how many rights do you need to make up for one very big wrong?

Question

if you hurt someone how far do you go to make up for it till youve gone to far??

Answer 1

it depends on what you did. Let's say you cheated for instance. You admit wrong, you apologize, acknowledge fault and vow to not do it again, how you will go about preventing further occurances. You give the person time to get over it, and you're done. if a person can't find the closure they're looking for within themselves they won't with any amounting of butt kissing. at that point you're just catering to an insecurity and someone is milking the guilt trip.

Answer 2

It depends upon what the hurt was. Some hurts will only heal with time. Other hurts you can apologize for and the person may accept the apology right away or in a few days. Once you apologize and try to make amends the ball is out of your court and there is nothing else you can do.

Answer 3

Its only when you feel its too much, everyone has different feelings of what they consider is a lot of effort, some may think just an appology is enough but others may continue giving presents and doing chores etc.

I say at 1st do as much as you can then after just calm down a bit and dont go out your way. It depends how much you care for them. But if you never give up you may end up waisting your life unhappy due to someone elses stubberness to forgive so then move on

Good luck

Answer 4

At work, for HR purposes, I was always taught that it takes 10 positive praise statements to ease the sting of 1 single constructive criticism.

Now extrapolate that to an emotionally attached relationship. You can't quantify "it will take 100 kisses to make up for one cold shoulder"... the human heart just doesn't work that way. As someone said... until your partner says "enough already!" is pretty much your limit on making up for a wrong you've done.

Answer 5

I think the official figure for making up a very big wrong, according to her majestys government is 63, although this can be reduced to 51 pending an application for forgivness.

Answer 6

Two people are hurt: The person you hurt and you. Go as far as you need to make it up to the person you hurt and enough for you to forgive yourself and learn. Otherwise the person you hurt may be fine, but your guilt stays and it goes too far.

Answer 7

All you can do is show them how sorry you are and hope that they forgive you but you shouldn't have to keep doing it. If they do forgive you that should be the end of it . If you have to keep proving to them that you are sorry then they haven't really forgiven you and possibly never will. As long as you are sorry that should be enough and if they want you to keep proving it then it doesn't say much for them. Maybe they can't forgive you even if they want to and in that case you can't do much about it but just hope in time they will. Good luck.

Answer 8

Depends on what you have done and how much you love that person. Thinking about the other person, they need to decide how much they want to put you through before they accept your "rights" have cancelled out the "very big wrong".

Answer 9

A sincere apology should be enough to let that person know you hurt them and your sorry. If you have done that and they still have not forgave you than you know you have done all you can.

After that point they are holding it against you like black mail to make you do more for them or to boost them up.

Answer 10

I figure for every wrong you commit (I'm not talking about maiming or murder) you slip ten rungs down on the ladder. This is significant considering how many good deeds it takes to gain one rung up. Avoid ever having to do make-ups...too much work.