ok, im not sure if im bi or not...i mean im 14 and ive never actually dated a guy...but i did kiss one...we didn't makeout or anything but it wasn't just a little peck either, you know...and i think i like him but i don't know if this is just a phase im going through or if i am actually bi??? and btw im not gay...ive dated girls and i like girls so thats why i was thinking maybe its just a phase or something...
2007-03-16 10:19:12 · 12 answers · asked by Alex 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Maybe you could not worry too much about the label. Date who you like, kiss who you like, and don't worry about what to call it. Good luck.
2007-03-16 10:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by Pineapple Hat 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well I have to say this SDgurl. Girls hug and give little kisses and are affectionate in that way, but I don't know how many just make out with each other. I know girls experiment in some ways,but hugging and little kisses for greeting is nothing. I'm not sure that some of these girls aren't actually a little bisexual, because sexuality is a continuum remember, so they could be more sexually attracted to men, but have some towards women as well. As far as men is concerned, I used to think there was hardly any "straight" guys that experiment, but that is not true. The difference is because of society as you said. There is a great stigman upon men, wheras, girls being sexual with other girls is celebrated in our horny patriarchal society geared from the male gaze perspective. So that is why you see or hear about women making out with other women, because there is much less stigma against women,and in fact it seems to almost be looked as cool or a fad. Look at girls gone wild. Even for the private moments of experimentation between girls. It ends up getting leaked out, because in the end, it doesn't really bother teh girls too much that people know they have experimented.That is why people don't know or don't see guys doing the same thing, because of the stigma, so any experimentation done is way, way on the dl. Therefore, neither party leaks anything, and no one knows of such events, and then the guys go back to their like being with chicks and having sex with girls. But, there is more beneath the surface. I didn't realize until I've read information and heard from hear say.
2007-03-16 13:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by Brennan Huff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not personally bi. But I was bi curious at one point. It would help if I knew your age. However, I know from experience that we all go through phases and we all like to look at pretty things. Whether it is a pretty boy, or a pretty girl. I think you are straight.
2016-03-29 02:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell you dude you are gay... or at least bi. I've been there and felt the same way. It always starts with "just a kiss" or "i was just curious". But as time goes by, you will slowly realize that you really do prefer guys than girls. The kisses will turn into more intimate gestures. I tried to deny them at first but slowly and surely I am starting to accept the fact that I am not straight.
It would be better if you accept yourself as early as now. It would help you a lot if ever you decide to come out of the closet soon.
2007-03-16 10:37:09 · answer #4 · answered by David Koehl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be bi. A lot of girls "experiment" with other girls and are considered straight. Society looks at it this way because girls are more "affectionate" and they kiss and hug regularly. For guys, I think if you are feeling this way you may be bi because many straight guys don't even have these thoughts or would even try to get near another guy. I've never met a guy who has kissed another guy and considered it bi-curious.
Good luck. Hope you find yourself and just do what feels right in your heart.
2007-03-16 10:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by ☺SDgurl☺ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bicurious. You're far too young to know for sure. If you are still feeling this way in a couple years (16-17), then I would say that you may very well be bisexual. I admitted to myself that I was bisexual at 16, and it's stuck with me ever since.
If this feeling towards guys doesn't go away within a few years, then yeah. You're probably bisexual.
2007-03-16 10:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your probably just Bi curious hun. Your just 14 your still trying to figure out who are. I wouldn't worry about it none.
2007-03-16 10:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you're young so don't go title-ing yourself just yet.
only you know how you feel and you should stick with your gut instincts. be sure not to let other people pressure you into thinking you are one thing or another with labels or stereotypes.
just see where your experiences take you. experiment.
you only live once. have fun.
2007-03-16 10:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by theroomstoocold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're just a curious young man who wants to explore their sexuality. It's nothing wrong with that.
2007-03-16 10:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
before somebody can know if they are bisexual, they must first be bi-curious. which is just that - curiosity. once the act has occured one cannot be curious anymore, and depending on how the encounter made them feel, they will know whether they are bisexual or heterosexual.
2007-03-16 10:23:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋