Ok as you know i'm only 13 yea huh i know what were you thinking having sex at 13 yea ok cool i get the harsh remarks i do!!! But this question is not about mt itz about my child!!!! Ok my boifriend iz 18 and i'm scared to tell my mom and dad they are going to blame my big sister for all of this cause she had her baby a month ago and i wanna be honest towards them but if i tell them who the dad is i sue they are going to try to lock him up!! And i'm scared of telling him cause noone knew we were going out!!! i scared to tell him cause i'm scared that he might not do right at all!!!!! Wat should i do!!!! oh yea don't say nothing about abortions cause i don't believe in abortions!!!!!
2007-03-16 08:40:51 · 40 answers · asked by ♥Mrs.Brown♥ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
By the way i never told him how old i was i told him i was 16 thats why i am soo scared!!
2007-03-16 08:51:17 · update #1
its best that you be totally and completely honest about this whole thing! I know that you are scared but believe me parents have a way of getting the truth out sooner or later believe me. and i know that you don't want to hear this, but what business does an 18 year old have messing with a 13 year old girl?! believe me i have been in a similar situation and i know that you may be like feeling the whole "love" thing but believe me it WILL pass once you go through hell and back. just be HONEST!! life gets way harder than this, make it easier on yourself and your child now.
2007-03-16 08:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by supachick31554 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well you won't be able to hide a pregnancy, and you will need your family. SO you should talk to your mom and express to her that you were a willing participant in intercourse, and if this is true that your boyfriend didn't pressure or coerce you into intercourse that you don't want charges brought up on him. Then you need to really consider what is best for this baby. You are only 13 years old and have no idea what you are in store for. I was 17 when I got pregnant and it was so hard, I can't even imagine what 13 would be like. You could always do an open adoption where you would pick the parents and get pictures and updates of the child for at least a year. You can write a letter for him/her and put it in the adoption file. But you should really think not about what you want but what is right for this baby, you will have a hard time being the parent that a child deserves to have. Just talk to your mom and really weigh your options minus abortion. Good Luck.
2007-03-16 08:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by kt 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, you've got a fine kettle of fish, don't you?
Yeah, 13 and having sex and now pregnant. Lying to a guy about how old you were. By the way, if that much is true, then he didn't intentionally behave in the manner of a pedophile. He may not even get into too much trouble.
You've already done enough harm by lying. And your parents are going to figure out something is up pretty soon. Most females (can't call you a woman, you aren't old enough) start showing around the fourth month of pregnancy. Your parents shouldn't blame your sister, it isn't like she told you to go out and have sex.
Truthfully, I think you need to tell the father your true age, and after you've hit him with that news, follow it up by telling him you're pregnant. You both need to figure out what your next plan of action is going to be. I think you are WAY too young to be raising a child (your body is too young to be HAVING a child...)- you might want to look into placing the baby up for adoption. Staying in school is really important at your age.
After you and proud papa have talked, go to your parents and tell them. No more lies. Be upfront, and take the blame for his being 18 and not knowing you were only 13.
2007-03-16 09:10:57 · answer #3 · answered by Paula S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay tell your parents that you're pregnant, you need to tell them the truth. When your parents ask whos the dad which they will tell them that his name and how old he is. When your parents start screaming like crazy tell them that you lied to him and told him you were older cuz u did. Next, tell your bf that you're only 13 years old he'll definitely be mad at you and go balastic even cuz he can go to jail for having sex with a minor. After that, make your bf if he is going to support you with the child but if he leaves the state scared sorry you're by yourself. If he does stay make him meet with your parents so you can guys can talk. Well in the beginning it won't be talking your parents will be screaming at that boy maybe, i'm just trying to tell you things that can happen here. Anyways after a while your parents will realize that he is the father of your baby and they have to understand that you love him and he is the father of the baby, hopefully they won't press charges. You and the father have to decide what you're going to do with the baby. If he really loves he'll marry you or at least support you and the baby. Good luck!!
2007-03-16 09:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny0305 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should just come clean & tell your parents now... They will eventually find out in a few months when you start showing. Did your parents every mention birth control to you?? After you have this baby, you better get on something so this does not happen again... you should be worried about school, going out with friends, getting good grades, etc..not about have a baby. & yes, your parents should have him locked up if he is 18 & you are only 13!!!!!! That is a crime & he should be punished. If he does not do what is right, then you will have to go to court.
2007-03-16 08:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to tell your parents. I know you don't want to and you're scared, but you can't hide it. They will initially be upset (mainly due to shock), but they will help you through this. Whatever they decide to do to your boyfriend - make sure you are doing the best for the baby.
Right now you have 2 choice for this child: Keep it or give it up for adoption. To make the right choice, answer the following questions:
Do I make enough to buy food and diapers for him?
Do I make enough to buy clothes for him?
Can I get medical insurance for him?
Do I have a safe home for him?
Will my parents help me raise him?
Am I really mature enough to raise a baby on my own?
Do I want to finish school?
I know these may sound harsh, but I know how hard it is to raise a child. I'm not a pre-teen, but I have a 13 year old daughter and I also have a 6 month son. I am in a solid marriage, but it is still a struggle to make sure all the bills are paid, the kids are fed well and clothed well, etc.
More than likely your boyfriend will bolt b/c like you said - technically it is statuatory rape - doesn't matter that you consented. He will only focus on saving his own butt.
You are in a difficult position right now. You really need to sit down with your parents and talk to them. If you are not ready, talk to your counselor at school. Good luck. Keep the little one as the number one priority in your decision.
2007-03-16 08:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by simplecountry94 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a mother, so I definately have a different perspective on things, you need to shoot straight with your parents, this will show that you are mature, as far as him being 18 shame on him. Pregnancy crisis centers in your area maybe helpful to you and your family. Adoption may be something to consider as you will be a kid having a kid. Get into the doctor soon, this will be a high risk pregrancy for you and your future child. It is officially time to grow up, you have some hefty decisions in the next nine months.
2007-03-16 09:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by chris k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow girl im ashamed of you but i will still help you. you made a big mistake sleeping with that guy who was 5 years older than you. and the sad thing is you are only 13 and now you will miss all the great things about being a kid...because of your lusts. but anyway i digress, the best thing for you to do is tell your parents what you did. tell the guy you slept with the truth and to try to make an adoption plan for the baby. it will be hard but what other option do you have. if you approach this in a mature way im sure things will go accoding to plan.
2007-03-16 11:30:42 · answer #8 · answered by N E G R O P L E A S E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you really should tell your boyfriend (especially if that's what your considering him) he has every right to know and he will need to own up to his share of the responsibility.
As far as your parent you may as well tell them NOW because they are gonna know pretty soon when your belly starts showing and growing. Yea they may be upset but at least you won't have to worry and deal with stressing over not telling them.
And your parents may consider pressing charges against your boyfriend due to his age and your but that is something you really need to discuss with your parents in not doing.
You now have to leave and deal with the consequences of your actions. I wish you the best of luck. Congrats
P.S. Make sure you try to finish school. It will be tough raising a child and doing so but hopefully you will have your families support especially if your are gonna take care of your baby.
2007-03-16 08:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never been pregnant but I do know You made a mistake. You lied and he can go to jail for that. You can't hide your pregnancy. He shouldn't be punished if he didn't know. If I was in your situation I would tell the guy first that you are pregnant and tell him your real age. Tell him not to tell ANYONE about it. When you tell your parents you are pregnant, tell them that you snuck out and got a stranger to buy you alcohol and got drunk and had a one night stand and don't know who the guy is or what his name is. OR something along that line. But make sure that you know the fathers real name so after you turn 18 you can put his name on the birth certificate. Tell him in order for him to stay out of jail, he has to pay you child support and put in into a bank account your parents don;t know about that way they don;t know you know who the father is. If he doesnt pay you every month, tell him that you will tell on him. Its not nice, its not right, but it will help you out. If you need more info or someone to talk to email me at xxmilitarychikxx@yahoo.com
2007-03-16 20:40:11 · answer #10 · answered by xxmilitarychikxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋