My husband and I made the decision before we were pregnant that unless we were having serious problems connecting with our baby, we would wait to find the sex out untill birth. Everything about the life cycle seems to have become so clinical, we thought it would be nice to leave some mystery. But, everyone seems to think we are crazy! Some have never even heard of people waiting until the birth. So, I ask, have any of you waited (in recent years) or thought about it?
2007-03-16 07:35:13 · 23 answers · asked by The Hippy Momma 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
We have names choosen already, and our nursery theme is jungle based, pretty unisex. We talked about circumcision. Are there any other "important decisions" we are missing by not finding out sooner?
2007-03-16 07:41:36 · update #1
I agree with you 100%
People (esp Americans) seem to abuse the priviledges of science for their own benefit. I work with supervisors who actually "schedule" when they will concieve and deliver to coincede with vacations and business meetings. Like damn when did child birth become such a "nuisance".
People want to know what the child is, to plan out the baby's enitre life before the poor thing even finishes developing, that sick. Again so "theyre" not inconvienced.
The actually birth is the highlight of the whole pregnancy, like waiting for the ultimate christmas day gift! i
If you choose to wait, god bless ya...
Explain to them, "our baby is a gift, we're waiting to be awarded, not a meeting to be planned or scheduled". Life does deserve some mystery.
If they keep asking you, take my approach.
When asked "what are you having"?
Simply say "A BABY"!
lol
2007-03-16 07:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by too_hot4words 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I have three children ages 7 5 4 with the first we didn't know we wanted the surprise we had a girl the second we were hoping for a boy an the first ultrasound didn't tell us but the second one did we had a son. Our third I had many complications with so I had about thirty ultrasounds and the very last one we asked what it was in case we lost the baby we could prepare things the baby was born 9 wks early and is now a very spoiled little girl. I think it depends mostly on every situation. Either way you will be happy as every child is a gift no matter the sex and if you knew in advance or not.
2007-03-16 07:49:08 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We didn't. My daughters father is a muralist and wanted to paint the room. We did a superhero theme, but instead of boys they are all girls. I also find that there aren't many generic clothing for babies anymore.
I recently read that the "fun" ultrasounds that some women are paying extra for may be going away. A new study is coming out soon about the dangers of too many ultrasounds. Soon they are only going to be doing them in high-risk pregnancies and everyone else will have to find out when they are born.
Good luck to you, I don't think you are crazy at all, just making a choice.
2007-03-16 07:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by Mandy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm totally with you! I, for one, have always loved surprises so I wanted to wait (my hubby agreed). Some people have been supportive of our decision, but a lot of people are angry about it! They act like we're putting them out - we've been getting a lot "how do I know what to buy the baby" crap. My answer has always been to buy gender neutral/unisex things, which is what we prefer anyway. And then everyone tells us "don't you want to plan" and they make it sound like we're already awful parents...I just ignore them and enjoy my pregnancy and anxiously await. We've also discussed all the important gendery things too, such as circumcision. Plus...it's fun to try to guess the sex!
2007-03-16 07:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by poohb2878 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We did not find out with our first kid and are not going to with our second either. We did not miss anything or have any problems. I did feel a little strange sometimes since everyone else had found out, but I have also heard of three cases where the ultrasound was wrong about the gender. So that makes me feel like not finding out is the better option.
2007-03-16 08:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by growing inside 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have friends doing this now. Only downside (for them) is that they're "absolutely certain" of the baby's sex and have bought all gender specific items. I hope they're right. They told us they wanted to wait because it will be like Christmas. Guess what? On the day of our ultrasound (for my last pregnancy) it was like Christmas then too. Different strokes for different folks. I don't see why some people view finding out the sex of your baby as a bad thing. Its nice to be able to call baby by name. Good for you if that's your decision. I just hope you aren't the kind to look down on others for finding out. Best of luck!
2007-03-16 07:41:27 · answer #6 · answered by duckygrl21 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I intend on waiting, Ive been told I will have a girl first by several people though, but I intend on doing the decorating and shopping in colors that aren't to bold in Girl or Boy. I love the really pale green color and yellow colors , but I don't know what else you need to think about, I haven't talked about circumcision with my husband to much maybe we should do that.
2007-03-16 08:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by Tito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not crazy at all, I think it is awesome for the parents to wait. I wanted to know the sex the second I found out I was pregant, so I really give it up to people who can wait. I think that is great! Congrats and you will be so excited when you have it, it will be the best day of your life!!!
2007-03-16 08:18:48 · answer #8 · answered by 1st time momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We waited with my son (20 months old) and are waiting to find out until birth with baby #2 due in Oct. Everyone thought we were crazy. We were asked "don't you want to get the room all done in the color and buy all the clothes?" We really weren't that "had to done all before the baby came". And we got loads of clothes from people after our son was born so he wasn't naked. And it was more exciting then, to tell people the baby came, its boy, we named him blah blah, blah. My friend found out with her first. They told her it was boy. She got everything ready, nursery all in blue, boy type everything. And she had a girl. I know that is only one person but I want that type of surprise for me. And I get it at every labor since we don't find out.
2007-03-16 07:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by Jamie S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a five year old and I found out what she was going to be. I also have a 3 year old. I tried to find out, but she was not going to let anyone see. Anyway, I did not know her sex until she was born. I would have to say that it was more exciting not knowing. I'm not having any more children, but if I was I would not want to know the sex.
I don't think you are crazy.
2007-03-16 07:41:32 · answer #10 · answered by SAMMY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋