We have had a rocky relationship, he is SPOILED! I told him the fact that I have not met his dad bothers me. He said I will but still nothing. Seems like he wants to keep a life with me, one with his friends and one with family all separate. I also catch him in lies. My friends tell me there is a good reason why he is doing this! I just feel that by now, I should've at least met his dad.
2007-03-16 08:23:50 · 12 answers · asked by AE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He has a great realtionship with his dad!
2007-03-16 08:48:31 · update #1
Trust me I know how you feel. I'm currently in a relationship that is quite close to that :(
After 2 years it's downright unacceptable. There is NO reason for that not even if his dad was a convicted murderer and his friends circus freaks. Meeting his family and friends is something basic you should have been offered to do AGES ago - like after the first few weeks of serious dating. I agree with what has been said before - if he really loves you he should be proud of you and want to show you off no matter what. If I were you I would ask myself a pretty simple question:
Why?
And don't ask him, it's time to stop listening to his excuses and lead your own investigation, corner him into accepting you into his other life. It might not seem pretty but track him down and find a way to 'run into him' when he's with his friends/family. See his reaction and you'll know if he's embarrassed by them or by YOU.
Girl, do what you have to do! Hire a private eye if you have to, run a background check on the Internet. Bottom line DO something quick and serious to clear this mystery once and for all. I feel and I'm sure you do too if you're asking yourself this, that he has been hiding some pretty dark secret from you (or else even worse YOU are his dark secret) and that either after you find out what it is you accept it and your relationship will be stronger and healthier or else you can't possibly live with it and better find out now than in 10 years.
Just my 2 cents :) I really hope you have the strength to go ahead with some serious research!!!
2007-03-16 09:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by Andrea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is extremely suspicious behavior. Unless he has explained some extenuating circumstances about his father, such as he was abusive or a drunk, this is simply unacceptable. Two years is a long time to be in a relationship. The fact that you haven't met his friends is even stranger than not meeting his family. Guys are always hanging out with the boys and if he hasn't made the introductions, there is a serious reason behind his way of thinking. He is clearly uncomfortable about something or keeping a secret. If I were in your shoes I would suggest a get together with his friends and see how he reacts. If he isn't cool with it, this should tell you a lot. He should be proud to introduce you to his friends and family.
2007-03-16 15:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by sandra b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for two years and havent met anyone from his side of the family or any of his friends???? that does not sound right at all. 2 years??? no..he is hiding something. he could be hiding or playing games with you adn trying to keep you a big top secret so that he is not caught. let him go.....after two years, you should have more than that. move on. you are going to get hurt in the long run. he is not all that nor is he worth it.
2007-03-16 15:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by dana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship where my 'other' cheated on me. He was an idiot for thinking he'd get away with it, but smart enough to know not to bring the other girl around his family and friends. Think about that and what that might be saying...
And the woman he cheated with, never knew he was in a relationship with someone else...
2007-03-16 17:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by Oh Suhnny Day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few things that could be happening here. Either he knows his family would not be supportive of his relationship with you or they could be a messed up family that he is embarrassed of. don't crucify your guy just ask him to please be honest with you and just give you a reason for all of this if he can't explain maybe you should dump him.
Honesty is #1 in as good relationship.
Good Luck! :)
2007-03-16 15:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about meeting specifically his dad. My father is a jerk and I never want the people I am involved with to meet him ever but unless he has something to hide you should have met some of his friends and family, not necessarily all but some.
2007-03-16 15:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by Don Quesadia 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't be foolish.....I was, for five years, same thing, always said I would meet his friends and co workes.....never, I found out he had not one but two other girls on the side....and he lied too.......get rid him girlfriend, he is toxic and will only bring you down. good luck..now go dump his lying a**.....
2007-03-16 15:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck....my son is married for 18 yrs and we have yet to meet her father. Only seen her mother 1 time...bunch of weird-o's.
2007-03-16 15:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by Squirrlee-1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm that is weird, normally you meet the friends almost right away. I would tell him how you feel and tell him that you are questioning his feelings about you.
2007-03-16 15:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah... you're wasting your time with this guy. He's a loser. If he really cared, he would have wanted to show you his world and make you a part of it. Get rid of him and get over him. Upwards and onwards!
2007-03-16 15:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by mufflerbearings1967 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋