Hello to all. I am a coming father now and my girlfriend is 1 month old.She have 5 kids , 3 months divorced. I am from the Philippines and a au pair of her(my girlfriend from Denmark)we find we have in common and make this baby together.
I am worried and need help for my problem.Specially her parents, her 5 children and the people around her.
I wanted to be the best father of the child she have now but i am sad how will they say and react when they know she is pregnant.
PLEASE HELP ME!
Shot me an answer.
2007-03-16 08:56:12 · 12 answers · asked by Adonis G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You might be in store for a rough 9 months. If her parents and kids don't approve of your relationship. It will get easier after the baby comes. Babies have a way of melting hearts. Take good care of your girlfriend, and her parents will respect that. Try to get to know her kids if you don't already.
Best of luck!
2007-03-16 09:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Well, the whole situation sounds a bit irresponsible.
If I understand correctly from your post - you are an aupair in Denmark from the Philippines, the lady has 5 kids and is just divorced, and you guys got together and she became pregnant since a month??? is she sure she want to have the baby?
No help will come to you through a site - what you need is a job, a profession, to earn a good living (6 kids are expensive... I guess she gets alimony and child support, but most of the time it isn't enough for taking care of everything).
You are taking on a lot of responsabilities - and you are not only becoming a father to your child, but also establishing life-long responsabilities toward her other 5 kids and their father.... I hope you are legal in Denmark...
The only person who can help you is yourself, get out of panic mode and think about what you want to do.
2007-03-22 05:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by OneLilithHidesAnother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you'll be a great father, because you're there, not running from this, trying to help already. Good for you!
As far as what her family/friends/kids will say, whether they like it or not, this baby is already coming. They'll get used to and accept the idea, eventually. Babies bring a lot of pleasure into a home. Her kids will probably, after awhile, start to become excited about having a new little brother or sister. Once the baby is here, your biggest worry will probably be settling the argument of who gets to hold the new baby first!
Be there for your girlfriend, like you already are. Things will work out. Best Wishes for you all!
2007-03-16 16:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Adonis write to me its so easy .can you be the father for all 5 of them .if you loved her why would you want to have a baby for you ?there are all yours if you love her .Ok if you want to have thats fine tell all of them showw all of them how you love them all .show to your wife how much you could be caring but make sure you handle this Q very carfully my e mail somangalasitharthan@yahoo.co.uk
2007-03-23 14:13:34 · answer #4 · answered by scorpion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too late to care what others think now. just concentrate on the baby and being happy good luck
2007-03-24 13:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by beth b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill man... babies are usually good news unless you're in your teens when you made it, or if you did it with your cousin... that would be horrible! Your child would have a nice chance of coming out with problems if that's the case. Otherwise, don't worry be happy.
2007-03-16 16:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
they will be suprised at first but they will be happy. if you guys have your own house togheter invite both of your parents(bothsides) and tell them the good news, better now then later, you know
2007-03-24 10:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by coley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray to God for help in your situation and next time, keep your pants zipped!
2007-03-24 00:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by fungirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't care Wat other people say if you love this women end the new baby stand up be a man love her kids so that you have Wat it takes,help her around love her be there
be a men
2007-03-23 22:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your girlfriend is 1 month old? Sicko. She's a baby. haha
2007-03-16 15:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by Scpwnz 5 · 0⤊ 7⤋