My dad has 13 children. My mom has 4 children of which I am her oldest. My dad's oldest children are the same age 32 years old. They are one month apart. One of them is a girl and one is a guy. There are 12 years between us. I was put up for adoption as a child due to my dad being put in prison and my mom never being around. In October of 2006 I found my biological family and moved in with my oldest brother in November which required me moving over 1000 miles. He is divorsed and has two children. He is everything I could ever have asked for in a man and so much more. I'm in love with him and vis versa. Things are getting a little heated in our relationship and so we are both backing off. I want to marry him. I want to spend the rest of my life loving him and taking care of him and all that jazz but I don't know if it is illegal and if we were to marry and have children what would be the chances of the kids having problems? What can I do?
2007-03-16 08:04:31 · 21 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah... he is only half related to me. His mom and my mom are very differnent women but our daddy is the same. I know that I need to prob. just get away from him for awhile. Neither of us has been able to have a healthy dating realtionship since we've been together due to the fact that we are so much alike in our pasts and dreams and such that we confide more in one another and our other relationships fall through the drain.
2007-03-16 08:41:22 · update #1
does it make a difference in genes if we share a dad and not a mom or is it the same?
2007-03-16 08:57:53 · update #2
Yes. I am sorry but it would be illegal, wrong and gut-churningly disgusting if you were to have a physical relationship with your brother, even if he is your half-brother. If you did have children by him, it may be that they would seem perfectly all right to you. Maybe you would never notice anything wrong about them. But problems could appear in the next generation or two. You see, the children of such incestuous relationships get a double dose of any faulty genes. So if there is a tendency in your family to develop any physical or even psychological problem, your children's and grandchildren's chances of having those problems would be greatly increased. The problems themselves may be much worse because of the high proportion of the "faulty" genes. To add to that, once your children realised the nature of their parentage, the shame and emotional trauma they would have to endure would be unspeakable, and they may even feel suicidal. It would be very hard for them to regard themselves as normal with the rest of society regarding them as products of an abhorrent, deviant union. If they were so unfortunate as to have mental or physical problems, I think their misery would be complete. And how would you be able to avoid the conclusion that it would all be your fault?
I don't want to sound as if I am judging you - I think it's probably the case that you've never felt loved and now you've found this lovely brother, who may be lonely after his divorce, and the two of you are mixed up and confused. If you can get your relationship back on track as a decent brother and sister relationship, you have the potential for a lifetime of love and emotional support for yourselves and any children the two of you have from future, normal relationships. If you let your relationship mutate into this awful travesty, I think you, your brother and all the family are headed for a very real disaster.
Think very carefully about the consequences before you take any action, and see if there's anywhere else you can live, and any counselling you can get. Good luck.
2007-03-16 08:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying you both have different parents? If he is your blood brother then it is wrong, it is called incest; also your children will have problems because of having the same blood and they can have numerous and various mental and emotional and physical disorders...it would be a very costly relationship~because of your dysfunctional situation you are probably bonded because of all the division etc: it really wouldn't pay~it would be a lifelong trouble ~you should really pray about it and ask God to give you both someone compatible~there are many repercussions you can research re: same blood~it is possible that he is a father figure to you which will eventually turn you off
2007-03-16 08:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by sego lily 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Even if you are only half brother and sister, you still share part of the same DNA. It could be considered incest and it may also be illegal. If you were to have children, the children would have some sort of problem because two parents with the same DNA can't mix.
2007-03-16 09:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by daniellelaura118 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must already have mental issues. What in the world would make you move into a man's home after only knowing him for one month and then five months later decide you want to marry him. Crazy! Yes it would be illegal to marry him and immoral too. He is your brother. You should move 1000 miles away again and find a life.
2007-03-16 08:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by Trisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your long tail I couldn't figure if he is your real brother, half brother or step brother.
Most states have laws concerning relatives getting married. You better check with your state or find one that allows what you want to do.
There is the risk of birth defects with any children the two of you might have together.
You mentioned that you were in love with him. For some reason nowhgere in your tail do you mention how he feels about, from that I suspect that you feel stronger about it than he does. If so I would think long and hard about it
2007-03-16 08:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by ttpawpaw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sooooo wrong! And you can do nothing but move on! Anyone you would call a brother or a sister you can never consider marrying or even being sexual with them! What is wrong with the both of you?! If you had children they would be even more screwed up than you two!
2007-03-16 08:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by NLH823 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong wrong wrong Think about it would you be alright with a son and daughter of yours getting married,having sex,etc.. that's incest not to mention what it will do to your brother's kids when they grow up and find out their dad is married to their aunt.
2007-03-16 08:30:44 · answer #7 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could probably marry him legally because you said that you were adopted so on paper you guys are not related. However, by blood you ARE related so you kids would be (in the words of Carlos Mencia) deedeedee.
2007-03-16 08:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by littlemama_rules 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look elsewhere for a mate. if this guy is your half brother, that means that you share the same mother. that is considered incest that is illegal. and besides if you two have any kids, something would be definitelty wrong with that child (retarded, etc.) because you two share the same genes. find someone else.
2007-03-16 08:53:34 · answer #9 · answered by dana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your half biological brother is 12 years older than you and you want to marry him.
Why?
2007-03-16 08:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by Aurora 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋