We have one year of being 2gether, but we´ve been split by geographical distance for 6 months, I found he cheated on me by reading his email, (he left it open) he did not confess, he says he wants to try, should I forgive him?
2007-03-16 10:00:19 · 31 answers · asked by Caribe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do love him, really, with all my heart. When i told him I new, he did´n denny it. He wants to try again, he says he loves me, and I would be completly alone with out him.
2007-03-16 10:20:22 · update #1
eading his email aint that invasion of his privacy...its not as bad as what he did..id talk 2 him bout it an then se where it goes
2007-03-16 10:06:52 · answer #1 · answered by ToddMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
distance can cause a lot of problems in any marriage but since you have only been together for a year it was very easy for something like this to happen. i hope that you are together now. i would give him another chance but make sure he is not emailing this person. (if that is who the email was too) if you can not forgive him then your marriage will never work. many women will tell you that their husbands cheated, do you forget about it. no you never will but with time and committment you can still work things out. the important thing is do you both still love each other? if you truly love him give him a chance but do not hold this against him. learn from his mistake. maybe go to couples councelling or talk about it and let him know how hurt and disappointed you are, but let him know you are willing to put this behind you and work on your marriage now.
2007-03-16 17:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No person can tell u what to do..
U need to see with in ur self, By this I mean u need to ask God in prayer only he has ur answer....
Take some time away from him and see what ur mind, heart and sprite come up with..
I could say leave him he no good, I could say stay work things out. But in the long run only u know how u feel and if u can forgive him......
Remember if u dissed to stay u need to go to counseling by ur self and together. But from experience u have to fully forgive him I am not saying to forget that is impossible.
Good Luck with ur decision Let God guide u he know what is best for u....
2007-03-16 19:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by Natural 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's got to be your decision not this forum. Ask yourself this, will you ever be able to trust him with all your heart again? Will you ever wonder when he walks out the door if he is going to meet someone else? Will you be looking at his cellphone record for strange phone numbers? If you have doubts about 100% trust then you will be fooling yourself to try especially if he did this in that short of a period of time. The guy deserves the boot.
2007-03-16 17:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if he did it then, whats to say he wont do it again. The worst part is he wont even be a man about it and confess. Let him know he took trust away and if you do want to work it out, then test him for another year. If he gains your trust back then maybe it was just a one time mistake.
2007-03-16 17:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think he won't do it again? After just one year is pathetic. The first few years should be a honeymoon phase. I may be able to understand the actions after 7-10 years providing the romance has fizzled.
2007-03-16 17:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by Your #1 fan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you? If you think you can forgive him. If you think you can not then let him go.
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Truly loving someone is giving them the freedom to love you or not
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2007-03-16 17:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on you but I d advise you to forgive him give him a
chance, you know God forgives so why cant we.. just try to start anew but make him promise & tell him that this is his last chance, marriage is sacred so try to keep it.
Best of luck wish you all the best
2007-03-16 17:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by kitycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM WHILE YOU CAN.
I'd print up the emails for proof, then take some of his stuff and sell it either on eBay or at a garage sale, get your things and go. RUN LIKE HELL
please do.
you deserve so much better.
2007-03-16 17:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if you can get passed these feelings that hes caused. If you really love him and want to work things out. You be the judge on if you can honestly trust him agian.
2007-03-16 17:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs.Vick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. Only 1 year together and he does that??? Doesn't matter that you were apart for 6 months, he made a commitment to you the minute that he said "I do".
2007-03-16 17:04:54 · answer #11 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋