nothing but, love for me ? do he really love me?
2007-03-16 07:18:57 · 36 answers · asked by phillygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO. If he loved you he would be with you not just poking you.
He already has someone he loves and he committed his life TO THEM.
You need a good helping of self respect - If he's willing to cheat WITH you - he's willing to cheat ON you.
2007-03-16 07:21:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
First of all in being his mistress you are second in his life remember that. He may care about you somewhat, but he loves his wife and children and they will always be first in his heart and mind. When it comes to his sexual desires, he uses you to fullfill his needs giving you the same line that married men have given their mistresses for thousands of years. So, if you want a special man to love you unconditionally and tell you he loves you with an open heart, get out of the relationship now and move on. You know this relationship is a dead end don't you? Stop fooling yourself. If you don't wake up and realize you are #2 and will always be. Don't let him give you the typical snow job lies of his wife doesn't understand him, she is not good in bed, etc...the whole nine yards.He is a cheater and if it isn't with you, it will be with another mistress.Get rid of him, and start your life over before he takes the best years of your life and then you will be a woman in her 40's or 50's with no children and totally alone. Don't let that happen. I've seen that too many times happen to people I know.
2007-03-16 07:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to be someones mistress, you should not even think about love. It was your choice to be his toy. Of course he has Nothing but love for you, you allow him a fantasy world away from his real life, and it's exciting, but he doesn't love you, he loves his wife, that's why he's married to her. And he probably wouldn't even consider a relationship with you if he and his wife did separate, because most men don't want woman that allow them to use them and have no self respect, don't get me wrong, they will use them as long as they can, but when it comes to something serous, a mistress is a mistress, not serious material.
2007-03-16 07:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by coffee_inthe_evening 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the mistress and unless you enjoy a fake relationship with a man unwilling and having no intentions of committing anything to you I'd get out. He'll never love you. You honestly just a f*** to him. You need to find an unattached man they aren't as painful.
Don't believe his lies honey and if he's cheating on his wife even if he were to leave her for you he'd just do the same thing again.
You can guarantee that all of the bull**** that he's been telling you is ALL lies. Be smart he's using you and you are worth so much more I don't care what anyone says.
I hope you make the right decision ditch him Babe give yourself a chance at real happiness.
I have to disagree with alot of people on this one.
He doesn't love you or his wife or he wouldn't be cheating!!!
HE LOVES ONLY HIMSELF!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-16 07:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mistress? As in your seeing a married man?
Unfortunately, I learned all I needed to know about married men who fool around on their wives the hard way. I can tell you that this man does not love you. All he cares about is himself and he's extremelly selfish. A man that loved you wouldn't be married and a respectable man wouldn't be cheating on his wife to begin with. He certainly has no respect for her either. Is this really the type of person you want to be with?
Break it off with him, grow some self-esteem, go back to school and learn proper English and start setting your standards higher. You'll find yourself a decent guy by becoming a decent girl.
2007-03-16 07:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by No name 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I have to disagree with most of these answers. Just because she's seeing a married man doesn't make her a whore or stupid. And just because he's married doesn't mean he can't have feelings for someone other than his wife. I know we would all like to believe that once you get married you're no longer attracted to other people, but unfortunately it's doesn't work that way. Getting married doesn't instantly kill your attraction to the opposite sex. I know many couples who don't even like each other but have stayed unhappily married. Maybe he's not happy with his wife. Maybe the wife won't give him a divorce. Maybe the wife knows he's cheating and doesn't care. Or maybe he IS a lying, sleaze who's cheating on a devoted wife. But who knows? And who are we to judge? Every situation is different. But I will agree that if he doesn't care enough to use the L word in the right context...... he's probably not someone you want to count on for the long haul.... even if he wasn't married. And I sincerely hope that you don't consider this man to be YOUR man.... because when its all said and done .... he leaves you ALONE AND LONELY... to go home to her.
2007-03-16 08:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He doesnt love you, hes using you for a little excitement on the side. He has a wife, why would you possibly want that man to love you? Go find a nice single guy who doesnt have a wife or gf at home and try to fall in love with him
2007-03-16 07:39:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess it depends on the man.
I am too seeing a married man for the past year and he's een seperated now for 5 of those months.
True, its alot cheaper to keep things as they are now because he has 25 years invested with her and as they say " it is cheaper to keep her." I dont feel that I am his toy and he has expressed his love to me.
Regardless, don't feel bad. It took my man about 6 months to finally express that he truly did love me.
I know that his children come first, even though they are all adults; but I chose to be in this relationship.
I guess its how you can accept it and how much feelings you have for him.
The way I see it, yes my man can easily go back to his wife at anytime; but Im the one he's going to long for and Im the one he wants...
2007-03-16 10:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by daddiesgirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're his mistress and I am assuming here that he is married. So why would he say he loves you when he has a wife? Face it, he doesn't love you,
2007-03-16 07:22:55 · answer #9 · answered by Miss J 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Men seldom love their mistress. To most men, a mistress is a sexual sideline from the real world and not someone that they love.
2007-03-16 07:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
UMM... HONEY, FIRST OFF, PLEASE RESPECT YOURSELF ENOUGH TO GO AND FIND YOUR OWN MAN.. WHY WOULD YOU WANT SOMEONE ELSES SECONDS... ,.... HE HAS TO BE A PIECE OF S#!T TO BE DOING WHAT HE IS DOING WITH YOU IF HE HAS SOMEONE, ALSO..NO.. HE LOVES WHAT HE'S GETTING FROM YOU..NOT YOU. I HAVE NEVER BEEN THE OTHER WOMAN IN A RELATIONSHIP, BUT FROM WHAT MEN WHO HAVE CHEATED TELL ME, THEY KNOW ALL THE OTHER WOMAN WANTS IS A COKE AND A SMILE, BECAUSE IF THEY WANTED MORE, THEY WOULD NOT BE PUTTING THEMSELVES IN THAT POSITION TO BE THE WOMAN ON THE SIDE, THEY WOULD MAKE SURE THEY ARE THE MAIN DISH. THEY WOULD GET A MAN WHO HAS NOONE ELSE BUT THEM. MEN KNOW IF A WOMAN ALLOWS HERSELF TO BE THE MISTRESS.. SHE HAS NO RESPECT OR LOVE FOR HERSELF.. SO WHY WOULD HE HAVE ANY FOR YOU?
2007-03-16 07:29:09 · answer #11 · answered by candyred1999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋