Why do gay men have to act like girls or feminine?

Question

I was just wondering why gay men seem to have to act just like girls. I mean they dress like them, talk like them, and even walk like them. I'm totally gay, and I really like guys. Why would I want to be with a girl, or a guy that acts like a girl? I was wondering straight guys, gay guys, lesbians, straight girls, anyone, do have an answer to this. Or have you ever wondered yourself.

Answer 1

SOME gay men do.......

It's their business...right?

Answer 2

Here's the thing we learned from a neurology course...

Men and women have very different brain structures and physiology. For example, women have a much bigger and more intricate corpus callosum than men do. However gay men have brains that are distinctly shaped like a woman's (bigger corpus callosum) and lesbians have brains that are distinctly those of a man.

So a gay man is literally a woman's brain in a man's body. That is why they are typically so feminine and why lesbians (conversely) tend to be more masculine. Also subconscious non-verbal behaviors reflect this, as gay men tend to walk and use smaller, "limp wristed" gestures like women.

I think much of your problem is derived from sexual desire being evoked through sexual polarity. A feminine essence seeks a masculine, and vice versa. The problem can arise where you have a feminine essence but most other gays also have feminine essences, which can hinder attraction. Sounds like you need to find a gay man with a more masculine essence - it happens (there are straight women with masculine essences) but it's less common.

I hope this has been at all helpful or informative.

Answer 3

You are a gay man and you don't know the answer to this? You don't have to "act" like anything you are not. Most gay men in my circle of friends are very masculine leather men, they would not know what you are talking about. If you took a good look at women, you would see that effeminate men (either homosexual or heterosexual) do not act like women at all. Heterosexual transvestites or crossdressers(and the majority are heterosexual not homosexual), emulate an exaggerated female that is not based on actual fact but their perceptions of the female through the male experience.

I think you need to grow up alittle and expand your very narrow view of the world we live in.

Answer 4

not all gay men act like this, not every homo walking down the street is flaming, I've met several men who turned out to be gay and I wouldn't have known otherwise unless they told me. For those who do, maybe they are just more comfortable acting more feminie because that is just how they think and feel withouth making wanting to make the physical transition.

Answer 5

Not all gay men do. Usually the media shows those gay men who act like more femine. I'm bi but I think of myself more of a man than a woman.

Answer 6

You hit the nail right on the head. I feel exactly the same. Only, not all gays are like that. A lot of them are, yes, but the dudes I go out with, you'd never know they were gay. So they are out there; your just seeing the obvious and flamboyant ones. Sterotyping, ya know?

Answer 7

It's in the "gay male rules" rule book, rule number 69: if you want to be a gay man, you have to act like a girl. Can you say: stereotype?

Answer 8

I get asked this question all the time, I even dated a "fem guy", I was attracted to him by his body style(ie twink) long story, and still dont know the answear best I can say is their just that way.

My current partner, myself our friends(in and out of the Leather com.) are all butch acting and finding totally funny(no offense) when we see someone like this.

Answer 9

Really?? We all act like this?? I guess someone forgot to tell me that I have to act a certain way because I'm gay.

Answer 10

i have woderded myself i am totally gay and i Love being a man, i don't act fem at all, in fact i can't stand guys that do

Answer 11

They don't all do that. Gay men who are "out" often communicate their gayness with body language but not always.