Follow up to my last question: What would you do in my situation?

Question

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=At.7bQmhBzcBhDr42OnYlqDsy6IX?qid=20070311143502AArM3do

The above link is to my last question. I was with a woman (yes I'm a woman), and when we were broken up, I started hanging out and doing things with a make friend of mine. I got back together with the girl, and found out I am pregnant. I asked if I should tell her and him, and the consensus was to tell both of them. Well, she dumped me (not a big surprise since she didn't want kids). I told my friend, and he wants to be a part of our lives. He says he wants to live together but not in a relationship type of way. I don't have a problem with that, but I'm afraid I'll grow attached to him and get jealous if he brings women home. I'm not a total lesbian, btw. Do you all think I should take the chance of living with him or just tell him he can be in our lives but not in the same living space?

Answer 1

You didn't say if you really wanted this child, for the sake of my answer I will assume you do. If you feel that you will have jealousy issues if you live with the child's father, then by all means do not do it!! If you already have misgivings then you should live by yourself with the child. Remember, you will have this man (the father) in your life for the next 18 years at least! Make sure that the child does have a relationship with his/her father, it is essential.

You are obviously confused on your sexual orientation. You will find yourself eventually. Just be a great mother and let this issue work itself out in time. Maybe being a mother will help you!

I wish you the best! ;)