My son's dad wants to see but i don't want him to he treated me like crap when i 1st had my son now all of a sudden he wants to be in his lfe don't get me wrong i love him because he gave me a ver joyus thing but i really don't trust him i would never ever let my son go anywhere with him should i let my baby get used to him or what? should i let him be apart of my childs life!!!!
2007-03-16 09:22:12 · 12 answers · asked by Proud Mommy 2 Cameron♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
He is like five yrs older than me and when i found out i was pregnant he told me all kinds of things he even told his mom not to let me come over so she could see the baby!!!! He called me s**ts and h**s and every thing else in the book so why should i let my son be his life!!!! He told me to get abortion when i was 15 so he wouldn't go to jail when i told him no the threatend to kill my baby!!! I'm 16 and doin great with out him!!!
2007-03-16 09:40:10 · update #1
thats a decision you and only you can make based on what you know about this man. is he worthy of being in yours and your son's life? think long and hard before making any decisions.
i felt the same way about my son's father, i made him give up his rights when he was 1 year old and haven't heard from him since, it was the best thing i could have done for my son. it was a bad situation that no baby should have been involved in. good luck
2007-03-16 09:29:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has the same rights to your son as you do and it isn't fair to your son to not let him know his father. Every child should be able to have a relationship with both parents. I say allow him supervised visits with you at your house. Remember he can go to court in the attempt to gain full, partial custody, or visitation rights. However, I don't know what type of person he is so I wouldn't know if he would try to do anything stupid. You need to do what is best for your son... your feelings need to be put aside. And who knows he may really want to get to know his son.
okay i'm editing this part now that i read your additional details. you should file the proper legal papers for restraining order to keep him away from the two of you. also being that he is 20/21 i would suggest you inform the police. He's a pedophile and should not be rewarded for taking advantage of a minor. if his name is on the birth certificate than he has rights to see the child unless revoked by the courts.
best of luck!
2007-03-16 16:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by jessicamichelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, you should let a child and his father have a relationship. If you feel that he is violent and will hurt the baby then you request that it be supervised visits. But you have no right to prevent that child from seeing and getting know his own father. That is not a decision for you to make because when that child gets older you better have a good explanation of why you didn't let him see his father and believe me it has to be a damn good reason.
The number one role model for a boy is his father so encourage that they have a relationship. even though you may hate the father be encouraging and supportive. Every effort you make in making their relationship fruitful will only benefit your son. If there are things that you do not like that the father is doing talk to him as a friend and someone who wants the best for your son. don't be rude, condescending or belittling, try to be encouraging.
2007-03-16 16:31:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The childs father has the same rights with the child as you do. He can go to court and get court-ordered visitation or you two can make the arrangements between yourselves. You cannot keep him from seeing his son unless he is a drug user.....
You picked him to be the daddy, after all - work something out.
2007-03-16 16:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously isn't all bad if you had sex with him and had his child. He is a part of his life whether you like it or not because he is 1/2 that child! What happened between you and your child's father has nothing to do with the child's relationship with his father. Unless this man is dangerous or a pedophile you have no right to keep the child form his father or reverse.
You need to keep your feelings toward the baby's father out of your child's hearing.
2007-03-16 16:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by itsjustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your worried about your child's safety have it court ordered to be supervised. If you can tolorate him meet at a safe location ie an indoor play park, mcdonalds ect. And have some "family time so it doesn;t freak your son out right away. They both have the right to know each other. Good luck.
2007-03-16 16:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by jalopina98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on why you don't trust him. Is it for personal reasons? Then your being unfair to your son. However if he is a threat to your son in any way, then fight it.
He may just not have been ready when you had the baby. Doesn't give him a right to treat you like crap, but an excuse none the less. It really depends on what happened, how he was before that, and how he is now.
2007-03-16 16:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
the baby has nothing to do what happened between you to.let him be in his life b/c you dont want to be the cause of him not having a dad right.im sure hell thank you for ltting him have a dad around.b/c there are many kids out in the world that would love their dad to be in there life and aint there.so let him see him lat him have a dad to just like he has a mother. if you dont let him be with is dad helll then in the future have some kind of hate towards you for not having a dad around
2007-03-16 16:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, he's the father, he has a right to see his kid. Just because YOU TWO couldn't get along, don't penalize the child. If you think he would harm your child then go to the courts and get the proper paperwork filed that will only let him have supervised visitation!
2007-03-16 16:37:55 · answer #9 · answered by schaianne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start off by letting him see the baby with you there and for like an hour at a time and you see how he does and eventually if he does ok i would let him but if he isnt then i would just do supervisied visits.
2007-03-16 16:28:15 · answer #10 · answered by swee_t_pie27000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋