I already tried the whooping approach, my parents rescently caught him with marijuana and don't know what to do, he is 16 and becoming out of control, my mom even had to quit her job to watch what he is doing, I am going mad, please help
2007-03-16 08:28:53 · 14 answers · asked by gtamayo1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
does anyone know rates of a boarding school or something like that?
2007-03-16 08:30:14 · update #1
I've had a lot of experiences in this field, most people that do drugs are self medicating themselves, and don't even know it. Forcing the situation makes things worse I'm sorry to say, it pushes them towards the drug more, the pressure they feel is to much for them and the drug becomes more of an escape. Sending them away will stop it until they meet others that do it, it doesn't take long, and usually they end up trying something even worse then pot.
All is not lost the first thing is try an intervention, contact some rehab places and get info on the subject, also try to find out why he is smoking pot, he may not really know himself. Try some counseling the problem may be something else and the drugs may be caused by this problem. What ever you decide please DON'T THROW HIM ON THE STREETS, that is the worst thing to do, he needs to know he has support, this is going to be hard, I wish you all well. Hopefully you can stop this before he moves on to other things.
2007-03-16 08:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by mdgbear68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience, boarding school does not work.
Your parents should sit down with him and set goals. Trying to control him will only cause him to rebel. Give him goals but give him some freedom. For example, if you want him to stop smoking marijuana, tell him to get a job (job drug test). This will force him to voluntarily give up smoking marijuana.
The high school years are the most rebellious stages of any teens. Teach him responsibility but do not over-control him.
2007-03-16 08:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by bobbino11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it is nice to say that "we are our brothers keeper", it isn't necessarily so. There are several things that you might try. 1. See if he can get a tour of a jail. Let him see where he is headed. 2. Show him a "lock down" unit at a mental hospital. 3.Locate and get him to attend a Narcotics Anonymous meeting. (Or an Alcoholics Anonymous open meeting) 4. Failing all that, tell him, and convince your parents, that if he continues, he is out of the home. The last is the tough part, but if he is made to exist on his own, scrounging from his friends, and druggie buddies, how long will he last?
2007-03-16 08:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats rape,that guy needs to get His junk snipped and his *** wooped,thats how little girls like u every day get killed and turn up missing,thats why ur parents teach u dont tal to strangers for that reason,so yes,a 14 and a 20 yr old is sickening,im 20 yrs old and id nvr stoop that low no matter how old u thought u were,we live in a dangerous world and things like that will get u killed,abd who ever sent that last answer about the 20 26 thing,grow up
2016-03-29 01:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom had to quit her job over this! That is insane, your brother is very irresponsible. Send him to rehab. If it gets worse, he will be a burden to your family, and you know you want only the best for him and yourself. Your mom can't just stay around monitoring him, she has to work.
2007-03-16 08:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by Dana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what pyhcal active you do wont stop hom taking it. i took drugs for a while and it was because i felt trapped it maybe because he cant talk to any1 about a problem he has and he is turning to drugs for a way out it is a relif when you are so bogged down aand you cant see away out. my advise is listen to him and dont pressure rise him into talkin
2007-03-16 08:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by jenkinz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an intervention is needed? what is that? when a professional counselor who specializes in alcohol or DRUG! ABUSE! gets your family involved to point out to your brother just how badly he ismessing his life up with drugs! i suggest that you take my advive and get help for the family! drug addiction and alcoholism are also family diseases and everyione in family needs to confront your brother about drug use! go to your school and talk to the staff there! they will be glad to get a counselor for your brother! if he insists on using drugs, the nyour mother needs to get him put away in program for his own good! your mom! needs to step up to plate on this, and get him help! and i suggest that you, go to al-anon! and get peer group support! there are other kids who have same problems!
2007-03-16 08:35:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
beat him up so bad he will think he is high
Im 13 and i told my 16 yr old brother beat the hell out of him if i saw him or heard he was doing drugs. It only works if you can really beat the **** out of them.
2007-03-16 08:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Military school.
http://www.military-school.org/
2007-03-16 08:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not control someone else but you can leave it to God......Prayer.....Strong prayer......AND show a lot of love.........If you start yelling at your brother to stop smoking then it would make the situation worse.....LOVE....TRY telling him that you love him and continue saying that and continue praying
2007-03-16 08:34:33 · answer #10 · answered by carebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋