When we were told to be monogamous, We were only living in to our 30's. Now we live for so much longer is it unreasonable to ask a person to commit to you for life.
Before I get attacked this is a question NOT an opinion!
2007-03-16 08:53:15 · 19 answers · asked by Psycho Chicken! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just want to say Im happily married. Its just a question!
2007-03-16 10:02:42 · update #1
Yes you are right.... people used to live shorter in the old times.
Nowdays you have people living up to 100 (and a slight plus) which is scary.
Imagine a couple being married for 100 years?? If its TRUE love then being together that long won't be a problem unless one dies years earlier.
I am not expecting my husband to stick with me for that long although he does not seem to be wanting to going anywhere in a hurry. :-)
2007-03-16 11:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by _ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the answer, but observing people and their lives, it seems like monogamous people are a bit happier, a bit more balanced and they have the security of knowing they have a person to share their lives with when they get older and don't maybe have everything going for them that they did when they were younger. People who don't live monogamously have more varied, sometimes more exciting lives, with more ups and downs, and perhaps that serves some people well, too. One thing - it does seem like a tough transition for people to go from having many partners, to settling down for one....maybe just because they have developed a lifestyle that is hard to change. But, thats what freedom is all about - the right to choose your own path and accept both the ups and downs that come with those choices
2007-03-16 16:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by Paul 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've wondered that too, and I've been happily married for 15 years with no thoughts of changing it. I know lots of divorced couples and it seems they married without really putting much thought into it. I think that younger folk's should try to wait as long as possible to commit for life IF that's what they want. I tell my kids "No marriage til yr 30". I don't know if they'll listen, but I certainly think its a great guideline for our times. We live longer, we can have babies when we're a little older, why rush things. Take the time to learn who you are, experience life, be established. A person like that will really have So much to offer a spouse.
2007-03-16 16:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Monogamy is necessary to help us through life. If the relationship is not good best to be honest and part for properly thought out reasons and respect the person . Affairs are damaging to all parties....not just the one cheated on.....people often dont think before they jump. It is wrong and insulting to the partner. Move on and be monogomous again in the next relationship you commit to.....thats what I feel anyway.
2007-03-16 16:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No monogamy isn't outdated. It is a choice. Some people want monogamy and some don't.
It is not unreasonable to ask another person who believes in monogamy to commit to you for life.
Those who don't want to be monogamous should be honest about it and not jump into a marriage.
Marriage is for people who want monogamy.
2007-03-16 16:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your thinking and it's a good question but i think that monogamy is a great thing to people in serious relationships or marriage as it's all part of the trust thing and wanting to be with just that one special person so in that sense i dont think it is outdated and is an important factor. just because we have become more up to date i dont think this should be disregarded. if you dont want to commit to one person then dont put them under the impression that you do.
2007-03-16 16:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask someone for commitment as long as a couple has decided that being married is what they want to do.
It depends on if the couple want to commit or not and how committed they want to be I suppose.
2007-03-16 17:22:37 · answer #7 · answered by Free Tee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people today dont hold the vows to heart as much in the older days, while people are living longer, there are a few mammals that actually mate for life,
I do not believe humans were ment for one partner for life,
2007-03-16 15:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's just very unpopular because people have chosen to give in to their impulses.
It is possible to be completely fulfilled by one person. It is actually very positive (if a little tricky). Just think, have you ever spoken to someone who has just found out their partner was cheating on them and is OK about it? It hurts and destroys lives. But just like smoking, which kills, we probably can't kick it.
2007-03-16 16:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by andflors 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, monogamy sucks and don't you know it. Its not natural at all.
You should continue to sow wild oats until the day you die. And if somebody finds you attractive and you find them attractive you should be able to have fun together just like playing a sport or something.
2007-03-16 16:12:19 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋