A childhood friend of mine invited me to her birthday party at this popular comedy club here in town.And I hadn't seen here in like about a year and a half,and when I seen her, there was no hugs, and not even a smile, when she seen me she said "Oh hey' then sort of walked off, so I'm like well maybe she's got alot on her mind because she was the hostess.But once she was finished with getting everything situated..she sat next to me..and she never really spoke to me the entire time..She conversated with people around me..but not really to me..Plus after the show ended,..she walked off,..and I yelled bye see you later..and she came back and gave me hug..and said okay take care ..plus on top of that after I seen her that day..she hasn't invited me to any of her parties... .so I'm a little confused about here behavior..I know noone can read minds but what would you think if someone you had grown up with did something like that to you..?
2007-03-16 09:23:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What is the reason that you two haven't talked in a year and a half? Maybe what was there a while ago just isn't now. People grow apart, life changes them, it happens. Life happens. Who knows what's going thought her head, I wouldn't worry for too long.
It seems like maybe you were a filler for the party, I hate to say it though.
I'd say your relationship has fizzled and if she can't even have a small catch-up conversation with you at some point during that night, then forget about her. Don't go out of you way
2007-03-16 09:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by nico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should confront her, not aggressively though, and ask her about why she was acting strange. It'd be a shame if a good friendship were to end just because of a misunderstanding. You said she was the hostess, so maybe she was under a little stress that evening. She might have thought you were having a good time so she went to tend to the other guests. If you talk to her and you find out she really was just being rude, then at least you know the truth about her. Knowing what kind of person she is now, then you won't have to waste your time with her anymore. People who ditch others like that shouldn't be your friends. Don't let her treat you badly.
2007-03-16 16:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by primapeache 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think either of two things. Possibly she is not really interested in continuing the friendship and simply feels obligated to even do the things she's currently doing (that you feel are not enough) because you all grew up together. The second option is that you two are simply having communication problems. She may think you are acting differently/distant and therefore is acting likewise. You both might be perceiving each other's actions in a similar way. If the friendship is important to you, your best course of action is probably to think about the importance of the friendship to you and if it is important (which I sense that it is). If you decide that it is important, you should invite her to lunch or something similar and talk about staying in touch more. In that setting (lunch), you can possibly get a better read on where she stands by her words/reaction and body language.
2007-03-16 16:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by Jazz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you haven't seen her for a year and a half! Of course it's going to be kind of awkward! My BEST friend recently came to visit me and I hadn't seen her in 6-7 years...even though we talked on the phone every week we were still kind of awkward. I just had to warm up to her!
I can understand at the beginning why she acted like that - she was a hostess and couldn't really talk cause she was working. But she DID come and sit next to you. Did you try to talk to her? Sometimes you can't always expect people to make the first move - you have to make it yourself! If she hasn't really invited tyou to any of her parties, why not invite her to one of yours? Try to rekindle your friendship and make the best out of it!! GL!
2007-03-16 16:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by i love love 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her what was going on. Not in any accusatory way, but simply 'hey, what's up?' or 'is something bothering you?' Then, if necessary, which it usually is from my experiences, explain, kindly, how you feel. IF it is time to move on, then remember the good times, and the bad, and remember the lessons that were learned, and live on. May fortune be with you, and may the stars guide your path....
2007-03-16 16:29:58 · answer #5 · answered by Lost Ranger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u care more about her than she does u. maybe she has moved on in life since she hasn't seen u in over a year, and you had different expectations , that she would be a little bit happier to see u. its our perception of things that hurt us. we can't change others, they are who they are, and we either accept them or we don't. but maybe she isn't as close as she use to be, people change.
2007-03-16 16:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her ask whats going on say " I know you have other friends but what about me?"
2007-03-16 16:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by baseballplayer 1992 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you don't see a friend that is really close to you they make other friends and they don't really think about you
2007-03-16 16:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your friend will act like that that means shes half your friend half not got it!!!
2007-03-16 16:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by elizAbeth bAbeZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, I have no idea. lol sorry but I can't seem to read that....
2007-03-16 16:27:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋