why is it easyer to hate then too love,?

Question

I posted a simple question asking if people loved me evan if they never met me and I got so many negative respons not a single positive one, and yet there are people in the world willing to say the hate everyone or the hate everyone of a certain skill color or nationaltiy

well whats so wroung about loving everyone, its not like loving someone you havent met will make the world a worse place, and so many of the awnsers said its not possible, but it is I love everyone and alot of religions teach that you should love everyone,

Answer 1

Love and hate are a choice: choose hate and it permeates your spirit, your
speech and your actions. Choose love and it permeates your spirit, your
speech and your actions. Same consequences 2 different words. Sometimes
it's hard to tell someone we don't know that we love them. Maybe that's what's
wrong with this world a lot of hate and not enough love. Even though I don't know
you, I can say I love you through Christ my Saviour and Lord. Jesus is the greatest source of love of all. He has helped me care about those that have hurt me. Consider yourself hugged as well.

Answer 2

We all can love another in terms of respecting them. That is easy. But, the world is a very dangerous place to trust people enough to love them the way we should. For example, a homeless person asking for money. We all pretend he is not there when we should really be caring more. It is because we hear stories of homeless people taking advantage of others or because we are too greedy.

Deep down we all hate someone or something. We are human and not perfect. That is how we can be religious and still not love every single person. I wish it were not true, but that is the reality of life. However, if you believe you can make the world better one person at a time...stay positive!

Answer 3

A lot of people would rather hurt someone else than have someone else hurt them.

What they fail to see is what ever feeling you project toward someone else will come back to you threefold.

So for every one person you hate there are three people who hate you. Simply because your negativity will be like an aura surrounding you.

Likewise for every one person you love or choose to accept unconditionally there are three people out there who will return that love and unconditional acceptance of you.

When you walk down the street, and you pass a stranger, smile at them and say "Hi". If they return that smile that's great. If not, do not worry. I know it may be hard to hear this but that's not your problem. It may be that they are having a bad day. Or that they have just got a bad outlook on life.

Either way just remember, smiling is free, and it never hurts anyone to smile.

Just for the record though, if I were to pass you one the street, in all likely hood I would smile at you, regardless of what my day has been like.

For me smiling is like a drug. One smile is never enough. And once I start it is hard to stop.

I am not perfect though. There are some people I have gotten to know and just the sight of them makes me feel sick.

But that is another question entirely.

Answer 4

First of all, just because people are willing to hate people they've never met (in a lot of cases) doesn't mean that the people who responded to your previous question do. If those specific people don't hate those they've never met, you can't expect them to love those they've never met either.

However, it does seem to be easier to hate or be prejudiced than to love. This is the case for strangers because the characteristics that we would negatively judge a person on are easier to see from a distance than those we would judge positively. For example, I know that some cultures encourage rape victims to commit suicide in the name of honor. It is easy for me to be angry on behalf of those rape victims. However, those same cultures may do many very positive things that I don't know about. The bad stuff is what makes the international news.

When it comes to people we know, people are naturally judgmental. Not necessarily always in a bad way, but this is how we form conclusions about things and people. When you approach a person or thing with a critical eye, it's only natural that the negative will become apparent before the positive. That's why it takes some time to come to love someone.

Answer 5

Oh My Gosh, I have read some of the response comments you received today. They are down right scary, and some repulsive. Where have all the Values gone? I am from an older generation of peace & love. Some considered it to be too passive. Maybe the article I read on college students is correct when saying .... "todays students are the most conceded and arrogant types ever produced...." I hope not.

No, I don't run around with flowers in my hair etc. Holy Toledeo! But, I do find it is so much easier to Love than to Hate. Hate eats you up! It can cause deep depression, anxiety, insecurity and being anti-social.

I find it so much easier to Love, than to Hate. Of coarse, I removed the word from my dictionary long ago. If one hates, I can only surmise, they hate themselves, and are doomed to a miserable life. Too bad, and sad.

I don't know you from Adam, but I love you, and hope you never loose the gift of Love you behold. Never loose it, despite the unhappy people who respond to you with ugliness.

Answer 6

That's all fine and dandy. But really, how MUCH do you love everyone? If you see a homeless guy, do you give him $100? Isnt that the least you can do for someone you love who has no home or food to eat? If it was late at night and he asked you for a ride somewhere or if it was raining and he asked to spend the night at your house, would you do it? All you do by "loving" everyone is lessen the meaning behind the word love. To love someone is to put that person ahead of yourself. Its about hard work and sacrifice and doing what is best for that person and making them happy. Thats why its not as easy as hating. What you really have is simply generally positive feelings for everyone....which is easy and not love.

Answer 7

Love takes tolerance and hatred does not. I can say I love you as a fellow human being without knowing you. There are 3 things that I have learned from life. If you possess these 3 qualities, you will do well in this world.

1) Tolerance
2) Self-deprecation
3) Accountability

Accept people for who they are, be able to make fun of yourself and be accountable for your actions. If you can handle these 3 things, you will do well. Live long and prosper.

Answer 8

I think that for some individuals, hatred just and with a reason: it's in movies, wrestling, hockey, video games, trading card games and in most of what's considered cool today under the brand of pop entertainment.

Also, Sigmund Freud once wrote in one of his essays (that which ends with "civilisation", sorry i don't remember the name): "to get together, people must hate on a common ground". That's what he grossly said at least, as I read that in french.

When two individuals hate the same person, they can share on that and become friends out of pride generated in the destruction of their target. From there, paradoxally, hate can bring love to life, or at least a kind of religious phenomena.

Answer 9

It is easy to hate because hate depends on ignorance. It is difficult to love because love depends on acceptance and understanding.
When you hate something or someone you push it away and get it out of your life. Over! Done with.
When you love or try to love something or someone you have to involve yourself, pull yourself ever closer, learn more about that thing or person. It is never over even after the person or thing is gone... love will linger.
I think that one should try to love everyone and everything until given a reason to do otherwise. And then you should try love again even harder just to see if you can!
The only things I hate categorically are ideas such as hate itself, prejudice and intolerance, and the pursuit of ignorance or just plain indifference.

Answer 10

I beleive that people hate easier because when you hate you shut off all your emotions, feelings, and you put up barriers to others getting close to you. so it's easier for some to do that.
when you care, love, or have feelings for others, you open up your vulnerabilities, thus open to getting hurt, decieved, and lied to. and usually you end up really feeling the hurt that others cause you to feel.
they say we choose to feel the way we do.
but I feel that we choose based on what others do to us and we react with either hate, or love.
barriers are the main cause for people not feeling anything at all.
you choose to love all people regardless of their race, origin or color of their skin.. you were taught to do this. but not all are taught those simple rules. many are taught differently causing different emotions to rise.
I wish their were more people like you, but the truth is, your becoming a rare type of person. and that is a sad thing in this world today. too much hate, too much fighting and too much destruction of Nature.
there is no balance which is causing alot of termoil and discontent with all things of life.