away, leaving 'em standing there. If they are really your mates, they'll apologise, and if they dont, to hell with them!
2007-03-16 18:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by 007MonkeyPantz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, that's tough, I'm in the same boat with you - although I'm a loner by choice. Start taking more interest in what your friends are doing, and invite yourself to go out with them. Ask them about their plans for the weekend, and if they say something like - oh, we're gonna go see a movie, you can say - cool, I would love to come. It may be that they're not inviting you because they feel you don't have much interest in hanging out with them.
Also, you could get involved in new hobbies and meet new friends. The new friends won't have a pre-conceived notion of you, and might include you more readily in their plans if you act outgoing from the beginning.
2007-03-16 18:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only one who can change that is you. You need a little motivation. That or when you go out with these so called "friends" you really don't have a good time and thats why you make a point to stay at home. Maybe you should try hanging out with a diffrent group of people and then you can compare the experiences.
2007-03-16 18:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, Im in the same possition here! I never go out and dont really talk to people. I feel lonly but i try to forget about it by staying on mypsace, thats the only place where i can get friends. but anywyas if you go to school try talking to some popular kids, or tell a really funny joke to someone you think is cool. whell if u got a job you can get a gf. im shure she will have friends and go out with her somewhere. dahh lol. but remember never follow anyone too much and dont be a stocker! thats what important its the matter of time!
2007-03-16 18:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your friends know the next time they go to the movies or bowling to include you as your ready to hit the pavement. They probably got used to you not wanting to go out. I'm sure they will be happy that you now want to join them. GL =)
2007-03-16 18:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recomen arranging a night of fun stuff, such as bowling and a movie or something...and then invite them. Maybe they think you don't want to go, have you told them you'd wanna go? Show them you are outgoing too and plan something fun. Just relax and be yourself!
2007-03-16 18:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by kMaz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go up to your friends and see whats going on for the weekend. Talk to your closest friend and tell them that you'd like to hang out this weekend or something.
2007-03-16 18:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by krazyinchicago 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to try proposing the idea, that way you're "in" by default...
Example:
"Hey, you guys wanna go see _(movie name here)__? I was thinking of going tonight, who wants to come along?"
Then make sure to crack jokes and other things so you get invited again.
2007-03-16 18:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by Mike K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋