2007-03-16 09:36:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
As long as both parties are legal, age is only a number. I know of several long term relationships where the difference is of 20 or 25 years. Each of the relationships are successful and the people quite happy.
2007-03-16 09:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by castle h 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes an age difference can be a real problem in a relationship. The older person might be in a different stage in life than the younger one. I have seen that before in some gay relationships where one guy is older than the other by 10 or so years.
My boyfriend is 7 years older than I am and it's not been a problem. I think what IS important, more so than age, is the personality of the two people. But then again, maybe not. Sheesh, the more I think about it the more I see that there is an infinite number of variations in relationships and that for every one that doesn't work there is one that does. Hmmm...does that even answer the question?
2007-03-16 16:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by David C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, it's not so much about the age as it's more about power and control. Sadly, a lot of times the much older person abuses the younger one in some sort of way. I'm not talking about sexual, but as in getting their way and more. Now if we're talking something like 13 and 18, the 18 better not be abusing any kind of power or control. Then again, would that age gap normally have enough in common to want to have a relationship?
While in adulthood age may not be that much of a difference, I'm pretty sure 20 and 60 is a much bigger gap in how people change and act then 18 and 13.
So that's pretty much what I look at, power and control (and if their being abused), and not so much age.
2007-03-16 16:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ievianty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having had major crushes on women 10 years my senior, I'm rather flexible when it comes to age gaps. I would say 12-15 years would be the max for me. I mean, if I were to say that an age gap of 5 years is pleanty, and anything over that is gross, then I would be a hypocrite.
So yeah. 12-15 years seems like an acceptable age gap to me, once you turn 18 and become an adult, and about 2-3 years of a gap when you are under 18.
I still have a crush on one of the women that's 10 years older than I am, and when I think about her, I don't think, "Whoa. She was driving when I was cheating on my spelling test (for a 1st grader, the words 'Valentine's Day' are curiously complicated)." Instead, I just think how great it would be to be with her, and how (hopefully) she wouldn't mind having a woman 10 years her junior be enamoured with her.
Age used to bother me a lot, but now it really doesn't. I guess you just have to go through a few massive crushes on older women (in their 30s) to break out of that shell, eh?
2007-03-16 17:06:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i think that it first depends on the ages...like 18 and 13 is just nasty..but then 20 and 23 is fine...i think that as long as it is not an adult dating a child age is nothing but a number and if you can handle that kind of thing....if a 23 year old wants to sleep with a 80 year old and can keep all their food down at the time that is their business.look at Holly Bridget and Kendra...they are happy with Hef.But really a question like this has no right answer...people do what they want!
2007-03-16 16:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by noseyroseysillywillie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's funny you ask that because I have had quite a few crushes on women who are 20 years my senior at least. Would I ever tell them? No way! I think older women usually want a lady who has gone through some trials in her life, so I feel like she has the unfair advantage of living life compared to me seeing as how I am in my 20's.
Damn these older women infatuations! LOL But I've moved on. This new crush is only a few years older than me. It's about time too.
2007-03-16 21:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends. I am 20 and my boyfriend is 26, people think thats a big age gap, but I don't really feel like he is that much older than me. I feel like we are both on the same level. I don't think I would date just anyone that much older than me, though. I think that as long as both people are adults, it doesn't really matter that much to me how big the difference is. It might be gross though, if one person is like 80 and the others 22.
2007-03-16 16:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by ☭ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont matter theres a 5 year difference between my partner and I, enough for the social/generational differences to show.
Recently i saw an age difference of about 20 years and they were perferctly in love an happy.
Age is only a number its how you feel inside that matters.
2007-03-16 16:45:17 · answer #8 · answered by Prometheus Cowboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your under 20 I would say its ok for 2yrs different as you get older the age doenst make that much difference as you would both be adults and grown up an understand the world, hope this helps :.)
2007-03-16 16:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by devangel11 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as both are consenting adults the gap can be whatever works between the people involved.
2007-03-16 18:53:18 · answer #10 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋