Worried becoming a father?
Hello to all. I am a coming father now and my girlfriend have the baby now and its 1 month old.She have 5 kids , 3 months divorced. I am from the Philippines and a au pair of her(my girlfriend from Denmark)we find we have in common and make this baby together.
I am worried and need help for my problem.Specially her parents, her 5 children and the people around her.
I wanted to be the best father of the child she have now but i am sad how will they say and react when they know she is pregnant.
I want the best for myself, her children, to her and the people around her.
PLEASE HELP ME!
Shot me an answer.
Im waiting for her she is at work now and her children are on weekend visit with their father......
2007-03-16 09:21:39 · 4 answers · asked by Adonis G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
With that sort of attitude, I would say you are well on your way to being a great father and partner.
I wish there were more men like you in the world. Your girlfriend is very lucky to have you.
Children of divorce can sometimes be difficult for the new partner in their parents life, try not to take it personally, especially if they are young. As they grow older they will realize what a great person you are, just be good to them in the mean time and try not to take things too hard.
Good luck!
2007-03-16 10:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just present yourself to be a loving competent person to her parents, let them have their own opinions. You cannot control other people, or how they think and feel.
You have already done all you need to prove to your girlfriend and her children and your new child, that you love them and want to care for them. While her parents approval is important, your life together doesnt hinge on that, and it certainly doesnt decide whether you're a fit parent or not.
Most parents feel that marriage is the place for children, if you two are planning to get married, maybe advancing that date would impress her mom and dad and show them that you're more than willing to committ to their daughter and her children.
If you're of mixed race, and thats your concern, dont even go there. If they want to be closed minded about things, all you can do is love them in their ignorance.
You will be a good father because you choose to be a good father. Thats what makes you reach out and grow to learn how to do those things. You'll be fine.
2007-03-16 09:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its very honorable that you want to be a father figure to her other children as well. I don't know her family so I don't know how they'll react to the news. Have they met you yet or will this be the first they hear of you? I think its best you just prepare yourself for anything but stand by her and help her through. This time will be hard on her as well. Congratulations and best of luck.
2007-03-16 09:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by duckygrl21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let them know calmy i mean you want kids of your own too right who cares how many she has you want your own and who cares how they react they cant prevent her from having more kids as long as she has your support and you have hers dont care about others
2007-03-16 09:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋