Is it that they just want something, or they feel guilty for doing the dumping?
2007-03-16 10:30:24 · 19 answers · asked by Noodles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe they are just trying to be civil, not everything needs to end in a nasty breakup.
2007-03-16 10:32:51 · answer #1 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If they cared about you as a person, they would be nice. However, most people need space after a break up to get over the person. So if the person is being "nice" just to kind of stay in the picture, he or she may be wanting their cake and eat it too.....keeping the door open, sort of speak. Make sure the "niceness" is genuine and not a manipulation. In the meantime, keep busy and let time help heal the loss.
2007-03-16 17:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by Maria M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They may be truly nice people that don't hold grudges and just don't want a steady relationship or comittment at this time.
They may also realize that they made a mistake.
Get another person and test the water. The new relationship may even be better. If it is worse date another and another until you get someone that treats you like Gold!
2007-03-16 17:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by hot wheels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never dated anyone I didn't like! So, after finding out we weren't life partners, and going our separate ways, we remained friends as much so as with any friends I've ever had. Maybe they're nice after the break up because they are actually decent guys that just weren't the right match for you. Or maybe they're hoping for some of that great post-relationship, until the next one comes along, casual friends with benefits sex. After all, no reason to let the parts get dusty while you're looking for the next perfect match!
2007-03-16 17:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's the mature way to go. Why treat someone like crap just because you don't want to be in a relationship anymore. I am still friends with people that I'm not in relationships with anymore. It was not working out, oh well...that's how I look at it. Unless he did something really rotten, I have no reason not to behave nicely to him.
2007-03-16 17:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It may be neither...it may simply be that they realized that you weren't a good romantic match for them, but they have nothing against you and have no reason to be unkind to you.
If you dated a while, then there was some level of intimacy there, you two got to know one another so are more than acquaintances....it makes sense that if the breakup wasn't ugly, that they would still be friendly toward you. There would be no reason to be otherwise.
2007-03-16 17:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never been dumped, but I get along with all my ex's actually. I think instead of being nasty about it, people just have to realize if it wasn't meant to be...then it's not going to be and live with it. All my ex's are actually waiting for me to leave my fiancee because they want another chance, but its not going to happen.
2007-03-16 17:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by Miss. Tee98 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's becouse they still have feeling for you even if they say "no i don't!"yea they still like you....trust me!no i don't don't think they want anything(sarcasim!!!) they might feel some remorse for the whole dumpage thing but they either really want to be their for you or juet plan on being your best mate...either- or... the good the bad...just watch your step and don't trip into the wrong arms
2007-03-16 17:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by sarah h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth I don't see my EX's when I move on it's a clean break and I never look back.
2007-03-16 17:43:56 · answer #9 · answered by miester44 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be all of the above - and also could be that they still like you as a person, just don't want to be in a relationship with you.
2007-03-16 17:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Neither, it is just that it really doesn't make sense not to at least be nice to the person you've had a history with.
2007-03-16 17:33:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋