what is the best advice for a newly wed couple?

Answer 1

Don't allow yourself to be tempted by others to do something wrong
Always stay faithful and honest
Never fight about stupid crap
Really don't let money dictate your lives
Don't lie
Never keep secrets from your spouse
Always respect each other everyday
Have a strong intimate life with your mate
Never rush into parenthood make sure it is something you both wan't and can afford!
Leave parents and family out of your problems as a couple
always keep communication open.
Do not nag your spouse not right off the mark anyways remember both of you are getting used to the whole marriage thing
Make compromises when needed
Do not spend money you do not have like racking up credit cards for instance.
Live life to the fullest everyday
Be sexy for your mate especially in the bedroom
Do stuff like you did when you dated it keeps the fire burning
like if you liked clubbing and dancing do this once in awhile as a couple!.
Remember you may lose touch with some friends along the way it is normal make new friends as a couple.
Never go out with someone of the opposite sex unless you are together. Unless it is a important business meeting professional only not for pleasure.
Never cheat or even chat online with someone of the opposite sex this can be very damaging to your marriage.
Unless of course it is family or a friend you both know or even some form of counselling or prayer line.
If your not already become closer with God as a couple.
Love your mate as much as possible but do not become clingy or dependent.
Most guys like a women who is independent and wants to work and help with bills and to live for there own goals.
Not saying being a stay at home is wrong in anyway if thats what you want in life.
Always tell your spouse how much you appreciate them and how nice and respectful they are.
Take compliments guys when they marry just love telling there wives how beautiful they are and sexy etc. Well I know I do married coming up to 8yrs.
Just enjoy the fact you have found your mate and hopefully for life like it's suppose to be.

Answer 2

I would advise this: when you have a fight (and you will), don't start any statements with "You never....", "You always....", or "Why don't/can't you.......?" This is hard, and takes some time to learn. Also- no name calling, cursing, or bringing up the real or imagined shortcomings of the other person's family and/or friends. I have found in my 35 years of marriage, that mutual consideration is very important, and it can be expressed in seemingly insignificant ways- when you are going to the kitchen, ask your honey if they would like for you to get something for them. Maybe occasionally do a chore that they really dislike having to do. Offer a back rub or foot massage, make breakfast in bed, bake their favorite cookies- it's so easy to get caught up in the day-to-day stuff that sometimes we can lose track of how important these little things can be, and how much they are appreciated by your spouse. A simple "Thanks honey" can make a real difference. I have found that treating my husband the way I like to be treated works well. Also- don't sweat the small stuff (you know what I'm talking about- forgetting to put the seat back down on the toilet, leaving wet towels laying around- stuff like that)- life goes by SO quickly, that stressing about something that is not really important does nothing except expend energy. Congratulations to both of you, and here's to a long and happy marriage!

Answer 3

#1. Avoid reading the "Marriage & Divorce" section of answers. I'm appalled at the number of people on here who do not respect the sanctitiy of the marriage bed. I like to review for "real" questions because I feel I have something to offer, but do believe many of the questions are not for real.
#2. Really Really Really respect and care for each other. If you get your feelings hurt, talk about it. Some people can be thoughtless but don't mean anything by it. You may have to teach your new spouse over many years what you are sensitive about. Don't tell his "secrets" to your friends, don't criticize him or the male gender, especially in front of others. (male bashing may be socially acceptable but can be really hurtful).
#3. Have an enjoyable sex life that you are both satisfied with. If either of you is not satisfied with frequency or quality, talk about it and work on it together until you are at that great place where you both love making love together!
#5. Going through a bad place in your marriage/life doesn't mean that it is time for a divorce. We all have moods, and usually if you wait it out things get better again soon.

Answer 4

1.) Listen to one another. I know that sounds simple but when you're angry and frustrated it can be very difficult to take a step back and really listen to what the other person is saying. However, if you do, you will often find that you can resolve issues fairly easily.

2.) It's okay to go to bed angry. I know a lot of people will advise otherwise, but trust me, no one is more reasonable or rational at 3:00 am.

3.) Disagreements are healthy but screaming, yelling, name calling matches are not. Those types of arguments are destructive and counter-productive. Remember that you're working as a team. If you disagree, keep the discussion on the topic at hand and work together toward a solution for the problem/issue.

4.) You may not always understand one another's feelings or opinions and that's okay but remember to respect each other's feelings and opions. Sometimes we don't need our spouses to agree with us completely but we do need our opinions and feelings validated.

5.) Communicate. When you have a problem, express it in a calm, non-confrontational manner. Your spouse is not a mind reader and cannot correct a problem if he/she is not aware that it exists.

6.) Be tolerant and forgiving of one another. You will each make mistakes and get on one another's nerves but keep it all in perspective and, although it's cliched, don't sweat the small stuff.

7.) Be kind to one another.

8.) Have fun and laugh with each other.


8.) Love one another. Sometimes, despite all your best efforts, at the end of the day, you will be angry, you will be frustrated, you won't be feeling particularly kind, tolerant or forgiving and you certainly won't be in the mood to laugh. When you're at the end of your rope, love one another. Love is glue that will hold all that other stuff together.

Answer 5

Decide who has the final say in all matters, and stick to it. That person takes full responsibility for all the problems, but also has final say in all decisions. The other person should never be afraid to express their opinion on any matter and to

A democracy of two is subject to too many tie votes.

You can also divide responsibilities... one person can be in charge of finances, the other in charge of managing friendships and family, etc, but in any situation, know who gets the final say.

Never deny each other sexually if you can help it. It's the one thing you're expecting your partner to be totally exclusive with.

Know where all your money comes from and goes. That goes for both of you, not just the one who manages finances.

Kiss often.

Doctors are morons. Never let the doctors take away your child... if I could go back in time, my son would either be better, or the doctor would be dead. The wife may be tired, the husband has no excuse. Stay with the child as if his/her life depends on it.

Make fights rare, and make fights fair.

Sleep naked sometimes.

Only compare her cooking to your mother's if it's generally better.

Go on dates.

Go on dates.

Go on dates.

Give the children to a babysitter, and go on dates.

Take a day off work, and go on a date.

On dates:

Him: treat it like your first date. (Even if you're tired from work, especially if you haven't had a date in more than two weeks.)

Her: He gets lucky; period. (Even if you've got a headache, expecially if the waiter was more attractive.)

Set the sex rules *before* the wedding. Too late? Set them now. They can be changed, but only if you both agree.

If it's not a rule, it can't be broken. If you don't think it will be a problem, make it a rule anyway. (Classic line: "We set the rules before the wedding, she never said I couldn't look up other girls' skirts, just no porn of it.")

Rules can be expanded to a place where there was no rule before, but not added unless both agree. If the rule wasn't defined before, the "guilty" party is innocent. If it was defined, deal with the problem, find a solution.

80 years old can be just as pretty as 20.

Never spend more than two weeks apart if you can help it.

All communications (outside work) with the opposite gender are approved by your spouse; period.

Him: protect her with your life. Her comfort means more than your life.

Her: care for him like your life depends on it. His fulfillment is your life.

When you're not sure what else to say, kiss. If that doesn't work, strip. If that doesn't work, get in bed, finish it. Then continue the arguement. No one communicates well when sexually frustrated.

Sex doesn't solve any of your problems, but lack of sex can cause any problem you can imagine.

Her: don't expect him to be a woman; that's what your girlfriends are for.

Him: don't expect her to understand your hobbies; that's what your friends are for.

Answer 6

- Take care of each other
- Compromise, compromise, compromise
- Respect each other
- Never go to bed angry
- Never withhold sex because you aren't getting your way, or you are angry
- Take time from your busy day to spend some time together
- Go on a "date" once a week
- When it comes to your kids - stand by what your partner says, don't argue about what one of you has said they could or couldn't do in front of them
- Be honest, even if it's hard to do
- Don't say hurtful things to your partner, you can't take your words back after they have left your mouth
- Pick your battles, some of the small stuff really doesn't matter in the whole scheme of things
- Don't use your credit card if you can't pay it off the next month (unless it really is an emergency)
- Invest in a 401K (if your company has a plan) as soon as you can while you are young (trust me on this one). Have your contributions be pre-tax, so you can't touch the money
- Agree to disagree


Good luck, I hope you have many, many years of happiness together

Answer 7

That a marriage is alot of work.What u put in it is what u will get out of it.Plus remember people change at different times or their life.If he or u don't progess at the same time don't worry.You need to talk about it and wait until whom ever catches up.If u understand what I'm trying to say.Love really takes alot of work once the passion isn't as strong as at the beginning. Trust is another issue too.If u can't trust the other partner then hang it up.Your wasteing your time.I wish u all the luck in your new marriage.

Answer 8

The first thing you learn is compromise then there's understanding and forgiveness because no body's perfect. But the big thing is communication talk about everything even the little things because over time the little things begin to add up and when they add up they become BIG things. Marriage isn't easy it takes work but it's the work of love and if you can remember these things you will be married for a very long time.........

Answer 9

Drop any preconceived notions you have about marriage.And loose the need to always be right.And never forget why you fell in love with your spouse.No matter how hard things get.And most of all don't act childish and pick a fight over every little thing that gets on your nerves.Most of the stuff you will pick a fight over.Will not even be about your spouses actions it will be about an insecurity you have.

Answer 10

I am really not qualified to give the best answer at 17, but the best proverb I ever heard about marriage is one my parents live by:

Before marriage, keep both eyes open. After marriage, shut one.

Overlook little things. My mom and dad have been married 37 years and they always tell me when I get married, not to worry about every little thing.

Also, be honest, don't get in debt and if you do, don't get angry or stressed, keep your sex life happy, oh and the most important one (I got this from my great-grandparents who have been married 58 years) is to remain committed to one another.

They have always said that as long as you know in your hearts individuallly that you are not going to leave and do everything in your power to make it work, it will be okay.

God Bless and Good Luck.