The guy I've been dating for like 6 months does cheese (another term for Heroin) like bad. Once in the morning, at lunch (during school), after school, and later on in the day. I've told many times over that I don't like him doing it but I know I really can't tell him what to do because it's his life. It would be different if like we weren't as close as we are. We've been friend since we were in elementary so we're pretty much best friends/boyfriend and girlfriend. some of the stuff he's told me he's never even told his parents. Normally I would break up with a guy for that but I just cant do that to him, because not only am I his girlfriend but I'm pretty much his only life line. Uhhh i just don't know what to do!
2007-03-16 07:40:51 · 12 answers · asked by raverx4xlifee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey, do not feel obligated to be his crutch. Heroin is one of the worst drugs out there. If he does not recognize he has a serious drug problem and doesn't want to do something to get away from it, you'd better be the one to get away from him.
There are many factors involved in using heroin. It is one of the most addictive drugs and one of the harder ones to quit. It is expensive and once he runs out of 'lunch money' he will have to resort to crime to get it. It makes you IMPOTENT while you are under its influence and can leave you permanently impotent from sustained use! Once you are totally hooked, there is no substitute for its effect, not even the love you feel you have for him now. He will drag you down with him. If you really love him, get a responsible adult to advise him. If you really love yourself, get away from him!
2007-03-16 07:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly, there is no good answer for this question.
You cant get him to stop. He wont stop unless he WANTS to stop. Take it from someone who's been down this road many times to know what they're talkin about. There is only basically 2 options,
1) accept the fact that he does drugs-and keep him, even if you dont want him to do them. or
2) leave him-because he's not going to quit.
I hope everything works out for you. And in the end, just follow your heart. Trust me, though, it would be better for you to get out right now, because it WILL, not could, but WILL ruin your life if you stay with him. Best of luck!
2007-03-16 07:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and explain to him your feelings...and give him the choice. If you are more important than the drug, he will make the decision to get help and stop. You should not stay with him out of pity though or he will throw your life into his habit. Make the choice his...you cannot "make" someone quit an addiction. They have to want it.
2007-03-16 07:45:41 · answer #3 · answered by Sensible Momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's addicted and you must tell his parents because he needs treatment only they can get for him. Don't put the burden on yourself to deal with this, he got himself into it. It's not your job. Sticking around for the pity party and enabling him will not help him one bit.
2007-03-16 07:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's fairly young and by that I mean young enough that it isn't his life legally. He needs help and rehab or he won't ever get old enough to legally have that life. Period.
2007-03-16 07:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by bobble242 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By putting up with it, you are enabling him and he is going to kill himself. You need to tell a counselor so that he can get help. Believe me, you will save his life.
2007-03-16 07:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just leave. ive been through a situation like that for 3 years and you cant help him. he has to actually want the help on his own
2007-03-16 07:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by hello 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to save his life by telling someone like maybe his parents !
2007-03-16 07:49:03 · answer #8 · answered by notyochic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its hard but you have to do whats best for you, if you think you can get him get off it and he is willing then give it ago, but you can only try for so long and you dont want him dragging you down
2007-03-16 07:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by Charlotte S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs rehab. Talk to him about it and get others who care about him to participate. Check out www.hazelden.org and www.aa.org.
2007-03-16 07:45:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋