Well Im pregnant with my first baby..Me and my boyfriend do not want to find out the sex of our first born until the delivery day. But Ive been thinking alot about if the baby is a girl. Just to let you know this is a serious question not a joke and im not a teen just playing around on here. Im 24 years old. But anywho I have been thinking alot about if we do have alittle girl that im the only one that I want to give her a bath. I am so scared with all these stories on the news of molestation, and all these things happening to little girls out there. I dont want to offend my boyfriend because he is the father of the baby, and I dont have a doubt in my mind that he is going to be an amazing father..and would never do anything to hurt his child. But I just keep having these thoughts in the back of my head as no one else gives her a bath besides me. I dont want to take a chance. Is it that im just being to protective. Has any other mothers been protective like this over there child.?
2007-03-16 07:25:26 · 45 answers · asked by Time H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
This is honestly the first time I have heard someone have this fear with the father of the child. You trust him, yet you don't. If you tell him, he has every right to be mad. Why don't you work yourself up to the point. At first, be the only one to bathe the baby, but have him there if he so chooses. Then let him to the baths, but be there to watch. But do you think baby girls are the only targets for these sick people? Baby boys are in the same category. Sick people target both genders, not just one. You need to think long and hard on this issue before you ruin your relationship with the fears. You have every right to be protective, you just might be going about it the wrong way.
2007-03-16 07:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if after you had the baby, it turned out to be a boy and your boyfriend wouldn't let you bathe him?
I think you're being a little too overprotective, and if that's really what you think of your boyfriend then you know - that says it all! If it isn't then I am sure your boyfriend must be at least acutely insulted by this.
Also, think before you say that. It's going to be a lot of work having a child, and if you're the one that has to bathe (the possible) her all the time then I don't know, it might just get annoying.
This is your choice. I think you should let him father the child as normal, be it a girl or a boy.
MaybeLater_x
2007-03-16 07:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by Deconstitutionalization 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I understand your concerns. You are bringing a new life into the world and you want to protect it. Here is something to keep in mind: pedophiles do not target just little girls, they'll go for little boys (including babies) too. If you sincerely feel that there is a chance that your child could be abused by someone, you shouldn't leave her/him with that. What could stop him from "giving your daughter a bath" when you go to the grocery store or take a nap. You can't watch your child 24/7 so you have to make sure you have the safest most trustworthy network you can. Once you have your baby, your women's intuition will tell you if you're safe leaving your child with your boyfriend, in-laws, etc. But it's not fair to suspect something of someone who is undeserving: like suspecting that your boyfriend may be a pedophile.
2007-03-16 07:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had two boys and two girls. Yes I did think the same type of things. I was able to be a stay at home mom so not too many people were with my children alone. It's OK if it works. Some time we have to leave our children, just make sure you know who you are leaving them with. As far as the father goes , give him a chance. He will probably be as protective as you. It's not too overly protective to want to protect your child. If you can stay at home do. Don't worry about when it will happen, just do all you can to see to it it doesn't. You can only do so much. Good luck with the new baby, I am sure it will be fine. You are a caring mother and that is where it starts.
2007-03-20 06:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by surfmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was pregnant with my son I was worried about changing his diaper and that I would feel weird since I'm a girl and he's a boy and that it would be wrong for me to change his diaper. But after I had him 3 months ago all that went away and I change his diaper and don't even give it a second thought. Maybe after the baby comes you will feel differently and decide you want the father to help. Sorry I can't be of more help.
2007-03-16 07:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by shelly690269 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's your hormones on a rampage right now ... if you are certain that your BF will be a good father, then you will want him to experience everything with you - including giving your beautiful baby girl a bath. Besides, you are gonna be SO tired sometimes, you're gonna need to know he knows how to take care of the baby while you nap or whatever. But it's cool that you are already concerned about the baby. Talk to your BF, that may also ease your fears.
2007-03-16 07:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by georgiagrits1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are pregnant hormones and fears often get carried away. I dont think that it would be fair to your boyfriend to say I only give her a bath, what if it is a boy and he felt that way towards you? I would make sure that I was present at bath time as much as possible, that way you see how the baby acts normally and will be able to pick up on anything abnormal going on. I was scared to let my hubby bathe my son at first, but it was just because I didnt think he knew what he was dong. I just stuck by really close and popping in on them alto until I felt comfortable. Just relax, because as moms, we can come up with all kinds of dangerous possibilities. These are normal feelings of fear, that are there to keep us on our toes.
With that being said.......if this continues and gets more prevalent, you might have been a victim while growing up and this is your minds way of bringing it back. People suppress memories that are not bearable when you are young that come back in the weirdest ways. You may want to seek help with dealing with this if you think it is more of a memory than a worry.
2007-03-16 07:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by tryin4freedom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you'd worry about it if you trust the babies father, you should have no doubts. Besides, giving them a bath isn't the only time kids are molested. Unless you plan to be with the baby constantly, you're gonna have to leave her alone with someone sometime and the father has a right to be with his daughter.
2007-03-16 07:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by Ya Ya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a great mom thinking of your Babbie's welfare.
The world is a twisted and dark place where many bad things happen.
BUT, just because you've heard stories that's NO REASON to think bad about your boyfriend.
Not everything you hear in the news happens in your life. I'd be more concerned if she has to go to daycare.
Tell your boyfriend how your feeling. I'm sure he'll comfort and reassure you he's not an evil man.
2007-03-16 07:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well coming from a mother that just had a lil girl. I was worried about that too but at first you might need his help giving her a bath because most babys move so much when u give them a bath. You would be right there and be watching everything that will be going on. And if he is anything like my husband, he would kill any one that could ever hurt her.
2007-03-16 07:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by MILF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋