iam in love with a married man ,and i feel lonely most of the time coz he is busy with his family but i know he loves me too although he promised me that he will marry me but i dont know i just feel that all the time i have 2 be alone ,i love him too but i dont know how 2 deal with that ..help plz thanks
2007-03-16 10:25:00 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whor_!!!!
2007-03-16 10:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with all the other ppl answers. I've heard of so many women ending up alone anyway after wasting so much energy. The guy sees you as a booty call, pardon me to say that! That's why he sees you at odd times or none at all.
There have been some success stories where some men divorced their wife to be with the mistress, but this is a hard bet.
By the way, the guys has too much baggage, even if he ends up with you. You have to deal with a pestering ex-wife and children who probably will hate more.
Open up your hearts to new potential love interest and kiss this man goodbye. It's hard, but u'll let go if u put it in your head that u want something else out of your life.
PEACE!
2007-03-16 10:35:19 · answer #2 · answered by She-whom-shall-not-be-named 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from the other side of the fence I would ask you how deep is his committment to his children. Point is he may love you for real, or at least as much as anybody can love a romantic interest, but does it overcome his committemtn to his children. Weekend daddy would be very difficult to be. And if he's not 100% about his kids, then what kind of man is he? I would think not one you would want. What you want to hear is someone tell you that its ok and keep hope alive, all will turn out. Its not so. A lot of lives will be ruined including most likely yours and his. If he leaves I promise you don't want it to be because of you. More to life than love interests, leave him be.
2007-03-16 10:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I curious do you really want a married man? Makes me wonder about any mans morals that would tell another women he Love's her and he's married. Would you actually want to be with someone like this? Would you be comfortable knowing you broke up a marriage? Might be time to take a good hard look at yourself and see if you like the person you are. How would you feel if your husband was talking to other women?
These are questions you really need to ask yourself....
2007-03-16 10:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen most people think badly of you because that is one thing you just dont do. You never be with a married amn because what if you were on the end of the relationship. The decision is easy you have to be strong and tell him that if he loves you he has to make a choice and then youll know if he really loves you. If he choses you then hold out until he leaves his wife and you know for sure he made a decision.
2007-03-16 11:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very lonely being the other woman. Unfortunately, you probably will always be just that "the other woman". He's got a great thing going by having you on the side. He has the best of both worlds. I'm not trying to be cruel, I've been there, and it's the harsh reality. If he has kids, he doesn't want to lose them, and really, he doesn't want to lose his wife either, or he'd have left her. You can choose to stay with him, that's up to you, but you will be choosing a lonely life. I'm sorry to say that to you, but it's true.
2007-03-16 11:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by 1978girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry for the bashing you're going to take here, but the dude is married, and you still consider him MARRIAGE material? Listen, honey....you're asking for heartbreak. He will keep you hanging, and still probably not leave his wife...but he'll play you as long as you let him. Then once you've had enough, he'll find someone else to USE. What makes you think he won't do the same thing to you? I do NOT want a man I have to pull out from under some OTHER woman. I can find my own. So can you. Stop waiting, and get a real man.
2007-03-16 10:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Deal with it by finding another person. You knew the situation when you got involved with a married guy. As far as promising to marry you - honey, you are just a sex toy he's keeping on a string to use at his whim and convenience.
2007-03-16 10:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HE IS MARRIED!!! End of story. Even if he was to divorce his wife and marry you, chances are and pretty good chances, are that he will cheat on you too. He is nothing more than a cheater trying to get in your pants. Dont believe a thing he says , he is a liar no matter how you look at it !Move on to a single guy.
2007-03-16 10:30:54 · answer #9 · answered by mlock123 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS SIMPLE: FIND SOMEONE SINGLE ON THE SIDE AND SEE HOW THINGS GO WITH THAT PERSON. HE REALLY CAN'T BE JEALOUS ABOUT YOU SEEING OTHER PEOPLE AND ALL, SINCE YOU KNOW.... HE'S MARRIED.....
YOU DON'T HAVE TO STOP SEEING THE MARRIED GUY, BUT YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE HAPPY, TOO. AND IF HE'S SERIOUS ABOUT MARRYING YOU, THEN MAYBE HE'LL SEE THAT YOU ARE SERIOUS AND EITHER DIVORCE HIS WIFE OR YOU WILL ACTUALLY FIND SOMEONE TO FALL IN LOVE WITH THAT IS AVAILABLE.
2007-03-16 10:47:59 · answer #10 · answered by sweetbabykitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen I ve been there too, he will never leave his wife for you neverrrrrrrrrr, this only happens in soap melodrams, forget about him & give yoursef some value so that people will. Leave him to his family dont wreck a house for a fanatsy. Pleaseeeeeeeee, moreover if he leaves her he ll leave you & so on... think & do whatyou had to, I am sureyou deserve better.
Good luck
2007-03-16 10:32:54 · answer #11 · answered by kitycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋