How come I cry at everything?

Question

I understand there is a difference in being emotional and crying.. When I try to stand my ground, being it towards my boyfriend or with someone I am angry at, I always cry. I can't stop it. It always happens, then I can't get what I want to say out. It's automatic. I don't understand why I do it. I never used to. Like I said, I understand when it's your time of the month and you're emotional and all..but this happens to me every single time. I want to learn how to control it and be able to stand up for myself and speak my mind. Please help?!

I'm not pregnant, it's not hard tears or anything, it's just kind of like silent tears. I try and stop myself from doing it.. it just automatically starts. I even bite my tongue to try and stop.. I think I am depressed but not sure..

Answer 1

Crying can happen with just about any emotion, including fear or happiness. Usually it happens when emotions are more intense. The below is from Wikipedia:

Crying or weeping (physic tears): The third category, generally referred to as crying or weeping, is increased lacrimation due to strong emotional stress, depression or physical pain. This practice is not restricted to negative emotions; many people have been known to cry when extremely happy or when they are laughing. In humans, emotional tears can be accompanied by reddening of the face and sobbing — cough-like, convulsive breathing, sometimes involving spasms of the whole upper body. Tears brought about by emotions have a different chemical make up than those for lubrication. The limbic system is involved in production of basic emotional drives, such as anger, fear, etc. The limbic system also has a degree of control over the autonomic system. This is more specifically the hypothalamus. It is the parasympathetic system that controls the lacrimal glands. Acetylcholine is the neurotransmitter specific to both the nicotinic and muscarinic receptors. It is when the receptors are activated that the lacrimal gland is stimulated to produce tears.[2]

Which brings me to a quick question; are you convulsing when you cry? Are the tears rapid?

In any event, what you're talking about isn't really unusual. I'm a guy and that happened to me when I was younger; if you're arguing directly with someone standing across from you it can happen. The fact that you said "every time" may be happening because it's become an automatic response that you're used to. Try restricting it as much as you can and think about something else for a while if it happens; maybe you'll stop the habit.

Answer 2

Some people have a chemical inbalance that makes them more emotional all the time. Perhaps when you feel that someone is being unfair or unkind to you, and forces you to defend yourself, you get emotional. Try mentally telling yourself that you will say what needs saying and do so without tears! At the first sign of feeling emotional, stop and take a deep breath and silently remind yourself that you will not cry. I hope this helps.

Answer 3

hmm..ok so it might be the fact that if someones against you, you feel very upset about it and cry. i know what you mean. i think biting your tongue helps and just try breaking eye contact from someone else before holding the tears in. once you manage to do that, just try looking down on the ground for a moment and say what you want to say. it might not help though but try it.

Answer 4

Crying is a 'totally natural' thing to do when someone is 'under stress' ... and you simply have 'obsessed' about it to the point that it happens whenever you feel that you are 'under stress' and 'must perform to someone else's standards.' I'm betting that when you were younger, you were taught NOT to 'stand up for yourself' but to 'behave' and 'be nice' ... and that is coming up in you as your 'silent tears' now that you feel the need to stand up for yourself with someone. If you can 'know this' deep inside yourself, and you say to yourself 'I NEED to stand up for myself and not 'behave'and 'be nice in this instance' then I think you'll find that your 'silent tears' come less frequently, and that you can 'stand up for yourself' with style and grace and not 'break down' the way you feel you have been doing.

Answer 5

Have you had children? After I had my kids, I became more sensitive. I am not sure why, but everything began to make me cry. I'm still that way and my youngest is 2 years old. The only thing I can say is write what you want to say down, that way you can read everything that is on your mind, take a break if you need to, and come back to it.

Answer 6

just let the first words of your statement be extremely rude and cursive , its liberating and then after you cuss out whoever it is thats making you mad then feel free to take 10 minutes and cry to yourself.

Answer 7

You feel helpless, powerless. Now it's time to ask WHY do you feel helpless?

Answer 8

maybe cause u are pregnate or u realy love him and can't be without him!!