She did this to me after 17 years of marriage and we are now back toghether working things out, but I want to do something to get back at this guy so bad! He will not leave her alone and she has cut off all ties to him for us. We had to change her phone number, but she is afraid he will show up at her work or at our home? He refuses to talk to me.
2007-03-16 10:00:01 · 15 answers · asked by Frank B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, since it is all out in the open anyway, your best bet would be for your wife to obtain a restraining order and have it served to him at his place of employment. The benefits are two fold. First, it's embarrassing for him. Second, if he violates it he gets to go to jail.
2007-03-16 10:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by Pipe Grampa 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course he refuses to talk to you because there is no reason to. IF you and your wife are trying to work things out you wouldn't be so hell bent on getting revenge for something that was just as much your wife's fault as this guy's why aren't you trying to get back at her as well? It takes TWO to cheat on a marriage and being an adult she must have KNOWN right from wrong and yet she made the choice to cheat on her marriage. HER choices are not the fault of this other guy. As for him, I suggest you simply leave him alone otherwise he CAN have you arrested for harrassment. (and IF she really wanted him to leave her alone she'd be at the police station with a restraining order on him) so obviously she doesn't WANT him to stop trying to contact her.
2007-03-16 17:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, it's not his fault it's your wife's; he didn't force her to have an affair on you. Your wife probably sex'ed him up so darn good it drove him crazy and he'll do anything to get that sweet meat again. Basically, you're a bigger man than me cause I would have had the big D papers drafted and signed within the hour I found out my wife cheated. 17 years should mean something, you know?
Oh and 'getting back' at him, will only lead you probably to a crimminal record since if you DO do anything, whcih I'm saying don't, he can file charges on you and you end up in jail...which then gets you out of the picture and FULL access ot your wife.
Be smart, don;t do crap and get on with life. If you can;t divorce her.
2007-03-16 17:21:38 · answer #3 · answered by ark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your wife messed up. You are trying to clean up after your wife's mess. I feel bad for you.
Second of all, you are a big hearted man. WOW impressed.
Lastly, call the cop and get a restraining order against that guy. Don't try to involve yourself with him. If you are angry enough you might do something you will definitely regret later. You pay taxes, why not use law enforcement's help?
2007-03-16 17:25:46 · answer #4 · answered by Victoria78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not the one you need to be after; your wife is the one who broke the vows. She could take out a restraining order against him for at home and at work. Call the cops regardless, maybe it's considered stalking.
2007-03-16 17:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to get back at him, get a restraining order and show him that you and your wife are serious. Getting back at him will make you look like a low form of life and you won't feel good about it when all is said and done.
2007-03-16 17:45:02 · answer #6 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the law involved and take out a restraining order. You don't want or need the bad karma from taking the matter into your own hands, even if you think he deserves whatever you may dish out.
2007-03-16 17:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok an update:
I left the sob a message that stated everything was going great on our end and if he tried to contact or see her in the future, it would be the last thing he did. I then told him she told me evrything about you and you know nothing about me.....Back the **** off or else!
Have not heard from him since, so I don't know?
2007-03-19 14:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by frank b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check into your state laws on stalking. If your wife can file charges of stalking it will not only get back at him, but solve the problem too. Good Luck.
2007-03-16 17:13:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Consult a domestic relations lawyer. She may be able to get an order of protection prohibiting him from having any contact with her.
2007-03-16 17:04:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋