i feel ughly..do u guys understand?

Question

im in the states my husband is in pakistan. here i dont fix myself cus its just me at home with the baby i let my eyebrows grow and i feel sooooo ugly my sis says u look fine to me but im someone who takes time on looking perfect or i end up feeling ugly.like when my husband comes home from work i hear his car i would run and put eye liner on and lipgloss really fast and fix my hair LOL..does anyone feel this way as i do?

when im with my husband DUH! now im in the states<--details for people who try to act dumb when trying to answer questions

when i used to go out b4 marriage i used to get dressy n wear makeups fix my hair. now i go out looking fugly by wearing nething i look like some immigrant from a village whats wrong with me :(

Answer 1

Sounds like you could be depressed. You are away from your husband , raising a baby alone right now. It happens to a lot of women. You are lonely. Here is what I suggest. Get a babysitter, go out and get a new hair do , get a massage, have your nails done, shave the legs, pluck the eyebrows, get some nice perfume. Make yourself feel pretty. Then get out the video camera, take some home movies of you pretty self and the baby and send it to the hubby.
Also, remember alone time is a must. Take time to go to a park or on a walk in the woods, it is not good to sit in the house tied down with a child day after day regardless if you husband is home or away. Bless you.

Answer 2

i so understand i have 2 little kids at home and i never have time to look good but i just now found a system i get up around 7:00am and the kids get up at like 7:30 sometimes 8 if in lucky and then i make breakfast and the kids play together for i while and at 10:30ish the kids go down for a nap they are still young so they still get 2 good naps so i get from 10:30ish to about 12:30 to take a shower put on my make up and i still have time to clean up toys and stuff like that before the kids get up and went they do get up is lunch time more play time then 2:30 its a 1 hour nap and we have different thing planed every night. so that's what i do i hope you wound some help in that...and you can also make play dates for your kids or get a baby sitter and that can give you a few hours to your self and you can also alternate one day you take time to do you hair and the next day you just through your hair up and you put on makeup so you don't have to do all of it the same day that's what my girlfriend does and she looks good all the time.well i hope that helped you in some way, good luck with your life and don't worry your beautiful.

Answer 3

Start fixing yourself. Just b/c you're home with a baby doesn't mean you should let yourself go. Get your eyebrows waxed, get dressed in the morning (don't lie around in frumpy clothes), put on some makeup and a little perfume. A little pampering and taking care of yourself, even for 5 mins, will make you feel much better.

Answer 4

I have the same feeling. I don't have a child and my wife is not living abroad, but I often feel super ugly, fat, basically inadequate. I don't know what to tell you other than talk to a professional about it. It sounds like you just feel really lonely since your husband is not around. It really sucks being in that situation and I applaud your strength in this matter.

I wish there was something more I could say to you, but I know that a lot of other women feel the same way. Just keep on keeping on. Know that you are loved and you are beautiful. I know it is hard, but life sucks sometimes.

Answer 5

You should want to look good for yourself, not just your husband, but I personally don't think you require to be made up to look good. Exfoliate, moisturise, use a zingy shower gel like Original Source, eat good healthy meals, take what exercise you can. I make myself fresh carrot, apple and ginger juice which puts life into you (and then ruin it all by drinking cola and eating chocolate). Also make time for fun: I like to have a swing in the park sometimes when there's no-one else about. No-one's that good looking. I'm certainly not but I have my assets (eyes, jawline, teeth, figure) and I'm sure you have yours too. Focus more on those and less on what you don't like: that way you'll project confidence and confidence (though not arrogance) is beautiful and attractive. xx

Answer 6

Don't be so hard on yourself, your husband saw enough
in you to make you his wife and the mother of his child.

If all's well, he will return home and you can put your makeup
on again for him if you wish. I'm sure he appreciates you
for caring enough to "..run and put on eye liner and lipgloss
really fast and fix your hair...." just for him! What man in
his right mind wouldn't want that from his wife?

You seem to be a wonderful person.

Answer 7

Give yourself a big pampering session and you will feel much better. You should feel pretty regardless. Have a nice new haircut and start wearing some make-up and you'll feel much better! I never do anything with myself during the week and I feel ugly nut then I get all done up going out and feel great!

Answer 8

that is normal i mean if you are not going to see the man you would dress up for then why dress up.. so you can sit around the house.. I mean yeah you would want to just to keep your self esteem up but I totally understand.. I do the same thing.. when you feel like you are ugly you can go fix yourself up and get all pretty even when your husband is not home and then take pictures of yourself.. get them developed and when your husband returns then you can give them to him in a special way either in a scrapbook, or something, but it could be a way to share yourself with him while he is gone and if he takes pictures of himself you could combine them together even when you guys are apart. (Plus having pretty pictures of yourself helps you to not feel ugly).

Answer 9

whats wrong with immigrants from villages?
they need love too.
are you ugly then, you dont give your stats, but dont listen to your sister she will just say anything to keep you from crying.
get upstairs and fix up youself, get a babysitter and have a night out on the town, nice kebab on the way home.
but remember to get rid of those bushy eyebrows

Answer 10

get back to your old self you'll feel alot better then when your husband comes back you don't have to rush i know you have a baby i dont know how old he/she is b ut maybe you could sit her or he down with toys or a dvd while you get ready it works for me mate who has a baby if you feel ugly when your like this your gonna be so stuck in a rut and let your self go completly let the old you shine through