2007-03-16 10:38:01 · 33 answers · asked by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A marriage without love is no more than living a life as roommates. Honesty is best here. If counseling is not an option and you find no interest in her then it is time to part ways before kids are involved. Ask her if she really finds your marriage that satisfying. Tell her from the heart that you cannot make yourself love someone and it just isn't there. Good Luck.
2007-03-16 10:44:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt the marriage is loveless, or you wouldn't be in it. It has run love thin, and now you are in the harder years of marriage. Just because something get's tough doesn't mean you give up. You should be honest with her, and you all need to have a long talk. If she can't handle it, then let her have the final move. With the kid thing, you can adopt, but you definitely shouldn't if you are having marriage troubles. I hope everything works out and God bless you and your wife.
2007-03-16 13:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will hurt her feelings by telling her that you don't love her anymore. Either way you will hurt her. However, if you don't tell her now and something happens later you are all to be blamed. Confess, tell her how you feel and gently talk to her about tomorrow. If there is no love the marriage is doomed. It's better to split and find happiness with some other. Good luck!
2007-03-16 10:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would u need to add that hurt and tell her, if u don't love her, why not just get a divorce, leave her feeling better about herself than u found her. why hurt her self worth and make her think she is to blame for it. how u handle this is will show whats inside u, rather than the circumstances your having. theres no reason to tell her u aren't in love with her, or say anything except u want a divorce. sometimes we just have too high of expectations, love isn't about a feeling its a decision we make to stay in spite of our circumstances. feelings come and go, so today u don't love her but who knows what tomorrow may bring, so don't tell her u don't love her, u never know when u might want to revisit it.
2007-03-16 10:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she is aware something is wrong. Your probably giving off signs that your not happy, some you may not even realize. Your wife may be denying them thinking your just in a phase or something. I would ask her what her thoughts are, who knows she might be feeling the same way and just afraid to tell you too. Or she may be aware and just waiting for you to tell her. But there is no use wasting each other's time, you can't force it.
2007-03-16 10:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by mac_attack_51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't be an easy thing to tell her but the sooner you do even though she may be upset she will also be able to move forward and find someone to spend her life with that she loves and that loves her back. Probably doesn't seem like it right now but a good move for both of you.
2007-03-16 12:52:44 · answer #6 · answered by dms56blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, chances are she feels the same and you both can move on to meet people you share mutual affection with. It's going to be very difficult but life is too short to spend it in misery. Before you end it or talk to her about how you feel examine how you're defining love and how that has changed since you've been married. Perhaps it's something to work on.
2007-03-16 10:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change and feeling change, but people rarely just fall out of love. Before you say something so drastic, I think you should talk her into some couples/marriage counseling. At least make the effort to try before you go ahead and devaste someones world. I wish you both luck
2007-03-16 10:42:25 · answer #8 · answered by mlock123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is as bad as you say then unless you are a great actor, she already knows. So you need to talk things through, rediscover what brought you together, reseduce her, bring some romance back to your life together. You have no kids so you are in a position to give this all your attention. go to it. If then you still cant rekindle your love. you both need to decide if this marriage is for you, or if you can find happiness somewhere else.
2007-03-16 10:43:20 · answer #9 · answered by wally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by "you dont love her? " this is a good question for you to ask , try to answer this first. Insnt she the woman you CHOSE to be your wife? isnt she thewoman you dreamt & decided to build a family with? isnt she the woman you wanted as a mum to ur kids? What is love in front of all this???
Do you know that God puts in our heart respect to our spouse the day we get married? Do you know that respect is more worth than love?
Try to think wisely first & revise, try to see the positive points in her that you wont find elsewhere..
See a couple therapist..
Best of luck for both of you
2007-03-16 10:45:56 · answer #10 · answered by kitycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋