will i ever date again?

Question

ive been married for 9 years and he as walked out 4 weeks ago and is happy with his new life , but will i ever date again? who would want a woman who had 3 kids?

Answer 1

You might be surprised, but you will never know until yoo get out there

Answer 2

wow The three kids part makes it hard but not impossible. Also don't forget kids grow up. They are not little and depend on us forever. As a person who is in a bad marriage, all I can say is that the child will be an adult this summer. I see it as a chance that if things don't improve I can start over. So speaking not as a woman who's husband has left but as one who has stayed for the sake of the kids if you will. I'm also sure your case will improve. It's only been a short while since he left. With time you'll see it was for the best. Look at it this way. Would you rather he stayed and did his own thing...on the side... All the time you fully knowing what's going on?

Answer 3

Don't sell yourself short. The age of single parent dating is more common today than it has ever been. The hardest part you will find is getting a babysitter. Start networking with friends and use Yahoo personals. Using the personals will allow you to screen your prospects a little closer and communicate via emails until you are comfortable meeting in person. Also use this time to look at what you would like to change about yourself. Nothing cheers a person up more and builds your self confidence than making some changes in looks and attitude especially when friends and family notice the changes right away. Remember to take your time getting to know these new guys, there are a lot of jerks out there that like to use women.

Answer 4

You have something every man wants; it's how you ended up with those 3 kids. So, unless you're fat (I'm not trying to be mean) and have low self esteem, men will be interested in you. Finding another marriage partner will be a little more challenging, but finding a guy now and then who will pretend your kids aren't a problem and your ex isn't a problem should be pretty easy. Bottom line: Companionship and casual sex and even short term relationships, not so tough for a woman; marriage opportunities, a little problematic. I'm just being honest, not mean. And there are men who don't have a problem with kids and ex's.

Answer 5

You need some time for you and the kids to heal first. But yes you will date again. I was the divorced mom of 3 myself. I always was very up front with a guy when he asked me out, letting him know that I had kids. It does limit your dating some doing that but you know right off if he's worth spending your time with. If a man can't handle you having children then he's not someone you want to be with. I've since remarried to a wonderful man and have 2 more children from this marriage.

Answer 6

You will date again. Take the time to get your life back on track and be happy with yourself first. When you feel that you are ready to try and date again, simply be honest with him from the beginning. There are still a few good men out there. They will love you and your kids. Trust the Lord and he will bring your "Mr. Right" into your life when the timing is right.

Answer 7

With divorce rates growing and second and third marriages becoming more popular, there are a number of men and women that have multiple children and are looking for a mate.
After heartbreak and being with someone so long, it is easy to not be completely rational and to be more negative than realistic. But you must try to stay strong for your children and make sure that you let anybody in your life know that your children are of the utmost importance to you. They can only respect you for that.

Good luck and take care of yourself, so that you feel good getting back out there and sharing your wonderful life with someone else.

Answer 8

Of course you will. You just need to boost your confidence up a bit. Once you are ready you should start going out with some friends and dating a bit. Trust me, there is a lot of men that would date a woman who had kids.

Answer 9

You will go out on allot of dates there's allot of horny guys but that's all they will wont . Not allot of people wont other peoples kids . I go out on allot of dates but even the woman as soon as they fined out i have a four year old they run for the hills I cant really blame them I'm older and woman my age kids are grown .Maybe you can fined a guy like on the Brady bunch . Don't give up there's somebody out there for you . I'm to old to worry about it myself my son is really my step son and i kind of like being single .I was married a total of 30 years so this is like a breath of fresh air.

Happy hubby hunting and have a great mothers day

Answer 10

Sweetie I know it looks bleak right now, but trust me, as I have been in your shoes. It gets better and Yes you will find lots of great guys to date!

I joined a singles club ( a few different ones) and found my present husband there ( when I wasn't lookin) We just celebrated our 3rd anniversary March 13th.

Right now take time and concentrate on yourself and your children. Find out who you are because so many times as wives and mom's we put ourselves on the back burner, so to speak.

Start by taking care of yourself. Physically and emotionally . Go do those things you have been longing to do---get a new hair style, clothes, enroll in college courses, join mixed single groups, go take that vacation you have always wanted to take .

Plan activities with the kids but don't revolve your entire world around them nor give them everything ( because of guilt feelings) a very common mistake of single parents.
Good luck and happy dating.
You'll make it!

Answer 11

You would be surprised. Never under estimate your self.
The Internet has opened the world to you. I can't tell you how many people have met & re-married after meeting folks on on-line dating sites.
My husband left. I met a great guy & no I live 5 mins as opposed to 30 mins from my job & mother. I'm in a far better town. My life is so much better.