I'm not going to pull out my religion here, So please do not attack me on that. Do not call me close minded or selfish.
I do not mind people being gay or bisexual. I have a best friend who is bisexual and I know a few gay men and woman. I do not believe in gay marriage, but my question is not about that.
I have a younger sister who is not much over the age of 12. She has friends who are "bisexual" and I use quotes because of their age. I didn't want to believe it at first, but soon after, my sister told me she was that way too. She has a lot of influence from her own mother and friends to be this way.
Could this just be a phase?
Am I wrong to think she is wrong?
But not think my friend who is bisexual is wrong?
Should I be more accepting of it, or is it okay for me to push her away more because of what I believe in?
2007-03-16 07:22:35 · 11 answers · asked by abbyge 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She's being influenced by her friends, stop her from meeting them.
2007-03-16 07:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by soroush_1363_ss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't push her away she is your little sister, a lot of us have mixed up feelings about it. One of my best friends is gay, I don't hang around her much because she lives so far away, and once made an off the cuff remark to her. I said that her and her girlfriend could come to my home and stay, but they could not sleep together in front of my child as a couple. I think here again, we are doing something that started as a good thing. People that are homosexual really are that way and they can't help it if you beat them they would still be that way, so it is not fair to mistreat them for it. They would still do it no matter what, so because we wanted to get people to understand that and be more accepting of people that are actually gay we needed a big political base. So it had to become popular. Now it is peer pressure to do it and be like that and be accepting of it and become it. That is not what it started out as at all. I don't know how to answer these kinds of questions, I think that we need to look at the why's and the what's and the what ifs and we need to learn more and have some understanding? I don't know? I want to add that I know this guy named Johnny and he called himself Valerie, this was before this was all popular, but if he trusted you he would tell you and he would do other little girlish things around you. He was tortured and made fun of by some people for this, that was not nice. I didn't understand and would sometimes make fun of him myself, not as much as others behind his back, but I feel bad about that now, of course it was twenty something years ago and I did not know then what I know now either. Nor was I as mature in my own thinking.
2007-03-16 14:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by Friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are wrong at all, when its a fmily member you take it differently than a friend. First of all i think that this is probably a phase, if she is saying that other friends are bisexual then she may just be saying this to fit in. i wouldn't stress too much about this. give her space and don't jump on her for saying that she is bisexual.
jsut let her deal with it on her own and try nt to worry too much about it.
2007-03-16 14:28:33 · answer #3 · answered by danielley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is twelve and I think she is too young to choose her sexual orientation. I believe she is only telling you that she is bisexual because her friends are saying that they are. She wants to be part of the clique...Don't worry too much about it since this is definitely a passing phase.
2007-03-16 14:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey loook she is family and at a young age she is feeling like she has to do this to fit in. Kids learn by listening or seeing . Talk to her some more and see if she reallly is bisexual. ask her some questioins about what made her think she is. She don't need thart friend if she got to be like her.
2007-03-16 14:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by yolanda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are confusing influence with support. maybe they don't judge her and they are letting her find herself as far as sexually and by that you think it is encouragement. maybe it is a phase and maybe it isn't and that is kool either way! i think even though you know gay, bi you still might b a lil uncomfortable with the whole thing and that my dear is a problema that you are going to have to come to terms with if you want to be close to your sis and keep your friends!!
2007-03-16 14:29:24 · answer #6 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be following her friends or it could be simply puberty causing these feeling. For some reason it happens to a lot of us when we go through puberty. Look at site below for details.
2007-03-16 14:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a phase. Ask her if it's really who she is, or if it's just because all of her friends are like that.
2007-03-16 14:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by I'm Here To Help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt push her away because u dont think its right. esp since its ur SISTER! try to talk to her. she is young and since she has friends who are maybe she thinks she is. its probably just a phase but if its not and she really is your going to have to accept it.
2007-03-16 14:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ur sister is young so she hsa her whole life 2c what is her sexual prefeses right now she is still tring 2 find herself so 4 now let her be when she is ready i mean ready i mean really ready n when u r ready 2 ask her again bout ther sexualilty u both will know wuz up so let be n let her find herself shes still young
2007-03-16 14:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋